alright this is going to be a pretty
long video with tons of information on
how to increase your confidence
the whole thing is going to be centered
around the idea of changing yourself now
I know there's a lot of people that are
going to comment about why you shouldn't
change yourself but let me explain if
you always do what you've always done
you'll always get what you've always
done if you want more like you're going
to have to change you're going to have
to grow and in relationship to this
video when changing we are always going
to grow that is in a positive manner so
the first step i'm going to give is to
be more self aware you have to own up to
your weaknesses and be self aware of
what your insecurities are to become
more confident if your self-esteem is
pretty low its most likely because you
have a ton of insecurities and you don't
value yourself
I know it's hard and it's a decision
you're going to have to make on your own
but to be more confident you'll have to
own up to all the parts of you that
sucks
here are some examples for me I get
really jealous in a relationship even
just seeing my girlfriend talk to some
other guys gets to me i know that's
wrong
another insecurity of my hairline all my
goodness i have a horrible hairline that
sucker mix with a weird cowlick that i
have just like condemns me too long hair
i just have to wait long hair otherwise
I look weird which is going to be
interesting when i started balding I
don't even want to think about it
anyways the idea is to own up your
insecurities and figure out if you can
change them
I can't really change my hairline but I
can change my jealousy and I can work on
it now it might take years and it's a
huge mindset change but I'm working on
it and it's that easy
see I can actually joke about my
terrible hairline it's because I owned
up to it it's not a part of me i can
control i don't see there's something
that I identify with
I'm more confident because I know my
weaknesses and i'm working on them it's
difficult at first but when you own up
to your own insecurities and you claim
them it becomes easier to care less
about what others think of you stop
comparing yourself to other people
instead compare yourself to previous
versions of yourself that's actually
accurate data to work with so change the
understanding of yourself
the next step is to change your thinking
to be more confident you're definitely
going to have to change your thinking
now there's a fine line between thinking
confidently and thinking arrogantly if
you
think arrogantly you're going to become
a scummy person and fall into the
pitfalls and failures of an egotistical
person described in ego is the enemy
your goal should be to think positively
specifically of yourself
I don't care how many negative traits
you have or claim if you want to be more
confident you're going to have to
overlook those and stop focusing on them
there's a huge big law and personal
development called the law of attraction
which means the more you focus on
something the more it will manifest
itself in your life
focus on your weaknesses and they'll
become worse focus on your strengths and
Alvaro just like the author of the magic
of thinking big says if you focus on
something even if it's insanely out
there like owning a Lamborghini by the
end of the year if you truly focus on it
your brain will start to find ways to
make it happen it will start focusing on
the possibility and the steps you need
to take to complete the gold your mind
is the most powerful tool you have to
put it to use and start focusing on the
positive in your life and through
perception the negative will start to
fade away now there are times like drug
addiction and other serious life
problems where you shouldn't just sweep
that under the road but when someone
says something rude to you or even
something like your car doesn't start
ignore the negative and look at the
positive it's a little bit like stoicism
now you get a search for a new ride to
work and maybe even need a future best
friend or business partner another way
to be more confident is to forgive
yourself of anything you've ever held
onto it's my only apply to one person
watching this video but it helps them
grow out of that dark place therein it's
worth my time to talk about it now it's
not your fault and if it is dwelling
over it isn't going to get you anywhere
become a better person and grow from it
even if it's just one step to forgive
yourself it's a step in the right
direction
there are a couple of things in my life
I've had to forgive myself of one took a
really hard toll on me because
particularly i heard a lot of people in
my life I might talk about this in
future videos but I forgave myself from
it and look how many people are helping
now moving on let's talk about cognitive
dissonance some famous psychologist said
that if we reduce cognitive dissonance
in our lives we become healthier
individuals and in turn become more
authentic and confidence first cognitive
business is when the things that you
feel things
and say our difference from the actions
that you actually take for example if I
think someone shouldn't be doing
something but I don't say anything
because they are a person or power of
authority i am creating cognitive
dissonance in my mind another example of
the mental stress shown that a person is
driving a car that's bad for the
environment but they would agree that
they were in an environmentally friendly
person cognitive dissonance can happen
