what to do when you have people in your life who actually want you to fail
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more successful and as you start to get more and more of what you want and that
could be material objects or that could just be overall just being more
fulfilled and happier people in your life are going to start to notice and
what can be surprising for a lot of people is that the people you would
least expect are the ones who are most uneasy about this the ones who feel like
it's not right or that because they're not getting it as well or they're not
getting what they want or they're unhappy that you don't deserve it and
what can happen is that and a lot of times this is unconscious for them they
will actually try to get in your way they will try to sabotage you and this
may already be happening even if you're not getting what you want you're not
having the success that you want or achieving what it is that you want it
could be happening anyway because unfortunately people around us a lot of
times don't want us to rise above and I don't mean that in like a condescending
way like become better than them I just mean there are a lot of people who are
unsatisfied in life and if you've taken if you made the decision to develop
yourself to improve yourself so that you can improve your life and it's working
then these other people or might want to hold you back and hold you down because
they want you to stay like them misery loves company all of us have experienced
being hurt before and the natural reaction to that is to retaliate to hit
back or to hurt back whether that's with words or violently or however
my happen and for some of us we might act out passive-aggressively and we
might act out in ways that retaliates against the other person and they don't
even know who did it or what happened so what I'm going to tell you at this point
is if you're doing anything like that or if you're retaliating or you're thinking
of retaliating and you're consumed by these ideas of how to get back at
somebody stop let it go it's not helping you now don't get me wrong I'm not
saying you shouldn't stand up for yourself when something is occurring and
someone is doing something not nice to you or bad to you absolutely stand up
for yourself but a lot of times these things happen very quickly or it might
not even be a situation where it happens in front of you and the situation has
passed and especially if the situation has passed we'll let it go let go of
thinking about how you're gonna get your revenge let it go about how all the ways
that you could hit that person back or hurt that person back it's not certain
you let those feelings go it's tying up your emotional energy it's tying up your
focus it's taking away from attention that you could be giving to other things
I'm also not suggesting that you just suddenly suppress all of these feelings
yes it's normal to have these feelings of retaliation so accept that don't try
to just pretend like oh I'm better than that I shouldn't experience that except
that you're having that response and then think about where could you put all
of that focus of your attention and all of that energy toward the obvious answer
is to put it toward something you want put it towards something you love doing
something you enjoy doing now think about this what could be more effective
in retaliating against someone who's trying to sabotage your happiness in
your success then by being happy and successful that's not the reason why you
should pursue happiness and success you should have your own reasons for doing
that your own reasons for pursuing happiness and success and that should be
quite obvious at the same time if you're putting your energy there and you're
doing that and you're letting this other stuff go you're letting the revenge go
that other person seeing you being happy and successful that's the best
retaliation that's the best way to get back at them and again though be very
very careful that that's not that you're not driving your success in happiness
with that in mind so it's sort of like you let it go and it sort of does it
sort of takes care of that it sort of does what you want it to do anyway but
without focusing your energy and your attention there now some of you might be
thinking but they hurt me they harmed me and I'm justified in getting retaliation
I'm justified and hurting them back and I would say in a legal sense if they
legally harmed you so now then absolutely you there is a justice system
that we have in place to do that and yes you I would recommend that yeah if
there's a if there's legal recourse I'm not suggesting that you let that go you
it may be the right thing to do to pursue that but not for the reasons of
retaliation but for the reasons of justice for the reasons of you don't
want them to do this to anyone else and then they may owe you even some in some
respects or some situations they may actually owe you money if they damaged
you financially so I'm not suggesting that you let those things go let them go
on a personal level but if the proper way to to proceed there is a legal way
then by all means go ahead and do that but even so if you're doing that and
you're you're pursuing some sort of legal recourse that doesn't mean then
you have to be unhappy and hold a grudge while you go into that process
holding a grudge not forgiving someone these are all things that are going to
bind up your energy these are things that are gonna tie you up these are
things that are gonna keep you from being happy and they're going to limit
you so the best thing you can do is let them go and live your life to the
fullest be happy in spite of other people trying to bring you down there
will always be people who try to bring you down sometimes I create videos like
these and to me I'm putting forth the most positive message I'm putting
everything good into it and somebody gives me a thumbs down or somebody makes
this really nice comment and if I paid attention to all
that and if I got if that stuff kept me up at night then I wouldn't be able to
produce good videos I wouldn't get to live my life and do the things that I
want to do and be successful and be happy so I may respond to those but I
don't let them bother me I don't let them get in the way of what it is that I
do here the videos that I'm creating here or the life that I want to live
this might not be easy for you this isn't easy for a lot of people it's not
as easy as just saying let it go or forgive that person or don't hold a
grudge I know this so what should you do there is this thing called NLP not
surprisingly and NLP is loaded with skills techniques ways of adjusting your
state to do exactly this in fact Steve and Connie ray andreas created a pattern
called the forgiveness pattern and that's something you can look up and
it's maybe not appropriate for every situation but it's just an example of
one specific technique or a skill that you can use to overcome these things
think of NLP as a life skill set it's not the only skill set and that's out
there for sure and I wouldn't even say that it's the only one you need to learn
or the only one you should learn it's one you definitely should learn to have
but not only NLP there's there's lots of other wonderful self-improvement
personal development technology out there but think about it like this
so you have this thing called MMA mixed martial arts there's two main things you
need to know how to do in mixed martial arts
that's stand up fight which is punching and kicking and you need to get a
grapple now there are two particular martial arts that are really good for
this mootai which is the Thai martial art of boxing or kickboxing standing up
and punching and kicking and then there's Brazilian jiu-jitsu which is the
grappling now I'm not saying that these are the only more shorts that you need
to know if you're an MMA fighter but pretty set that these are the two of the
most powerful martial arts and most MMA fighters are have training in both of
these why because they're powerful skill sets to have
for the job of being a mixed martial arts fight so you want that Brazilian
jiu-jitsu you want that mo ty or you want something very similar so you need
to have that as a skill set I look at NLP as something that everyone should at
least have some understanding training and knowledge in because in life this is
the skill set that can help you overcome obstacles help you achieve goals help
you get very clear about what fulfills you what you want how to generate
motivation how to get unstuck how to let things go
there's so much to it that when I when I think about it and when it's presented
to people I'm thinking to myself why would you not want to learn this if
you're completely new to NLP and you want to know more about it check out
more videos in this channel I go over technique so I go over mindsets
I go over many many components of NLP you will become more and more successful
as you apply NLP to your life and more than likely there will be people in your
life who want to hold you back and like I said let that stuff go and if you're
struggling with that look to your NLP practice to help you let that go to put
you in a state that's not limiting a state that is resourceful and a state of
focusing on what it is that you want to create in your life not what it is that
you that you want to move away from and not trying to hurt someone else because
that's never going to help you make it okay a lifelong practice secure your
success and don't let anybody stop you in the process
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