Hello there. There are moments in our lives where the circumstances of our lives are completely beyond our control
We're powerless to do anything to [alter] what's going on
These [are] some of the most painful times in our lives we [feel] absolutely powerless and absolutely desperate
our situation seems unsolvable
[but] unbearable
One minute life is normal and predictable and you feel like the master of your own destiny
And the next year world gets completely turned upside down
Most of us who are really suffering don't even realize that the real [reason] we feel so much pain is
Because this is the situation that we're in a situation where we feel like we [have] absolutely no control
Even situations that don't seem at face value like they would be about this can be about it for example
Let's say that somebody's made up their mind about you. They formed a negative opinion. There's nothing you can do to change their mind
What's so painful about that situation is that in that moment you are out of control?
First and foremost we have to ask ourselves honestly. What is so bad about being out of control?
What we might find is [that] if we're out of control means someone else is in control
That's all well and good if you're completely convinced that other people have your own best interests at heart and that the universe at large
Is there for your own good, but if you don't believe that?
like so many of us don't
Can you imagine the terror of your survival being in the hands of someone who doesn't have your best interests at heart?
bad luck is one form of feeling completely out of control of your reality if
Your version of being out of control
Takes the form of bad luck you feel as if the universe is against you and you are going to be prevented
From what you want a need?
To understand more about this conundrum [watch] my video on YouTube titled I can't trust the universe I feel like God is against me
You may be confused at this point because most likely you've been taught that you create your own reality
So how can it be true [that] I create my own reality?
But I'm also out of control of the circumstances of my life
Once something has become physically manifested
it means that the vibration of momentum was so intense that it has become a
physical thing and once that has happened
no amount of physical action you could ever take to control anything would ever make up for or even be enough to match the
Strength of the vibration that has caused that very manifestation
But here's the thing it's really tempting [especially] if you subscribe [to] the idea that you create your own reality
to think that if you line up with some sort of an unwanted
Manifestation, that you've failed or done something wrong. This couldn't be farther from the truth.
How do we know this? Because you know that something is supposed to be happening because it is happening.
Most of the enlightenment experiences that you see on the planet Earth
I mean most of the enlightened beings you see on the planet earth are that way because of the result of a negative manifestation.
so as far as expansion is concerned the things we line up with there are negative in nature are just as
Important just as critical in fact as the positive manifestations.
We do not create our reality
Consciously. even when people learn how to create the reality consciously the aspect of them that is subconscious is still usually so much larger
that for the most part humans subconsciously create their reality. This is fabulous if the subconscious mind is full of sunshine,
Gumdrops and roses, but often it isn't often it's full of painful beliefs fears and negative expectations
But I'm going to stress this again if you have lined up with a negative experience something that is unwanted you didn't do anything wrong
Your unconscious [mind] simply created something in your reality that is there for the benefit of your own expansion
To understand more about this. I want you to watch my video on YouTube [titled] the meaning of pain
It does absolutely no good to think I create my own reality when we've lined up with something super painful.
I'm going to say this again and put it in another way.
It does absolutely no good when you tell someone who's suffering that they created it because they create their own reality.
This does nothing but add insult to injury.
It also isn't entirely true. If we were
100% deliberately consciously creating, no one on Earth would choose to create painful situations for themselves.
So it's a much better idea when we've lined up with a painful situation that feels out of our control that we begin to look
at the situation as if whatever is happening is supposed to be happening because it's happening
So what exactly should we do if we find ourselves in a circumstance that is completely beyond our control?
Step one when we feel out of control we feel powerless
When we try to take action to control from this space of powerlessness? We only wind our [way] deeper and deeper into despair and powerlessness
Literally the second you feel bad about something to the degree that you want to control it [you] are feeling despair and so those lower
Vibrational feelings are what you're a match to this means any and all action taken from these lower vibrational places will yield negative
results results that in fact reinforce the despair
We are using control to resist the powerlessness and whatever we resist persists
So, what should we do when we feel out of control?
quite counter intuitively
We have to give up control completely. This means we have to get in the back seat of life and just let it take us.
Kind of like you let the current in a river just take you downstream. I'm asking you to consciously give up.
This is the art of surrender.
You can't let go and allow thereby releasing all resistance as long as you are seeking control
So cut your losses be prepared to start over from scratch completely change is needed
It's a bit like a bigger scale version of being willing to completely accept you're at square one all over [it] again
Rebuilding your house of cards from nothing you can't start building again until you stop resisting the fact that it is fallen
Spend time in this space of total surrender to the universe at large until that no longer feels like relief and then
you may be ready to move forward.
