This video is about "How to Find Yourself Again!" I'm going to show you some powerful simple ways that
you can find yourself again after feeling so lost... To find out more please stay tuned to this video...
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life around with BetterHelp! The link to BetterHelp is in the description below... What does it mean
to find yourself? It's to realize and accept one's real character... discover one's true vocation...
But how do we lose ourselves in the first place? How does one person suddenly get swept up in a
state of confusion, misery, and despair to the point they have no idea or what they believe
in anymore? I have some theories as I've been along this path and managed to in the process
find myself again. In 2016 I was riding high = I had a successful business, I was the fittest I'd
ever been and I was having tremendous success with dating. I was a socialite, I was popular, had money
so many friends, things were looking up for me! Then I started dating a woman... got into a
serious relationship with her but it was a toxic one... and she was a huge narcissist and as a result
I had a very very toxic period of my life! The narcissist was a catalyst for other issues = my
business went bankrupt a year or so later...I had an addiction to gambling that got so out of control
the relationship was just getting worse and worse...I drifted apart from so many friends
and my relationship with family well that was on the edge as well. By 2019 two life-changing
things happened all on my own doing = I actually walked away from my addiction to gambling and
became clean and sober and then a few months later from that toxic relationship I did the same thing!
By the end of that year I was like a zombie - I had no idea who I was anymore
What I was going to do next...I was drained, exhausted, miserable and a shadow of my former self
I set out for 2020 to be my year of finding myself but then the pandemic happened and then I actually
lost my Dad tragically, thus delaying this journey of re-self-discovery. However nevertheless as I sit
here right now fully content as the man I am & want to be = I've found myself again and I'm going
to show you how you can no matter who you are, what you've done up to this point can hopefully do the same...
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When I first walked away from a 14-year long addiction to gambling and the toxic
relationship I had as well... the negative voices in my head were on overdrive
These were some of the thoughts = "You'll return to gambling... its part of your life! You'll go back to
your ex, you can't be single! You lost too much gambling you're gonna go win your money back...
You're stupid for walking away, why would you risk being single?! Your friends are gamblers
if you stop gambling, you'll lose your friends! You'll never find anyone as attractive as her..."
These voices could all be combined and attributed to one entity the inner critic that lives inside
us... "The inner critic" is a term in psychology to personify the negative thoughts we have about
ourselves. Basically my personal inner critic was a collection of all the negative toxic awful people
I had endured in my life up until that point... also not to mention my insecurities and anxieties
that live deep inside me... The inner critic wants us to fail, it does not want the unknown
does not want to be proved wrong, it does not want to be seen as what it is "a negative, toxic critic!"
Whether like me you've walked away from addiction, a relationship, a situation understand that it was
the right thing to do! In my case doing both in the space of only a few months
saved my life for the better! So pat yourself on the back and recognize whenever you stand
up to anything or anyone there'll always be a backlash, but none will be worse than the
backlash from the negative voice inside your head or voices! The best way to silence these voices
is rest up, recharge, go on a vacation, meditate and calm your mind down.... I actually believe it or not
took two vacations back to back after walking away from my relationship! I had to! I still just
recovered from my addiction and I was just really reshaping my life again! It took re-energizing and
relaxing to get back on track and to eventually shut the mouth of the inner critic inside me!
Now feeling lost in life and trying to rediscover who you are is a huge step to take... that's why I'd
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Whenever you go through any form of dramatic change or a traumatic event
recognize that people will chime in with their two cents - some have good intentions like close
friends and family... they'll give you words of encouragement "you did the right thing, well
done!" They'll say "I'm so proud! You're so brave well done for getting control of your life again!
"If you need or want anything at all let us know!" But also on the contrary there will be doubters
haters and actual people who are critics who want to plant the seed of doubt and anxiety
into your mind = "Well I'm not sure you did the right thing here..." they'll say
"Well I'm worried about you, no seriously I am! I think you need to reconsider your decisions..."
