Beyoncé and Jay-Z are two people who truly need no introduction. However, the story of
their romance is one you might not be aware of. Here's a look into their marriage, including
the ups, downs, and everything that's happened in between.
Beyoncé and Jay-Z met the old-fashioned way: on a flight to Cancun! You know, just like
the rest of us. The details of their meeting weren't clear for years; in 2008, Beyoncé
revealed to People that she was just 18 years old when the pair met, noting that they started
dating a year later. Brides confirmed that the two were seated next to one another on
a flight to the MTV Spring Break Music Festival in 2000.
Jay-Z eventually confirmed the story as well, as he rapped on the song "713":
"We played it cool at the pool in Cancun VMA [...] Fate had me sittin' next to you on a
plane / And I knew straight away."
Though they had met, neither made a move until the following year. Beyoncé explained to
Oprah Winfrey that the two were friends for quite some time before taking the plunge.
"We were friends first for a year and a half before we went on any dates. We were on the
phone for a year and a half, and that foundation is so important for a relationship. Just to
have someone who you just like is so important, and someone [who] is honest."
When speaking to Beyoncé in 2013, Oprah Winfrey found the fact that she and Jay-Z didn't confirm
their relationship for years endlessly funny. In an interview, she recalled:
"I remember the first time you were on the 'Oprah' show, I told you, 'Don't go around
telling people who you're dating.' I think you took that all the way."
Instead, it seems like the two decided to let their work speak, or perhaps sing or rap,
for itself.
In October 2002, Beyoncé appeared on Jay-Z's song "'03 Bonnie and Clyde," and while promoting
the song, Jay-Z told Playboy nothing romantic existed between them. He said:
"I used to see her all the time. We're not engaged or anything, by the way. We're just
cool. We're just friends. We don't really, ah, know each other like that yet."
The whispers that surrounded the couple essentially became screams when Beyoncé dropped her second
solo single, "Crazy In Love," and fans realized the song was yet another collaboration with
Jay-Z. Of course, the pair would go on to release many more collaborations over the
years and during their marriage.
Fans were elated when it was revealed that Beyoncé and Jay-Z had married in an ultra-private
wedding on April 4, 2008. A guest revealed to People that there were just around 40 attendees,
the wedding atmosphere was thick with emotion, and there were a lot of tears. Hair stylist
Marvin Bull — who took care of Jay-Z's mom, grandmother, sister, and niece at the Devachan
Salon before the event — also confirmed the news to the outlet, noting:
"I said, 'I know there's a wedding today,' and they were laughing. [His mom] was saying
they wanted it very small, so not many people got invited."
Curiously, Beyoncé and Jay-Z didn't directly confirm the news themselves. OK! magazine's
Laura Schreffler explained to MTV News that the two are just private like that. As many
fans know, it took the two a long time to even come clean about being together, so in
the end, it's not a surprise that their wedding was a secret to most. Schreffler said:
"I don't think they'll admit [to getting married] now, and I don't think they have to. They
have no one to answer to."
In the end, it seems that the two kept things private because their lives are already so
public; they just didn't have a need to add any more fuel to the media fire.
Three years later, there was even more to celebrate: Beyoncé shared that she was pregnant
with the couple's first child at the 2011 MTV Video Music Awards.
"News that's that big - it's hard to hide and keep to yourself"
The singer later gave birth to the pair's daughter, Blue Ivy Carter, on January 7, 2012.
In an interview with Vogue, Beyoncé recounted what her birthing experience was like, noting
that she felt especially connected to Blue during the experience. She shared:
"I felt like when I was having contractions, I envisioned my child pushing through a very
heavy door."
She followed that up by explaining that she really imagined her unborn daughter, quote,
"doing all the work" to be born, which helped her focus on something besides the pain of
childbirth.
Several years later, the singer opened up to Elle about her daughter again after sharing
that she'd lost multiple pregnancies before conceiving her firstborn. She said:
"Success looks different to me now. I learned that all pain and loss is in fact a gift.
Having miscarriages taught me that I had to mother myself before I could be a mother to
someone else. Then I had Blue, and the quest for my purpose became so much deeper."
Unfortunately for the twosome, rumors that Jay-Z cheated on Beyoncé have followed them
for years. In 2005, many people believed that Jay-Z and Beyoncé broke up because he cheated
on her with Rihanna, according to Cosmopolitan. A source later alleged that the rumors were
said to have been made up to help launch Rihanna's career — but that didn't stop the gossip
mills from coming up with more.
Beyoncé did little to quell those rumors herself when she released the songs "Resentment"
and "Ring the Alarm" in 2006. In "Resentment," she sings of being cheated on:
"I know she was attractive, but I was here first / Been ridin' with you for six years
/ Why did I deserve to be treated this way by you?"
In "Ring the Alarm," she intones:
"Tell me how should I feel / When I know what I know / And my female intuition / Telling
me you a dog."
