How to tell if she's cheating
My name is Coach Natalie and this is HAPPILY COMMITTED. And this is a project
that my amazing partner Coach Adrian and I developed for all of you there at
home to help you coach yourselves to stay HAPPILY COMMITTED in your
relationship. This site is dedicated to providing really cool preventative and
proactive tools and tips that you can use to stay together. I've dedicated my
life before this chapter toward breakup recovery. I know all the ins and outs of
what prompts breakups what drives them how to save them how to fix them you
name it I've done it I have thousands of hours under my belt in that specific
arena. And if there's one thing I can tell you that helps with breakup
recovery is preventing the break-up. So trying to find ways to save your
relationship while you're still in it is always gonna be the best approach in
wanting and securing a long-term happily committed relationship with the person
that you love the very most. In this video I want to talk about the signs
that she might be cheating. So I want to preface this video by saying that a lot
of these signs are applicable to a lot of other situations. These are signs that
might suggest that she's cheating but they are not signs that mean 100% that
she is. And I think it's so important for you as the viewer before you approach
your woman about whether or not she is cheating make sure you know what it is
that you're approaching them about what you're accusing them of because it's a
really major massive relationship straining accusation if it is not true.
So first things first do not let your emotions get the best of
you now. If you are stressed if you are worried breathe take a run before you
pick up the phone or knock on the door and make a decision to accuse someone of
something that might not be true because it will definitely impact the quality of
your relationship. Now that I've said this I do want to reveal signs that
based on my coaching experience has helped clients
understand or observe whether or not their partner may be cheating
Sign number one, if your partner is cheating, if she's cheating she is
avoiding spending time with you. She is no longer interested in joint activities.
She would rather spend time doing her own thing.
She might, going into sign number two, be very very overly detailed about how
she's spending her time. She might give you such specific instructions as to
what she's doing and who she's spending it with that it's almost unusual how
clear and communicative she is about how she's spending her time, almost as if she
doesn't want you to have any room to question. Or the opposite side of this
sign is she doesn't give a hoot about what you think she's doing. She's out
she's busy she is dancing she's hanging with girlfriends she's coming home late
later than maybe she told you she would. She's no longer mindful of her time and
she's not mindful of whether or not it impacts your experience in this
relationship at all. So the two sides of sign number two are things to look out
for. Either she's so overly communicative about what she's doing that it seems
unusual or she's not communicative at all and she's just not around
She's avoiding physical intimacy. Now again like I mentioned in the very
beginning of this video a lot of these signs can mean other things, right? That
doesn't mean that she's automatically cheating.
But if you are used to having a certain amount of physical intimacy or if the
relationship was already strained - maybe her work to life balance is off, maybe
she's going through something and you were already not having physical
intimacy - but now no matter how you hard you try even if it's just giving her a
kiss on the cheek as she walks in the house, she's ducking your face, that is a
sign that she might be cheating
Sign number three. She's really protective of her phone, of her things.
She does not want you on her computer she does not want you on her phone she
tilts the screen when she's on it she changes her passwords she's logging out
of accounts. Frustratingly enough that is definitely a sign that there's something
hide - that there's something to hide there. She's protecting something. We
can't guarantee what that is but if she's so adamant about you not knowing
and she's unwilling to share this with you
sounds to me like she might be cheating. Again when it comes to cheating it's
also important to recognize that cheating is a very relative idea and I'm
gonna be recording a video after this one two really dives into infidelity
specifically but infidelity has so many different characteristics depending on
who you ask. For many emotional infidelity is cheating. So if she's just
having a lot of conversations with other men, if she's having a lot of other
conversations that are regarding topics or information that you would find
inappropriate or unjust and she's hiding it, many viewers might be saying, "Okay
well in my book that's cheating. No other way to slice it." So if she's really
protective of her time really protective of her phone really protective of her
things that may mean depending on your version of infidelity that she is being
unfaithful to you
My fourth sign and final tip that might help you determine if she's cheating is
your gut. You are in this relationship, you've invested countless hours maybe
months maybe years maybe decades into this woman. You know her you know the way
she behaves you know her triggers you know the do's
you know that don'ts you know your love. And if your gut your instinct is saying
something smells off something's not working that is definitely a sign that
she might be cheating or up to something that you would not be very happy about.
Now when it comes to instincts we often confuse our instincts for our
insecurities and in the very beginning of this video I mentioned that just
because you're noticing something doesn't mean you immediately and
impulsively act on it. Just because your gut is telling you right now, "Hey I think
she's cheating," doesn't mean you pick up the phone and bombard her, it does not
mean you accuse her. Make sure you are removing or divorcing your instincts
from your insecurities because your insecurities often mask themselves as
your instincts. Be mindful get to know yourself know what drives you. If you are
someone who often feels like trust is on the verge of breaking if you are someone
who often feels like all your partners are cheating on you because once upon a
time some mean mean person you dated mistreated you and led you to believe
that relationships are not good experiences, that doesn't mean your
partner now is cheating. So make sure you're being transparent with yourself,
make sure you're spending enough time marinating on this possibility before
you introduce it or accuse them of it being a reality because if there's one
thing I can tell you about all my years of relationship coaching they say you
can't unsay things like this you can't undo or take back these accusations and
if my boyfriend approached and accused me of cheating and I wasn't
it would be something that would be very hard for me to get over. It would be
something that I wouldn't forget and so before you introduced this variable this
big question mark into your relationship make sure you are sure make sure that it
does come from your gut and not from your insecurities or fear that you are
not worthy of being with an amazing woman who isn't gonna cheat on you.
If you feel like there are other signs you're seeing if you feel like there are
other things that are making you question whether or not she is cheating
on you I want to know about it. I invite you to leave a comment under this video.
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