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Have you ever taken the Myers-Briggs Personality Test?
The MBTI is a self-report inventory
designed to identify and categorize
people's personality types, strengths, and weaknesses
into 16 different general personality types.
The rarest category is, INFJ,
which stands for
introverted, intuitive, feeling and judging.
People with this personality type
are known to be gentle, thoughtful, and kindhearted.
However, with all the attention
that the positive traits of INFJ receive,
it's also necessary to focus on the negative aspects as well
to provide a more realistic view
of the INFJ personality type.
So, here are the main traits of the dark side of INFJ.
Before we begin, we would like to make a disclaimer
that this video is based on the Myers-Briggs Type Inventory,
which is just a theory.
And it has personality types that are just rough tendencies,
rather than strict classifications.
Number one, bottling up negative emotions.
Are you someone who would rather
keep your problems to yourself to avoid conflict?
As an INFJ,
you prefer to keep the negative things to yourself
so as to not burden anyone else with your problems
or be misunderstood.
But, because you're so used
to being a source of comfort for others
and are used to adapting to the needs of others,
instead of prioritizing your own problems,
you also have a tendency to lash out
when someone wrongs you.
As your problems and negative emotions
pile up and go on addressed,
you may end up taking it out on the people around you.
This can lead to irreparable damage
to the relationships that you have
with your closest family and friends.
Number two, abruptly cutting people out of their lives.
Have you felt overwhelmed and burdened
by someone else's emotional needs?
One of your main traits as an INFJ
is that you're extremely sensitive and empathetic.
However, when you have a tendency
to always put yourself in other people's shoes,
you end up experiencing an immense amount of emotional pain.
Because of this,
you might abruptly decide to cut people out of your life.
While there are many situations
where it's the right choice to cut people off,
such as, if they're emotionally abusive or deceptive,
there are also times when you might've made
too quick of a decision,
and lose a relationship that was actually worthwhile.
Number three, extremely high expectations.
Do you tend to expect a lot of things
from the people you know?
While it's normal for you as an INFJ
to set extremely high expectations for yourself,
you also have the tendency to set
brutally high expectations for other people,
especially family, close friends, and romantic partners.
This is why you may feel like
you're always experiencing disappointment or frustration
from being let down all the time.
But when you set unrealistic goals in life
and seek only relationships that fit your idea of perfect,
it can make it hard for people around you
to actually connect with you.
Number four, moodiness.
Are you someone who prefers to hide your emotions
rather than talking through them?
As an extremely perceptive and deep feeling person,
you tend to experience a lot of intense emotions.
And although you try to hide it,
and avoid talking about them,
it's quite easy to see
how these emotions affect your behavior.
Instead of your casual self,
you may start to push people away
for reasons that you yourself can't understand
and isolate yourself from others
to sort through your emotions
until you can open up about them.
Number five, self-destructive.
As the N in INFJ suggests,
people with this personality type are extremely intuitive
and develop deep ideas and feelings.
While this is often seen as one of your greatest advantages,
it can also cause some trouble.
Similar to how you can understand
and feel emotions on a deeper level,
you can also overthink and create problems in your mind
that do not exist.
This may happen when you try to find a deeper meaning
to someone's words or actions,
when there's nothing more than what they've said or done.
You might also try to predict what someone will do
without even giving them a chance,
only because of similar situation in your past
that ended badly.
Number six, stubbornness.
Do you define yourself as someone
who does not usually welcome change into your life?
The judgment trait that you possess is responsible for this,
since it defines your obsessive planning
and future oriented thinking.
As such, you would much rather have things
go the way that you planned,
rather than having to accept unexpected changes.
This stubbornness will also apply to other things in life,
and may result in a ton of missed chances
and opportunities for a better life.
Are you an INFJ?
Did you relate to any of the points we've mentioned?
Let us know in the comments below.
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