Hey everyone, I'm Andrew Quo and uh, I consider myself to be an optimist. I take a lot of
pride in the fact that when bad things happen, I feel like I handle it pretty well.
and that's why today's video
is weird for me, because I'm gonna be focusing
on all the things I consider to be deal-breakers. These are the things that girls do, that honestly
just confirm to me that they're not people I want to date.
And it's not even necessarily because being
or doing any of the things I'm gonna mention make you a bad person, it's just not something
I like. A lot of these point are things that I know other guys agree with, but at the same time,
Every guy's completely different. I'm sure that there are guys out there
with a list that's the total opposite of this one, but this isn't their list.
Anyways, here's 10 of my biggest turn offs. leggo-
1- people who make excuses for everything. I just hate when people can't take responsibility
for things. Like if you don't show up somewhere when you're supposed to, or if you don't
do some homework you were assigned and it's always for one weirdly convenient reason or
anything, at a certain point your excuses- which might not even be lies, just don't matter.
if you need something to get done, you'll find a way. showing up and complaining about
how unlucky you are just, doesn't help anybody.
2- flaking. basically people who consistently commit to plans and always seem to have to
back out for one reason or another. This applies to friends just as much as it does significant
others, cause I have this one friend who does this so much that whenever they say they're
gonna show up somewhere, I roll my eyes and just assume they won't. If they do I'm pleasantly
surprised, but I'm trying to get a realistic head count here, and it just drives me up
the wall when they tell me they're for sure coming, and 10 minutes before our plans I
get a text saying that something "came up"
3- girls who don't communicate well. I'm a pretty social person, but I feed off energy.
if every thing I say feels like I'm hitting a brick wall of boredom, I'm gonna not wanna
be in that conversation for very long. Again, this
one also just applies to friends of mine as well. some of my friends are so engaged in
conversations with me that it sounds like we're just
yelling at each other. but that's what I do sometimes, and if you're a lot quieter then
I'm not gonna be able to be.. who I am.. around you.
4- people who constantly want to hang out- it's not even about who you
are or anything, I just need some me time, and too much time spent with ANYONE gets really
exhausting for me. For new years I went to montreal with
a group of 10 friends, and we all shared this little apartment off airbnb and it was such
tight quarters and after the first two or three days
it got cramped fast. I was SO so happy to get home and finally have a bed to myself.
5- people who are rude to waiters or staff. to me that has to be one of the most disgusting
qualities someone can have.
but just in general, seeing you treat me one
way, and then someone else completely differently, it just.. makes me question what you're
really like when you're not trying to impress someone, you know? And usually people who
yell or are rude to servers are doing it for reasons that isn't even the servers fault.
Like damn, this persons coming to you to tell you somethings
totally out of their hands, and they gotta deal with you yelling at them? people in food
or retail really don't get paid enough for that.
6- girls who need to drink to have fun. There was a girl that I met who seemed really cool,
our first date was in the evening at this spot that wasn't a bar, but it did sell alcohol,
so i didn't really think too much about it when
she had a couple beers, but by the second date I started to realize everytime this girl
goes out, she needs to drink. She called herself a
"high functioning alcoholic" and while she was really cool and easy to talk to, that's
just drunk her. I don't know what sober her is like. And that's a problem to me, cause
I have most of my fun sober.
and I'm a big believer that you are who you surround yourself
with, and I really don't wanna be that.
7- Gossipers. Basically, girls who
make fun of everyone behind their back. It seems kind of like harmless fun, but right
after I walk away I don't wanna have to worry about you
making fun of me.
I like to surround myself with people that are nice
and genuine cause if you're a girl that I'm dating or even just a friend, I wanna be able
to trust you. And being mean does not help that cause.
8- Girls who keep secrets. Honestly this one might just be about me, cause realistically,
there's nothing wrong with keeping secrets. I don't do it. I'm an open
book, and if we're dating or friends it means that
you probably know everything going on in my life. It's almost a problem, because sometimes
I share too much with people I might not know well
enough, but that's who I am.
I'm gonna share, and if you don't share back, that's a little one-sided.
I just, can't really keep my own secrets. I like to get opinions on stuff, and talk about it.
I'm weird.
9- girls who are not self-sufficient. Again, more of a me problem. If you have people cleaning
up after you, or cooking your meals, or buying you things you need, it just means that we're
on different wave-lengths. Maybe it's not a deal-breaker, but
it shows we have really different values. I moved out of my mom's place the day I turned
19 because she mothered me. And I love her, but I needed
to learn to cook, and clean, and do laundry and things that I just couldn't bring myself
to do as long as I lived with her. And that meant for
a good couple months, really just eating ramen noodles and scrambled eggs, but over time
I learned and there's probably not a single choice I've made in my life since then that
I've been more proud of.
10- girls without character. There is billions of people out there, and everyone has something
that makes them different. Some people are just able to show who they are better than
others.
You're not any less of a person or in any
way inferior to everyone else, it's just harder to
show your personality like that. I'm kind of loud and obnoxious, so if I were dating
someone, I guess I'd just rather not be the loud an obnoxious half of the relationship.
I think I might actually be down to try being the quieter
half for a change. can you imagine how annoying of a couple we'd be? ugh. but at the same
time... mmm.
Anyways that was just a few things that seriously grinds my gears. I hope that you enjoyed this
video cause I sure enjoyed making it. If you did, give it a thumbs up to let me know,
it goes a lot longer of a way than you might think. But i wanna hear what turns you all
off? Ground rules. There will be no judgement in the comments, cause anything that you find
unattractive is your right to have. everyone has their own taste, and I wanna hear your
in the comments below. Unless it's horribly racist or homophobic or something. you can
keep those to yourself. ANYWAYS, have you subscribed
to me yet? Cause if you haven't you're really missing out. I mean, I do make videos every
thursday, and I might be able to keep that up.
The only way to find out for sure is to hit that subscribe button so you never miss one. and I guess
with all that being said, I'll see you guys next week?!