man I'll never be able to throw a
baseball like Ruth he's got so much more
skill and talent than me it's like he
was born to be a pitcher if I could
throw like him I'd be so happy
[Music]
[Applause]
you
[Applause]
man I'll never be able to throw like
Mason self-improvement seems like a
simple concept and what I've been
learning the more I look into it is that
no it's not it's all over the place and
everyone has some sort of struggle with
it at one point or another and it can be
a nightmare it's like falling from a
tree there's so many different branches
you can get smacked by then I want to
talk about it self-improvement is
extremely important to me out of all the
personal values I stand by it's the one
I actively think about the most multiple
times today I'll end up having some sort
of checkup with myself to analyze if I'm
doing enough to satisfy my self growth
quota what can I change to do better am
i pushing myself this isn't good enough
yet why does everything I do look like
[ __ ] and that's the thought pattern I
and a lot of people can start to spiral
into the concept of self-improvement is
really positive and inspiring keep on
working to develop yourself and you'll
become a better person you could ever
dream of you can do anything you set
your mind to go get em tiger yeah that
sounds great
except there's also this one
complication where some people start
having unrealistic expectations and an
unhealthy mindset and when they
disappoint themselves after their
inevitable failure to reach their
unrealistic goal it cuts them so deeply
that it impacts their self-worth right
to the core of their being hmm I
struggled with that one a lot the I can
never be satisfied with what I'm doing
and don't think I deserve any
recognition branch just a bad case of
impostor syndrome pretty much I'd
explain what that is but I don't think
I'm qualified enough to do that there
are much better youtubers than me who
are much more deserving of my position
and I don't think I'm worthy of people
paying attention to what I say because
my content isn't good enough and I
really want to be able to play this
really intense piano song because I've
never done anything at that difficulty
before and I'm gonna push myself out of
my comfort level
[Music]
huh well it must have been actually too
easy I mean it's not that creative an
achievement it hair is much better out
there man I suck no do you practice for
weeks you earned this you should be able
to be like yeah you know what I'm
freakin great and I deserve to feel at
least a sliver of satisfaction for
myself here you idiot when you're
constantly looking for the next bar to
hit you can blind yourself to how far
you've come it's alright you can
actually be proud of yourself without
being a so super cocky douchebag since I
value improvement so much any sense of
satisfaction with something would make
me worried that I was settling and I
wouldn't push myself anymore
hindsight is 20/20 and I'm able to see
how actually super toxic and damaging
that thought process was I wasn't
pushing myself out of passion like I
thought I was it was all just a disguise
let's see who the culprit really was
what oh no it was actually pushing
myself too hard out of blind fear of
becoming complacent
I got Jinky self-improving also pertains
to self-help you can't grow as a person
when you're holding a whip to yourself
yourself I looked it up and ended up at
a page I didn't want but the analogy
stands you know that spongebob episode
where spongebob was like verbally
abusing his snail and then it ends up
exploding hmm this is your brain on
negativity any questions a big trip up
can also be comparing yourself to other
people there's definitely positive
aspects of being inspired by people you
look up to but like most things too much
of anything can be bad there's always
gonna be people of a higher skill set
than you so you should try to identify
who you are not who to compare yourself
to that won't be exactly like Bo he's
super great and funny and really smart
but I'm not Bo
I'm such a failure if everyone compared
their skillsets to each other in order
to calculate how much skill and
potential they have then all infant
children should just give up on
everything you think time and practice
is gonna help you improve your drawing
ability baby well think again you suck
right now so you might as well just
throw in the towel your pathetic little
waste of diapers look at your drawing
compared to van Gogh you call those
sunflowers this scribbled math shows no
potential of improvement in the art
field and you've even got more ears than
him you could have like seven years and
still not be capable of creating a
fraction of anything that could be
considered art you're nothing nothing
everyone's on their own timeline even if
someone is the same age or maybe even
younger than you it's still not okay to
compare how much further they are to you
Jeremiah was able to hopscotch to number
eight when he was five I'm 21 and still
get tripped up at the five and six combo
it's all right everyone's got different
