- Your energy is
It is so attractive, it really is.
It's just that you haven't tapped into it completely,
and then allowed other people to experience
that really magnetic energy.
And that's why you don't have, you know, people chasing you.
And you don't really want people to chase you.
It's creepy.
You really want people to chase you?
Imagine you're walking down the street, and you're like,
you watched a video on having magnetic energy,
and there's just some dude chasing you.
(laughing)
How creepy would that be, okay?
You think you want to be magnetic,
but the truth is you want to be magnetic to people you,
like, desire, or like.
You don't want to be magnetic to everybody.
You don't want to be magnetic to, you know,
I was thinking in my mind,
I've been watching that show Breaking Bad.
There's a guy named Tuco.
You don't want to be magnetic to Tuco in Breaking Bad, okay?
He's like this gangster guy
that is very angry and scary, all right?
You want to be magnetic to the most authentic version of you
and, like, a reflection of that in your life.
And you'll always get a reflection of yourself.
That's the, the funny thing about this when,
I've told about the story many times,
but anytime I, you know, was in a,
I had that of like a relationship with somebody,
like I had a girlfriend during the time
I was working nine to five jobs I didn't like,
they were also working nine to five jobs they didn't like.
When I started doing what I love, guess what?
I started meeting women that are also doing what they love.
So it's like an equal reflection.
But when we talk about magnetic energy,
let's talk about some of the components that go into it.
Like, imagine right now we're cooking a meal, okay?
There's a kitchen here.
I'm in Austin right now, checking out Austin.
I'm gonna actually get a place here.
I wish this place, this place is frickin' dope.
But imagine we had like this cauldron,
we're going to use this glass.
I didn't think about this before making the video,
otherwise I would have had like a big salad bowl cauldron.
Like, the components that go into this cup
to make magnetic energy, all right?
One of it, and one of the most powerful ones, is
There's a guy named Mark Manson, he has a book
called the Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck.
And in it, he talks, he talks kind of about this,
and he's in the book about this too,
but non-neediness, not needy.
The degree to which you don't need somebody else,
or you don't need validation, you don't need approval,
is the degree to which you have magnetic energy
and you are attractive.
So it's one of the mo, main ones.
Now, how do you become not needy?
Well, a lot of that has to do
with getting to the core of what you believe you need
from other people, and then giving it to yourself.
So for a long time,
I felt like I really gave a shit what people thought.
When I was making these YouTube videos sometimes,
I'd be like,
"I gotta make the videos that make the best views.
I gotta search for people's validation and approval."
And of course, I'm kind of aware of, you know,
some of that, like, you know, which videos will get,
like using certain keywords so that this video reaches you.
If I were to call this, like,
the cup and the ingredients, it wouldn't do that well.
But if I say like, the most powerful magnetic AF energy,
or something like that, you gonna, you're gonna click on it,
you know what I mean?
So with it, one of the most important components of having
magnetic energy is the degree to which you are not needy.
Now, here's the thing,
and one of the biggest beliefs I've been learning
even about myself, okay?
I've learned a lot about detachment
over the last couple of months.
I've let go of so many old patterns that I have,
and it's really changed my life.
A lot of it is about bringing the energy
into my body and feeling in my own frame
and in a way, knowing that I don't need anything from the
outside in order for me to feel whole and complete.
That's allowed me to be more authentic.
In a way, it's also a difference in value system.
My value system before, the old me was like
I valued what people thought more than myself.
I didn't have a lot of boundaries,
so I was, I felt like, you know, I was giving myself
and overextending myself, and it didn't feel authentic.
It was to get validation or significance or approval.
And when I started to realize how inauthentic,
inauthentic that was, that's when a lot began to change.
Cause I'm like, I almost became mad at my old self.
I was like, what the hell am I doing?
And then what happened is, I woke up out of that,
and then I started being more authentic.
And what is my value system?
What do I enjoy and how do I prefer to be?
And that means, you know, I prefer to be blunt and honest,
which means I'm a more polarizing.
I prefer to be, like, more in my own frame,
leading in my life.
I realized that growing up, part of my shadow was
I had the ex step-mom situation
of someone in my life that was very controlling.
And because I didn't have, and I didn't have to really lead
in that area of my life, in my relationships,
I found that I would fall into other people's frame.
Well, as I realized I lead in my own life,
cause that's how I become you know, like,
disciplined, successful on YouTube,
I just got to apply that towards my personal life as well.
And as I've done that, it's changed everything.
But the most important thing that I wanted to share
with you, is I've realized that when we're growing up
and we have maybe an emotionally unavailable parent,
or parents, or our needs aren't being met,
what happens is, one of the most common beliefs
that's developed is,
There's shame and unworthiness.
Shame is a part of the identity too.
Guilt is different.
The vibration of shame and guilt,
guilt is a higher vibration than shame.
Shame says, it's a part of my identity that I'm not worthy.
That I'm not enough, that I'm broken.
So then what happens, is we have this underlying notion.
We go out, we're dating other people,
or we're really put ourselves out there.
And even though we're thinking about ourselves differently,
if that emotion of shame is there,
or self-worthiness is lacked,
then other people will feel that off of us.
