- Heya playas.
Chances are if you're watching this video
you've been in that awkward situation
where your friends are making fun of you for something
and you don't know how to deal with it.
I know what that's like because
I've been in that type of situation before.
So sit back, because I'm gonna
share a bunch of tips with you
to teach you how to get them to stop making fun of you.
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If you've ever been teased by a bully before,
chances are you've heard the phrase,
"Don't talk to them, just walk away, and don't engage."
But what if the person that's teasing you
happens to be your friend?
In a situation like that it's a lot harder
to deal with because these are your friends.
You don't wanna create any awkward tension between you two.
So how do you approach the situation
without making it awkward,
and without running the risk of losing your friends?
First thing's first, it's important to work on the things
that you have complete control and power over.
Being able to laugh at yourself sometimes
will make those tough situations a lot easier to handle.
For example, if you're walking and you trip,
or you say something kind of stupid
and your friends end up laughing at you,
it's okay to laugh at yourself as well.
Remember, they're laughing at what happened, and not at you.
Situations like those,
or just being out of the loop about something,
and not really knowing what's going on
may make you feel like you're
not on the same level as your friends.
But you are.
You just had a bad day and chances are
they'll have a bad day at some point too.
We never wanna look like fools in front of our friends
because the fool is the person that everyone gangs up on.
But chances are, everyone is gonna
have their day where they are the fool,
and people are gonna tease them for it.
No one can stroll through life flawlessly,
and accepting that you're gonna make mistakes
is all part of being human.
The simple fact of the matter is,
is that you are special just the way you are.
You don't have to do anything to win anyone else's approval.
You just have to be you.
Plus, you can always try lightly teasing them back.
Because sometimes when friends say mean things,
ironically they actually mean
the opposite of what they're saying.
It's a weird reverse psychology thing that people do.
For example, me and my friends
say we hate each other all the time.
But we really mean that we love each other,
without all the mush.
If you can learn to let those type of incidents go,
then when your friends tease you
you're not gonna take it to heart every single time.
However, sometimes the things they tease you about
are things that you can't change
because they're part of who you are.
So what do you do?
I've received a lot of questions
from people that have friends
that make fun of their height, their weight, their race,
their religion, their acne, their sexuality,
or anything else they may have.
And to them, it may seem like fair game,
but to you these are personal and serious things.
And when they make fun of it,
it actually affects you negatively.
So what do you do?
In a case like that it's important to ask the question,
do they make fun of each other for different things
or do they all end up targeting you?
If everyone in the group makes fun of each other
for a different thing then chances are that
no one really knows that these things are bothering you
because you haven't talked to them about it.
And what I've come to learn over the years is that
it's incredibly important to talk about our feelings,
and to let other people know what we're dealing with
as much as it is important to know
what they're dealing with, too.
If your friends tend to gang up sometimes
and tease you about something,
try talking to each one of them individually.
Explain to them how it makes you feel
when they make fun of you for that thing,
and let them know that you'd prefer if they stop doing it.
Most of the time when you step out of the joking atmosphere
and you get real with them,
they'll be more respectful of what you have to say,
and hopefully they'll listen to you.
And if it is the case where
they continue to gang up on you and make fun of you,
then that's a totally different story.
If you feel like you're being singled out here,
and talking to them doesn't work,
well then I think it's time to reevaluate whether or not
these people are positive or negative in your life.
It can be difficult sometimes to cut off friends
because these are people
we've taken a long time to get to know,
but sometimes it's the most important thing
you can do to grow as a person.
Think about it like this:
would you rather hang out with a bunch of people that,
when you're around them,
you feel awkward and nervous
that they're gonna make fun of you?
Or people that encourage you and support you
for who you are?
What do you think, though?
Have you ever encountered a situation
where your friends have made fun of you?
Leave your comment below and we'll talk about it.
One last thing I want you to do,
is to look at your own behavior.
When you end up teasing someone,
are you sure that you're not
hurting their feelings as well?
Be courteous and kind when you joke around with someone,
because you never quite know what they're dealing with
or what they're feeling.
Friendship is all about learning and growing.
So make sure you're inspiring that atmosphere.
With every person you talk to.
As always guys, love and peace.
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