variables pushing them forward and
backwards Jeremiah has four legs and
you've only got one you'll get there
with enough practice chimp you've also
got to think about why you want to
improve something is it for yourself or
because you think that's what other
people want from you if you make choices
based on what others want then oops you
played yourself all of a sudden in three
years you're hit with the realization
that you don't know who you are and
you're just a living amalgamation of
other people's expectations
zoinks when I was nine I had a friend
who said her favorite color is blue so I
said my favorite color was blue too
because I wanted her to like me and that
gave us something in common
real critical nine-year-old thinking
there for years I kept with that pattern
of becoming a person I thought other
people would like and saying my favorite
color was blue because people who like
purple are freaks until one year in high
school I suddenly had an identity crisis
and a whole mental breakdown being like
I don't know who I am anymore
all my personality traits are based on
things I've modified for other people my
favorite color isn't even blue we ended
up painting my bedroom walls from blue
to white because of that meltdown don't
paint your wall as a color based on lies
from when you were nine let's flip the
coin and talk about the other side of
the improvement spectrum as much as
people can attach their self-worth to
their failures or shortcomings which is
not good and you should not do that the
same can be applied to earning
achievements it's not uncommon for
people to improve experience success and
then not feel the need to push
themselves any further which can melt
into them being so absorbed in their
accomplishments that they attribute it
to their self-worth becoming arrogant
and a sociopath the douchebag
Jaden this is getting confusing are you
supposed to be proud of ourselves or not
no yes be proud of yourself but don't
get too caught up and and it's okay oh
all this stuff gets so tricky and I
swear we're all just destined to get hit
by a meteor and perish yes you should be
proud of your achievements and
improvements but it's dangerous to link
them or anything to your self-worth or
personality because that's how you
either think you're as worthless as a
speck of dust or brainwash yourself into
thinking you're the reincarnation of God
just don't let your success slash
failure meter affect your personal
behavior meter and it'll be fine I've
asked a bunch of my friends on their
opinion on what to do in situations when
you've gone off the deep end and think
you're all that and about your success
chips and we all agreed it just comes
down to self-awareness when you're
surrounded in a mess of your own success
and so high up on a horse that you can't
hear the echoes of reality the only
person that can make a difference is
your own reality check and desires to
change there's also a tendency for
successful people to be surrounded by
yes men and people who will always agree
with everything isn't that right yeah
totally
toad you're Susan God she's always right
so it can be really difficult to get
that window of clarity where you can
actually see the consequences of who
you've become and don't get me started
on how seeing criticism gets I think you
could move the ice down more there a bit
you're just a hater and I don't my wife
there are different methods to
improvement too you can be actively
seeking to learn more and mindfully
decipher what you need to do to grow or
you can just do your thing and over time
keep on perfecting your skill there's a
lot that goes into self-improvement
it's a whole balancing act of
understanding what you want and not
taking things personally and staying
humble and not getting hit by meteors
but believe it or not with a lot of time
and figuring yourself out it's
very manageable and can become one of
the strongest tools you can use to
become a really balanced awesome humble
incredible super cool person like me hey
thanks for being here
the end of the video I mean not alive
well like it's good that you're alive
but I'm not particularly thanking you
for that but good job anyway hope you
like the video we put a lot of effort
into it you might have noticed I've been
experimenting with writing some more
concept based videos lately instead of
just silly little whatever scripts
that's just me wanting to add more
structure and meaning to videos it's
totally fine to have silly videos and
stuff and I'm not gonna stop them but
I've been wanting to try out being able
to talk about things I think are
interesting and important but challenge
myself to make them entertaining as well
and not like heavy or anything it's been
really fun and I enjoy making videos
more than I ever have which i think is
great I don't want to turn into a
channel that just talks about bettering
yourself and all that stuff though don't
worry that's not the direction I want to
go I just want to be able to talk about
anything the next video is gonna be more
story based again spoilers
yeah well talk to you later bye and
thanks