Rumors surfaced again in 2013, when some believed Jay-Z was cheating on Beyoncé again — this
time with Rita Ora. Jay-Z later explained that everything with Beyoncé wasn't completely
perfect. As shared by New York magazine, he said:
"I just ran into this place and we built this big, beautiful mansion of a relationship that
wasn't totally built on the 100% truth and it starts cracking. Things start happening
that the public can see."
In 2016, Beyoncé unleashed "Lemonade" upon the undeserving masses and appeared to rip
the lid off everything. The entire album is an ode to hope, joy, pain, anger, loss, and
redemption. As The New Yorker put it:
""Lemonade" is "a piece of spoken word, a narrative film, a map of cultural reference
points, and a window into the soul of an icon whose inner life has always seemed just out
of reach."
Once the curtain was pulled back, it seemed that the once-private star had a hard time
not talking about what happened in her marriage. She told Vogue that "broken" relationships
are part of her heritage, and her fervent hope is that her children do not know that
pain. She said:
"I come from a lineage of broken male-female relationships, abuse of power, and mistrust.
Only when I saw that clearly was I able to resolve those conflicts in my own relationship
[...] I pray that I am able to break the generational curses in my family and that my children will
have less complicated lives."
In 2019, Beyoncé told Elle that she had to be "reborn" to move forward after dying in
her relationship. With "Lemonade," Beyoncé appeared to confirm what everyone already
knew, and all eyes shifted to Jay-Z.
It seemed like it took longer for Jay-Z to confirm the news himself, but he eventually
began to publicly own the narrative. After releasing his own album, "4:44," after "Lemonade,"
Jay-Z seemed to realize that lyrics didn't exactly spell things out the way fans of the
couple needed him to. For instance, on the song "4:44," he rapped:
"And I apologize 'cause at your best, you are love / And because I fall short of what
I say I'm all about / Your eyes leave with the soul that your body once housed / And
you stare blankly into space / Thinkin' of all the time, you wasted it on all this basic
s*** / So I apologize."
While speaking to T Magazine, Jay-Z came clean. The rapper said that growing up under difficult
circumstances taught him to, quote, "go into survival mode," which in turn taught him to
distance himself from his emotions as a way to cope. He said:
"In my case, like it's, it's deep. And then all the things happen from there: infidelity."
Once he opened up, Jay-Z took things a step further and went into detail about the work
he had to do to heal his marriage from the inside out. After being asked by CNN's Van
Jones why he wanted to save his marriage in the first place, Jay-Z said the answer was
clear. He shared:
"Well, that's my soulmate. It's the person I love. And you can be in love with someone,
you can love someone [...] and if you haven't experienced love and you don't understand
it and you don't have the tools to move forward, then you're going to have complications, period."
He added that the couple also chose to work on things together for the three people who
matter the most to them: their children, Blue Ivy and twins Sir and Rumi. As he explained,
the choice was pretty clear: discuss and overcome the problem at hand or behave as if it doesn't
exist and watch the life they had built fall apart. In the end, they had to push each other
to fight for a brighter future and a new reality for their children.
"And you know, much like you I have a beautiful wife who's understanding, and knew that I'm
not the worst of what I've done."
One way Beyoncé and Jay-Z healed their marriage was through the art that brought them together
in the first place: music. The pair released "Lemonade" and "4:44" only about a year apart,
and Jay-Z later revealed that the albums were recorded at the same time. The process was
ultimately rewarding, though it required the two to sit together through the pain they
now shared.
Jay-Z told Vogue that while they were originally working on a joint album, things shifted.
He explained:
"It happened — we were using our art almost like a therapy session. And we started making
music together. And then the music she was making at that time was further along. So
her album came out as opposed to the joint album that we were working on."
He was also asked what it was like to hear one another's lyrics, especially as they were
so often about an experience the two would likely want to put behind themselves. Jay-Z
poetically compared the situation to being in the eye of a hurricane, noting that the
safest place to be is right in the middle. Eventually, the two would go on to release
their joint album "Everything Is Love" in 2018.
Happily, Jay-Z and Beyoncé have made it work, possibly beyond even their wildest dreams.
In addition to Blue Ivy, the two are mom and dad to twins Sir and Rumi, who were born on
June 13, 2017.
Since becoming parents, Beyoncé and Jay-Z have seemed to retreat back into their shells
in a bid to protect their children from public scrutiny. But every so often, one of them
opens up about parenting and what their parenting styles are like. Beyoncé told Vogue that
parenthood often weighs heavily on her mind. As a woman and parent of two daughters, she
said that she wants to make sure her daughters can see themselves reflected in the media
and culture around them. She said:
"It's important to me that they see themselves as CEOs, as bosses, and that they know they
can write the script for their own lives."
When it comes to her son, she has her own hopes, saying:
"I want my son to have a high emotional IQ where he is free to be caring, truthful, and
honest. It's everything a woman wants in a man, and yet we don't teach it to our boys."
Jay-Z similarly told The Times that he just hopes his children feel loved:
"Feeling loved is the most important thing a child needs, you know? Not 'Here's this
business that I'm going to hand over to you, that I'm creating for you.'"
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