Step two. We need to set our momentum on the right course
negative things manifest in our reality when our momentum is going down a negative course and
That momentum has built up, so speed that [there's] no real way of stopping that vibration
So what we have to do is to create a [positive] vibration and create the momentum behind that
To the degree that that is the thing [that] is unstoppable [in] our current life
There is a huge difference between control and empowerment
ControL and the Desire to control is an ego Construct
It is the byproduct of fear it only ever comes from and leads to disempowerment on
The entire opposite side of the vibrational scale is empowerment
Empowerment is about finding alignment in any small way that you can no matter how small or large
Once something is manifested. You cannot control it
You cannot control your government your partner the weather your children other people's opinions of you and the list goes on
But you can take little steps to make yourself feel just a little bit better and a little bit better
You can find thoughts that feel better to think you can curl up with a [hot-water] bottle you can seek solace in other people
the point is in our lives most of us we look out at the
Circumstances of our lives and we try to alter those because it's so obvious [that] if those things out there
Just change we might feel better, but that's the state of disempowerment to the external reality
What we can do instead is to realize that the one form of empowerment
We do have is to take control over our internal reality over the way we feel
3 stop focusing on the choices that you do not have and focus instead on the choices that you do have
We may have absolutely no control over the external circumstances. That is absolutely true
But the one thing we may have is control over the way that we feel about what's happening in our reality, we
[may] have
absolutely no way of
Changing something that's happened, but we can deal with how we face it in now
We can't control how other people behave, but we can control how we react to them
When we feel powerless we slip into lack consciousness. We stop being able to perceive the power. We do have the opportunities
We do have in the resources that we do have
This is a little bit like being locked in a prison ten years and not even realizing that the door is open
When we are focused on the ways that we are limited
We cannot see the ways that we are unlimited that reality is so far away from us vibrationally
We couldn't even perceive it. If it was in front of our own face
We can only be aware of what we're a match to on a vibrational level
Play a Little game with yourself
Just for the heck of it in this current situation take all [of] your attention
Completely off of the things that you have no control over and place your attention instead on
Anything that you do have direct control over even the tiny little things
Now I'll give you a hint this particular game is what enables people to survive?
concentration Camps war imprisonment and
likewise
circumstances of total and complete captivity
For set small goals to accomplish and things to achieve and scratch them off your list every day
It doesn't matter how small or large these things are seeing that we have any
Impact on our reality is going to reinforce a state of empowerment within us
even if the smallest thing that [we] can have an impact on
Something like cleaning our house or our bathroom even an aspect of our house
Might just be enough
To cause us to feel as if we're not so completely out of control
[5] ask for help
sometimes when we are at our utmost
Powerless states it is an opportunity for a deepening on a spiritual level
Regardless of whether we are asking for help from a person or asking for help from the universe at Large?
The act of asking for help connects us to something that is greater than ourselves
But by surrendering to the help of this collectivity that is greater than ourselves we cannot be disempowered because we are indivisible from it
We are aspects of it
For help with this you may want to watch my videos on [YouTube] titled letters to God and does prayer work
6 find out what it is that you're really afraid of this situation
So often even though there are many circumstances that are truly beyond your control
So often when we think that we're completely out of control what's actually happened is that we have disempowered ourselves?
We are so afraid of something such as what someone else will do or say that we're telling ourselves
We have no choice when we do
We're kind of waiting [for] something outside of us to change so we [can] feel safe enough to take the action or say what feels?
right
But we're [just] completely unprepared
To face a consequence, so we've become paralyzed
Once we are prepared to face that consequence. We find we may no longer be stuck and powerless
7 regroup and reassess your genuine wants and needs
When you're in a situation that feels like it's completely out of your control
Especially when the situation that's out of your control [is] a complete life collapse
That's a wonderful opportunity to amend your desires, and you will be amending your desires over the course of your life
So don't think that it's any virtue to want the same thing for the duration of your life, or that wanting different things?
Means you somehow went wrong when our life has barreled out of control
We need to start over from scratch and only keep the elements of our current life that we genuinely want to keep
So ask yourself what do I really want and why do I want these things?
then start incrementally going in the direction of those newly assessed desires if
You are experiencing the loss of control in your whole life as a nervous breakdown watch the video on YouTube that I created titled
Nervous Breakdown
8 when you are struggling with feeling completely out of control in your reality
Then you can guarantee that you are dealing with uncertainty
For this reason I want you to watch my video on YouTube titled how to deal with uncertainty
Step 9
Love, love in any way that you can.
Appreciate anything you are capable of appreciating in your life
Feeling out of control is a state of fear. At all moments the day
we have a choice between love and fear. The opposite vibration of Fear is in fact love.
So we cannot love and fear at the same time.
Laughter is an expression of love, so even laughing at something totally unrelated to the thing we feel powerless about is an antidote to fear.
Focusing on someone else's problems out of love and care for them is an expression of love. This is an antidote to your fear.
Appreciating the smell of coffee grounds in your cup is love.
This is an antidote to fear. And in the absence of fear our world opens up to new possibilities.
Possibilities, which did not exist to us while we were in the vibration of fear.
Possibilities are the opposite of the trapped powerlessness that you feel. As
people we are rendered miserable by the fact that we are continually trying to control things that are completely beyond our control as
People we spend so much of our time trying to put milk back in a glass that has already shattered
It is understandable. Why we would do that
It's understandable when we're looking at a world where the [circumstances] external to us
Seem to [have] so much influence over the way that we feel. It's understandable
Why we would want to change those circumstances so as to feel better
But what we find is the more we do that. The more powerless. We become if you haven't noticed yet. [it] isn't [working]
So what we have to understand is that the iMmense?
Beauty that's inherent and being in a situation that is beyond our control is that in that moment we get to practice
the art of allowing in that moment we get to start over from scratch in that moment we get to feel the
Absolute Bravery inherent in choosing love over fear and we get to feel the
impenetrable strength of Conscious Surrender
Have a good week
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