And that's why other people can take advantage of, you know,
the boundaries and that's where the blocks come up.
So a big part of having magnetic energy
is releasing shame and guilt and also unworthiness.
And one of the ways you do that is you look
at where that may have developed in your childhood.
For me, it was when I was young.
It was when my parents were going through a lot, you know,
they divorced when I was younger.
When parents divorce,
a lot of times we may think it's our fault.
There's something wrong with me.
And we carry that energy.
But then what we do,
is we begin to literally do a meditation
or awareness where we have compassion for our parents.
And we understand that that was their stuff, not ours.
Your parents being emotionally unavailable
when you were a kid had nothing to do with you.
It was their own stuff that maybe they passed onto you.
Your dad cheating on your mom,
your mom cheating on your dad, had nothing to do with you.
Your parents divorce had nothing to do with you.
And when you start to realize that,
you start to release that energy, you then start to,
it opens you up to a whole new world, like in Aladdin.
There's like a magical genie, but not, not,
not the will Smith genie, the Robin Williams genie.
Okay?
With like, you know, (indistinguishable)
Robin Gilliams
(laughing)
will Smith is great too,
but Robin Williams is the OG Aladdin genie.
And the thing that, when we talk about,
where'd that cup go?
What'd I do with that cup?
When we talk about the ingredients
that go into magnetic energy, realize
if there is shame in your cup, or unworthiness in your cup,
you got to pour that out.
The way you pour it out,
is you become aware that it was your parents' stuff.
It's not yours.
It's like, why is this in my cup?
Had nothing to do with me.
You pour it out by becoming aware of it,
having compassion for your parents,
but then choosing to let it go.
It served you for a period of time.
Maybe the shame served you because then you were, like,
trying to get your needs met
by being validated or approved by other people.
But now you realize, wait, this isn't actually valuable.
This isn't actually a real value system that's authentic.
So one of the main parts of this
is being aware of that shame, the self-worthiness.
Because if that underlying frame is there,
no matter any tactic, any technique you use,
any, like, thing you do.
It's funny, I'm at this Airbnb right now.
There's this book here.
It's called The Game.
All right?
This is like a well-known book where there's a,
there's like a guy, Neil Strauss,
he goes into the pickup industry.
And mainly, he knows how to pick up chicks
and he documents his experience of it.
And in it, there was a lot of different forms of like,
you know, manipulation,
like people doing different things to gain attraction.
Something called negging where you
kind of put down a girl that you're talking to
because then she starts to see you as like on this pedestal.
Or it means that you have high value.
Like that's the psychology, but it's manipulative.
And a lot of times what happens, is we,
trying to get people's love, affection validation,
even trying to be magnetic,
is a form of manipulation.
Because we're trying to get them to come into here.
The key to this is living according
to our own values and becoming aware of our energy
and how we view ourself, what is our relationship with self?
And that's what changes everything.
A lot of, a lot of what I think is even more powerful
than any of that stuff is like the,
the childhood wound healing.
The worthiness, the validation, giving it to yourself.
And realizing that magnetic energy one, yes, it's not needy.
It doesn't need because it fills up its own cup.
It realizes that it's in, it's in its own frame.
The non-neediness is something
that's externalizing the power,
and it's giving the power away.
And the way that you go through that, is you really let go
and you have to almost like do a meditation
where you heal your childhood wounds
and your relationship with your parents,
and realizing that their stuff was their stuff.
Their emotional availability was their emotional
unavailability, and had nothing to do with you.
And as you realize that, you start to feel more secure
and confident within yourself.
And then what you do, is you have to,
you wire in a new pattern
by making new choices about who you are
and loving yourself.
If you completely loved yourself,
how would you respond to this person?
If you completely loved yourself
how would you show up in the world?
What would you be doing for a living?
As you start living that lifestyle,
your energy will become more magnetic.
And it's really about this awareness.
And for me,
when I became aware of that, that changed everything.
I realized I was literally attracting women
into my life to replay the same energy dynamics
from when I was a kid.
I became aware of this cup, like, a while ago.
And it blew my mind.
I'm like, wow, no wonder.
It becomes challenging
because it's the same energy pattern from when I was a kid.
And then what I did, is I then began to heal
that pattern by realizing
that's not my stuff that was theirs,
It had nothing to do with me.
Then I started to feel more worthy, whole and complete.
And then I had to open up my own, like,
emotional availability because when people find
that they're attracting emotionally unavailable people,
it's because they are emotionally unavailable,
or the emotional available person,
they simply aren't attracted to.
Because it doesn't feel that same,
it doesn't feel familiar from childhood, you know?
Somebody that really loves you may feel, like, weird.
So that's why it's about becoming aware of all this stuff.
Now, something that I'm going to be doing for 20,
I have this idea of doing this
and we're gonna go forward with this.
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The 21 day magnetic love challenge is gonna be going live.
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And we're going to be going through different phases
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so that you become more magnetic.
It's understanding polarity.
It's understanding your sense of worthiness,
releasing shame.
It's about understanding how to be not needy,
how to let go of codependent patterns,
how to really get into your own frame
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So with that being said, other than that,
I hope you guys enjoyed this video.
And as always, I'll talk to you in the next one.