Everything is noise. The alarm clock that wakes you up in the
morning. The morning interactions within a family household. The cars that pass on the road and make
unbearable horn sounds during traffic jams. The things we say to each other over the
background noise fill the space we are in. Voices raise so they can be heard over other voices.
During work. During a walk down the street.
During a heated argument. There’s too much noise and too little SILENCE.
We are uncomfortable with silence. We don’t know how to live with it.
We don’t know how to take advantage of it. And that makes an impact of our lives so BIG,
but at the same time so INVISIBLE.
We don’t pause. We don’t pay attention. We don’t learn to look around.
We think we have to say something to mend our situation or to get
the desired outcome but we act by impulse. We say things that weren’t yet ready to be said.
Not yet mature or well developed to create positive change.
Instead, they were just raw enough to make things worse.
There are so many reasons we act like that. We want to be heard so we will be validated.
We want to make people know we are somebody full of worth. We want to make ourselves
look big and gain respect aggressively. We think respect can be taken by force.
We will say anything to try to look good, powerful and important,
but end up saying more than we should have said in the process. The result is catastrophic.
We are caught in a sea of regret, without achieving anything we sought out to achieve.
Silence is the means to mitigate the damages of our impulsive actions.
Silence gives us the time to think about what is best to do. To take action instead of REACTING.
We think we have free will, but to what extent is that true?
If you can’t control your actions, can you really say you are free?
We think of ourselves as logical beings, but the truth is we are actually VERY EMOTIONAL.
When somebody acts angrily at us, we REACT with anger.
When we let ourselves get carried away with our emotions, we give our power away to them.
To achieve self-control, we must make use of silence. Every time we want to do something
we didn’t think through or to react to what is being done to us we have to STOP for a moment.
Take a moment of silence. Let things cool down and take the best approach.
Take your power back. Don’t give in to the temptation of talking without thinking first.
Besides avoiding regret, you will become more observant.
We are so caught up in what we’re going to say next that we don’t realize
what is happening in the world around us. But if we change that approach,
a new world opens up in front of our eyes! People do all sorts of things that can give
away their true intentions or whatever they may be feeling at the moment.
If you start to observe you will notice every change in their tone,
every small movement of their bodies, every hesitant move.
Overall, you will see everything you need to read ANYONE and ANY SITUATION.
And this alone can give you a GREAT advantage. If you have the ability to READ people,
no one can cheat you. No one can outsmart you or make you walk into an uncomfortable situation.
YOU hold all the cards. YOU have the head start. YOU know the truth.
Pay close attention and know who are the people you should keep close to you.
See who’s truthful, hardworking, and fearless, and approach them.
Never get bad company again. This would only drag you down.
Reading people can get you out of situations you would have trouble
resolving if you walked into their trap. Observe and never be deceived again!
Another ability comes along with being observant. It is being a GOOD LISTENER.
Remember when I said earlier that we are so caught up in what we’re going to say
next that we don’t realize the world around us?
That is also what keeps you from being a good listener.
In a conversation, we are more worried about saying smart things and impressing people than
connecting with them. Most time we don’t pay attention to what is being said to us.
But when we stop and listen, something magical happens.
We take away the burden of performing and we start to live in the PRESENT MOMENT.
Living in the moment is very important to keep us grounded in reality.
Many times, we want to take care of every situation that may occur and prepare
for every catastrophe we may encounter.
But nobody can predict the future, so we lose time with that instead of taking focused action.
Does this mean we should never worry about the future?
No! We should plan, at appropriate times.
But we should also remember to live most of our lives during the present.
Because that is when EVERYTHING HAPPENS. And when we listen to people we focus
on their words as they say them. Not before, not after, but at the moment.
Besides, another advantage of being a good listener is that people tend to appreciate that.
If you listen to someone intently, they’ll most likely want to talk to you again
and say good things about you to other people.
And that can create opportunities you can’t even imagine.
But although it is great to have people give opportunities to you,
you should also be able to make them by yourself.
And you can achieve that through POWER. And guess what?
Power is another thing that can be achieved through silence.
Powerful people can impress and intimidate others by saying less.
When someone talks too much and brags about themselves,
you’re likely to think one of two things: either they’re a narcissist or they’re full of shit.
Powerful people don’t need to say how powerful they are. They simply say the right things at the
right moment in a very concise manner and leave. They keep people guessing.
Keep people confused with your silence. You will be mysterious. You will be a puzzle.
People will keep thinking about you while you stay focused on your goals.
Nobody can really know anything about you by what you say, but by what you do.
And the sooner you realize that the sooner you will understand that talking to convince people
about who you are doesn’t work AT ALL. Let them play the guessing game.
Speak only when necessary. Enchant people with your precision.
Nothing is more powerful than well-used silence.
Take advantage of that and see the respect and admiration people hold for you shoot to the stars.
As said before, we are unnerved by silence.
We are not used to it. We relate to it as we would a stranger that we don’t understand at all.
That’s why silence can give you a great advantage in transactional situations.
When you are comfortable with silence you have the upper hand. Instead of jumping into
impulsive actions or conclusions, you can stay comfortably quiet and unnerve the other person.
Negotiations take a turn for your side. Deliberate pauses can make people second guess themselves.
And when that happens it is the perfect moment to go for your desired outcome.
But though silence has been proven to be an essential tool in how you deal with others and
gain advantages during interactions, it is also a powerful tool to better understand yourself.
Silence has the power to help you achieve MENTAL CLARITY.
We are caught up in the craziness of everyday life. We have to deal with numerous problems,
tackle various tasks, and meet tight deadlines. As such, we forget to pause.
We forget to take a moment to do nothing in particular.
To just let yourself be taken by the immense power of silence and contemplation.
With a moment of silence in your everyday life,
you can learn how to quiet your thoughts. You can learn how to understand yourself
better. Feel every emotion deeply and notice every reaction your body has to outside influences.
Stop for a while in silence. Make a habit out of that, and reach a level
of clarity you never thought was possible. With clarity, every decision will be easier.
Throwing away what doesn’t work will be effortless.
And seeing things as they truly are will be as easy as breathing.
Silence will change your inner and outside worlds simultaneously.
Start today and see the change unfold. Don’t tell. Show who you are.
Use the POWER OF SILENCE. And live the life you always wanted to have.