"You need to learn to rely on yourself only now and I don't really have faith in you..."
It was amazing how I was genuinely met with such contrasting words of advice
from people I assumed were there for me but that is where I learned to become an expert in myself!
Okay knowing what my needs, my wants, desires morals, life I wanted to live was etc. I took
the time to really study myself post my breakup and what I genuinely wanted and needed out of life!
Ii wanted to live by the following morals = I wanted to be as honest as I can, I wanted to live with
passion, I wanted to be creative every day, I would no longer tolerate disrespect, abuse, really toxic
behavior from anyone, I wanted to convey my truth, I wanted to always speak from the heart, I wanted to
support those who genuinely needed it and make sure I differentiate between the time wasters
and the people taking the Mickey and I wanted to try and be as kind and compassionate as possible!
If anyone whoever they are offered their opinion on how I needed to be etc
Ii would always say to myself "nobody knows me better than me!"
You should do the same - for all the advice you can get in the world (even this video) nobody knows you
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Sometimes when we feel lost and certainly have no idea who we are or what we want we feel
directionless.... there is nothing more disappointing than a directionless person! It's like a ship
leaving the harbour... with no compass... no map... no captain... no direction... no plan! The ship just wanders
the treacherous seas almost aimlessly pointlessly with no idea where it's going or why it's going
in that direction! So in 2019 when I quit gambling for good and left that relationship that was toxic
I had no idea where I was going?! Sure I had a rough idea of goals and ambitions but I was a little
lost lamb.... Here are some of the thoughts I had at the time = "I don't see myself ever in a relationship
again....I'll never be married it's not going to happen...I don't know what I want to do with my life...
I don't really care what happens moving forward!" Slowly but surely as I started healing and
recovering in my new life as a sober now toxic free man, I then started thinking differently!
I saw married couples I thought to myself "yeah I'd like that one day!" I saw children and thought to
myself "I'd love to have a family one day!" I saw people genuinely happy and thought to myself
"I'd love to be happy again!" Honestly like a switch being turned on something immediately shifted
inside of me = i wanted to be married with children one day, achieve certain goals, travel to certain
destinations and so on! My zest for life was reignited! Now bear in mind it was slightly delayed
because I had to endure the pandemic, lockdowns, losing my Dad but eventually it did return! I had
finally direction of where I wanted to be again and what I wanted to do as well! So direction is
everything! You don't need to be a millionaire... you don't need to have outlandish goals... but you
need to have a rough plan of where you want to go... why you want to go in this direction!
Therefore continuing from the previous point with a rough idea and direction of where I wanted to
be in life I believe my purpose needed addressing! In 2019 I'd failed in yet another business startup
and I was really confused on what to do next! As I recovered and healed from the toxic relationship
I came up with the following idea = I said to myself "Why don't I create a YouTube video sharing my
experience to inspire other people of what to do when they come out after walking away from
a toxic relationship?" Then after doing so another idea came to me "Why don't I create a brand about
advising people on an array of topics, sharing my experience, hopefully my wisdom along the way...
like my own TV show?" Thus The SCG Show was born! Through my adversity aka walking away... the pandemic
losing my Dad... came the greatest idea I had to date and in the process I also found my purpose in life!
My purpose is to create good quality content on The SCG Show to inspire and help people
from all walks of life! Nothing to date has brought me more joy and satisfaction than
this channel! Without purpose in life we have no reason to get up in the morning... no reason
to pursue anything worthwhile... no legacy to leave behind... no dent in the universe
but with purpose my personality and character has evolved and changed! By sharing my stories
victories, defeats, myself with people all over the world I've truly found myself in the process!
Look you don't need to start a Vlog a YouTube channel or even a website etc
but whatever your purpose is try and find it because by doing that you actually find yourself
too, and that is a truly wonderful and spectacular thing every human being must experience....