Why do rich attractive men end up going sometimes for plain looking women.
Now I'm going to really investigate this mystery and really find out exactly how it works and
why these men end up choosing these women.
But on top of it the big question will still remain.
Should we as aspiring women who want to level up.
Should we just put the whole level up on hold because clearly plain women also have a
chance?
Let's find out in today's video.
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First things first, girls.
Why do rich men choose plain looking women?
Now we first have to understand that this is not the most common practice.
Majority of the times rich men afford to be selective so they usually end up going for
more beautiful women.
That is usually the norm.
However you do have a smaller group of rich attractive men who do go for and
more plain looking, more simple women.
In some cases even unattractive women.
Now unattractiveness is of course related.
There are no women who are actually ugly.
It's just that we have particular beauty standards set and I am generalizing it and talking about
what's conventional beauty. And when people go against the conventional beauty norm, then
that's kinda what we're investigating here.
Now secondly, you all know that I always say that the world is very multifaceted, three
dimensional, people are different.
There isn't one-size-fits-all approach and that is exactly the case in this situation
as well.
So there isn't just one reason to why rich attractive men choose a plain looking woman.
There are many reasons to that.
And you have to look at the man in deeper picture.
You have to look at his character, his current situation, his age, his culture, his upbringing.
So the first thing that comes to my mind and actually other people's minds as well when
we discuss this topic, is how insecure the man is.
You see many men just as women can be insecure and I think it's a little bit of a myth that
women are more insecure than men.
Actually if you look around you will see that many men have a lot of insecurities.
It's just that they don't really express these insecurities verbally as much as women do.
So these insecurities often go unnoticed but they still exist.
Now in this case a man's insecurities can affect this case in two different ways.
Now the first way, a man who is very insecure about himself might not realize actually what
a catch he is.
He might think that he's not attractive, although he's handsome, he's rich, and all woman will
die to be with him but he just doesn't know it.
He can't see it.
He devalues himself meaning he also devalues kind of his criteria is for one he's looking
for a partner.
Usually when we search for a partner we search for somebody who is kind of within our own
league.
So in this case a man would go below his league because he thinks that he belongs in the lower
leagues.
Now the different parts of an insecure man choosing a less attractive partner can actually
be for something that is more have to do with control.
A man who is very insecure with himself feels that he doesn't want to have a very attractive
partner because that makes him feel even more insecure.
So for him to be in control over his partner, he chooses a partner who is less attractive,
so that he feels more safe with her like this.
He knows that men are not going to be approaching her.
She's not going to cheat on him.
She's not going to just run off, so he can just relax and have a peace of mind.
You see a lot of people actually prefer this.
That is also a separate reason to why some men end up going for less attractive women
because they just want to play it safe.
As we're speaking about this whole control and insecurity issue that men have there is
actually a third very common reason. Now some insecure men have jealousy issues.
They might really feel like they have to have a woman who for sure is not going to run off, for sure
they have full control of, so that they can feel less jealous. Basically that controls
their own jealousy if they control the woman.
Now that start on insecurities we also have to understand that not everybody finds beauty
the same way.
There's actually been research done on this when they have showed all kinds of different
women two different men.
Men really disagree when it comes to beauty and looks of women. Some men can rate
a women, only give her one point, while another one will give her a five points.
And it does happen all the time.
Even the girls that are perhaps not conventionally beautiful, men would still rate them as like
ten out of ten.
You have to understand that not everybody thinks that Angelina Jolie is beautiful.
It's really just an individual preference and choice.
Some like oranges, some like apples. So a girl that is perhaps playing looking or unattractive
in some people's eyes, might be actually very attractive in this man's eye.
So if a man is with a plain Jane, he might not be seeing her as a plain Jane because
her appearance to him is very very attractive while to the rest of the world.
Nobody's understanding it.
And I think that in today's society with all beauty norms we have it's so hard to understand
and accept that this is how it is.
We really think that there is just one way and no other way.
And that's also what's causing us a lot of anxiety and why everybody ends up looking
the same way, which is a bit of a shame actually because there is something for everyone out
there and people do like it differently.
Even the rich men.
Now putting beauty a little bit aside. We also have to understand that
people have different preferences when they're looking for a partner, they might not be valuing
beauty as the number one. You might know that I speak quite a lot about the fact that, which
is a biological fact, that men tend to value beauty as their number one preference when
choosing a mate.
And women value all the financial material and status side of a man as the number
one.
And those are usually our differences.
However, we have to also accept the fact that not all men are equally made in terms of testosterone
in terms of how they are choosing a mate.
Not all men are obsessed about beauty and looks.
Majority of men are but not all of them.
So when we're seeing these couples, there are perhaps other things that this man finds sexy,
or turns him on, or he values, or he prefers in a partner.