even without you knowing and becoming
more self-aware and knowing the full
outcomes of your decisions will help you
in this area although cognitive
dissonance is still technically a series
reducing conflict in belief is a basic
idea of this tip everyone in the voice
has a head that critique their actions
in fact some people have intrusive rocks
that tell them to jump off that cliff or
throw that baby that they're holding
there's a really weird reddit thread i
read that is pretty cool
some even have sought to kill elderly
people or even thought of how easy would
be when they're around older people to
kill it
this doesn't pertain to the video really
but it's called intrusive thoughts
it is something we all have I find
interesting weird but didn't want to
make a whole video on it anyways back to
the inner critic when you do things you
have to stop your inner critic from
talking
uh you're doing that wrong she would
think you're so weird
we're extremely spoiled with no one to
reduce these types of thoughts limit us
and are dangerous to herself worse
usually these inner thoughts are about
what other people think and they should
be dismissed so don't let them creep in
to become more confident person us to
think more clearly without the second
belittling voice chirping it's too since
another tip is to groom dress and look
nice so how you look affects your own of
confidence if you feel like you're
walking around and bagging close that
put down your name you will feel it you
will think it and it will come out in
your actions however some people
including me have noticed that just by
wearing more preppy clothes where
students hi your actions your thoughts
they will actually change another tip is
to set small goals and achieve them for
me this is one of the biggest things
that got me into the initial confidence
that I needed to get out of a really
depressed about my life I started
running actually started walking I would
walk around the block just once and then
when it came time to the second week to
do it
walk around the block twice and it was a
huge accomplishment I really helps me
the idea here is to set goals achievable
goals and make sure you're always
challenging yourself and hitting what
your challenges are I hit 1000
subscribers than 10,000 subscribers than
100,000 subscribers and my confidence
just blew up i'm super comfortable
talking to you guys now be careful with
this soap as stated in my ego is the
enemy book review this can turn into
arrogance and you'll be blind to where
you can improve take the confidence and
use it to better yourself
start by setting SMART goals and
achieving them something else that I
really like to talk about is to hang
around more confident people this is
just common sense and works for anything
in life if you want to be a better
account hang around to other great
account if you want to be a great VOD
player spend time around other c.o.d
players find people who have already
achieved the goals that you want to
achieve and spend some time around them
it's like a shortcut
it's not a cheat code because everyone
has this opportunity you just have to
put in the work the hours in the effort
to spend your time around people that
you want to be like remember the saying
you're the average some of the five
people you spend most of your time
around in your life
well it's true if you want to be more
confident start spending more time
around more confident people also learn
to appreciate everything in the world
including yourself sometimes it takes
falling in love for you to realize that
phone can see that there's great things
about you there are so many amazing
things in this world on this planet and
in your circle of influence that you can
be appreciative about so don't take them
for granted i hope some of my videos
help you with that have some of my
videos show you that there are some
great things out there in this world and
inspire you are short-term message to
increase temporary confidence is to
change your body language in fact body
language is one of the only things that
you can fake it until you make your
physiological posture will change the
hormones in your blood and brain and
make you feel more confident walk like
you're going somewhere
tell your chin up just enough that
you're more confident but not arrogant
smiling helps alot since positivity is
related to self-esteem pull your
shoulders back if you're sitting keep
your legs pointed towards people for
your hands together in a sherlock holmes
fashion so the only your fingertips
touching I like to do this one when
talking look people in the eyes
these tips help most people feel more
confident within a couple of seconds so
they might work for you
another short-term change is the change
the way you look although this can delve
into long-term some people get a sense
of security and confidence from fitting
in which contradicts our first tip but
does work for some people wearing
popular close the newest sunglasses and
even wearing a great cologne fragrance
can help increase your temporary
confidence while making more long-term
changes to your body through
weightlifting exercising and diet can
also impact your self-esteem levels
this is where being self-aware comes in
play you have to know which style and
what you need to do to be more confident
and what will be easier for you one last
short-term changed increased confidence
is to listen too hyped up music I like
to listen to jay Zach I hope you guys
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