Those things can be maybe assertiveness, or wisdom in a person, or intelligence, or how
she is as a caregiver, or how she's in bed.
I mean there are many reasons that make a person.
It's not only beauty and looks ,even though beauty and looks are important obviously because
humans are quite visual, but it's not everything.
And humans are multifaceted.
So there are so many sides to us that play an important role.
And some men just end up choosing those other sides and valued them higher than the actual
looks.
Another thing to think about, this is very common with the high society especially in
the old money or family money category of rich people.
I and many times have witnessed average women like plain Jane deluxe, you know, very unattractive
perhaps, is with a handsome man who comes from a very nice background, very rich and
very respected in the social scene.
And you're like sitting there wondering: "What went wrong here?!"
In the high society especially
with family money, old money families, the man of such upbringing would really value
other assets of a woman than necessarily her beauty.
His family might have educated as he was growing up that he has to find the woman for him obviously
who makes him happy and blah blah blah.
But a woman who comes from a well educated background perhaps, who comes from the perhaps
right family, or has a particular path in life.
So a wealthy man of that kind
will put that as his top preference when he's looking for a partner.
And the beauty aspect of it will come secondary.
I think all of you have heard about how timing is everything when it comes to finding a mate.
Did you know that actually to nail down a guy for a serious relationship or marriage
is usually just bound to timing?
Yeah.
Some people call it pure luck but its timing, really. It's hard especially these days to
nail down the guy and you know, to secure a guy. Because men have become extremely spoiled.
Men have many many options and women give it up too easy for men.
The roles have shifted dramatically in our modern society.
However, if you manage to catch a man in the moment where he's weak or vulnerable and you
manage especially to reach his heart during this time that's usually when you are securing
the guy.
So sometimes when these plain looking women.
They might have just secured the guy by timing because they were there at the right time
in the right moment.
Maybe being his friend.
Maybe dating him casually, and he was vulnerable.
He was weak.
Maybe there were things going on in his life. These women could have just been very lucky
that they caught him in that moment and they managed to hook him.
Regardless of how she looks like. There is one particular type of guy.
I know for a fact they are very common like in the model industry but you also have them
in the high society.
A guy who is obviously very good looking but who is tired of the superficiality around
his looks and maybe also tired about being a little bit objectified for his looks.
All the attention can sometimes drive a person sick of it and they want to do the opposite,
which is why I tend to call this guy 'the rebel of the looks'.
So he decides to find a partner based on other criteria is totally different from everything
that he has experience.
Now that goes a little bit hand in hand when you have the type
who is just tired of shallowness in general
They might not be so tired about all the fixation about their own looks but
they just want to have more depth into their life.
A lot of the times these guys have already dated like models,
I don't know, celebrities, they tried it all, and they realized that actually a lot of the
times all these beautiful girls are perhaps very self obsessed, very shallow, not very intelligent,
and just really obsessed about wealth and status.
So they end up wanting to have somebody who is more down to earth for that reason
these guys seek out women who are just a little bit less attractive, so that they feel they
are able to find that depth.
So lastly, there is one more category type of man that I've come across. And this type
of category I usually tend to stay away from it because I find them a little bit odd.
The guy who wants all the limelight on himself. Now this is usually the more narcissistic personality.
The guy who wants to be the center of attention.
Even in the relationship.
Now in most relationships we do understand that the woman is usually the center of attention.
The woman is the queen.
The woman is the one who carries the beauty.
That's why I find this category of man to be a little bit disturbing because he wants
to be the center of attention.
He's a proper attention seeker who either is so insecure that that's how he feels appreciated
and loved and he cannot share that spotlight with anybody else but himself.
That reason he chooses to get a less attractive woman so that all eyes can be on him.
Now I'm very curious girls sharing the common section let me know exactly what you think
around this topic.
Why do you think rich handsome men go for the plain looking woman.
Now I promise you to answer the very important question that I know a lot of ladies especially
in my own life finishing school are dying to find out.
So if I'm trying to level up should I just not bother?
If plain looking women can do it then why should I personally obsess so much about leveling up.
Clearly you can get by regardless.
My answer to this ladies is, the more you level up, the more opportunities you will have.
Yes, you should bother because the better your looks are, the more assets you will have.
Meaning that the more opportunities will land in your lap you will have a bigger selection
of men to choose from and you will have more benefits in the society because society tend
to be more rewarding to beautiful people.
That's just how it works.
I don't know why I did not create this rules but this is how it is.
So let's play by the rules in our benefit.
And that's basically what this is all about.
So I don't want you to take a step back now and relax with your looks.
I still want you to nurture yourself look your best especially so you can feel your best.
But most importantly, don't forget to level up all layers of yourself.
Not only the looks and if you're interested in levelling up and really have guidance and
direct coaching from my hand then join school of affluence dot com.
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