I remember when I was first learning this... when I say "learning this", I mean going out
and approaching women.
We're talking this is 2008, in 2008 I was struggling with approach anxiety.
That was the thing that held me back.
I would stay up really late at night.
I remember listening to Mystery from The Mystery Method and... what was it...
Neil Strauss and watch his old stuff and a little bit of RSD stuff, but I never really
resonated with that as much.
I'd watch this stuff and I'd literally fall asleep listening to stuff.
I remember there's this guy named Hypnotica and he'd had these confidence (he's still
around) he has these confidence audios and I'd listen to these confidence audios and
fall asleep to them.
I have no idea if it worked.
Well, clearly it didn't because even after that, it's not like I jumped out of bed and
started going out and meeting women.
Approaching anxiety, getting in my head, was one of the biggest struggles that I ever had
when it came to going out and meeting women.
I didn't realize it at that point.
I sort of did but really, I was focusing more on what to say and how attraction works.
But it's funny because in that moment, what did any of that stuff matter if I couldn't
go over and get out of my head and talk to a girl?
So what I learned is this, and this is going to be helpful for you as well.
What I learned was a technique that helped me get to the point where I could get over
the approach anxiety and start using the stuff I was learning in terms of building attraction
and physical escalation and closing and all that stuff.
I'll get to that in a second.
The reason why you need to learn this, because I know it was important for me, but why do
you need to learn this?
If you learn how to do this, what's going to happen is it's going to get you into more
conversations, it's going to get you more confident.
And also, (and this is so cool) this beating this fear and getting out of your head, what
it does is it spills out into other areas of your life.
That's what happened to me as well.
I remember that when I became more confident with women and more fearless, all of a sudden
everything else became easier.
I wasn't scared of all the other normal things that you might be scared of or worried about
the future or even public speaking or being in groups of people would always be a little
bit scary.
All that stuff went away because I beat this fear.
And I can only imagine if I didn't learn it and if you don't learn it here or you don't
apply the stuff that I'm teaching you (looks like there's a fly in here) if you if you
don't use it, then it's gonna be hard for you get into a lot of conversations and talk
to a lot of women.
I highly encourage that you use it so you don't just stay in your comfort zone your
whole life and not using it.
What am I talking about?
I'm talking about the 3 second rule.
That was one of the first things I ever learned, probably one of the most important techniques
ever.
Coined from Mystery who, I don't even know, I think he's still around doing stuff, but
not anymore or not as much as he used to.
But I remember this one concept and it was great.
So what's the 3 second rule?
It's getting into conversation as fast as you can.
You have 3 seconds to go over and talk to a girl.
That's it.
I know that that alone is not going to do anything for you.
I know like, okay, now you're just gonna go out in 3 seconds boom, you'll approach a girl
no problem.
I'm very realistic.
That's not what happened to me.
What's gonna happen is you're gonna now have this filter in your head.
You're gonna understand, okay, it's gonna take 3 seconds for me to go over and talk
to a girl.
At least that's what the goal is.
You might want to try going out and practicing, giving yourself 10 seconds and then 9 and
then 7 and then 6, 5, maybe 3 and get there.
Get there as fast as you can but try to get to the point where maybe you're starting with
a longer amount and then going down, down, down till you get to that point.
That's what's gonna help you get out of your head.
If you understand how to go over there and do it in 3 seconds, what it's going to train
you, what it trained me to do is get out of my head and into action.
This is really important.
You can consistently train yourself to get out of your head and into action by just moving
and going instead of overthinking and thinking about it.
Here's another tip I have for you.
You want to have a couple of things of conversation that you're going to say so you're not sitting
there thinking about what to say while you're in conversation.
You don't want to be talking to a girl and then not listening to her and then thinking
about "what do I say next?"
"what do I say next?"
Now you're in your head.
What helped me is some training wheels.
The training wheels of have a couple of conversation topics ready to go that you can use in conversation.
Just to train you at first.
The pickup artists used to call this a routine.
They'd have full routines that they would repeat.
It would be like a 5, 10, 15 minute routine.
I don't think you need to do that.
I think that just trains you to learn routines and not be in a normal conversation.
But it's okay to have a smaller routine based on a couple of conversation topics.
What you can do is... and I have this for free, maybe you've got this, I've had this
for a while.
It's called Chick Crack.
There's a link in the description down below where you can get that.
That's topics of conversation that women love.
You can take some of those topics, memorize them and then bring them up in the conversations
so you're out of your head and into action.
One of my favorite ones is astrology.
I love this because either women strongly believe in astrology (most do) or they really
don't.
I rarely meet anyone who's who's neutral on the topic.
You can bring it up and say "hey, what's your sign?"
"I'm curious, what's your sign?"
You can just bring that up in conversation and they're like "oh my sign is I'm a Pisces.
I'm an Aries.
I'm a Gemini."
She'll be like what are you?
And then if she says on the other hand, that's stupid, I don't believe in that stuff.
Then you can say me neither if you don't.
Or if you do, you can say why it's amazing.
It's interesting.
I love learning about it, whatever.
That's a really good one.
If you want to it check out, there's 4 more of those in Chick Crack.
You can check it out again down in the description below.
I want you to use the 3 second rule and then use a topic of conversation so you can move
the interaction forward.
Here's a way to combine this.
Here's what you can do right now.
This video isn't just a random video that you watched and it did nothing for your life.
If you actually want to use this material, what you can do is pick a time this week,
like right now.
Pause the video and pick a time this week that you're going to go out and you're going
to practice getting over and approaching a girl and saying hi, or saying whatever you
want, in under 3 seconds or right about 3 seconds.
So you can't go home until you approach a girl in 3 seconds.
That's what you can do and then here's a bonus, extra credit for you.
In one of these approaches try to bring up a topic of conversation.
It can be the astrology thing I mentioned.
It could be something else, whatever you want just so you're out of your head and more in
the interaction.
Try that.
See if it works for you.
I really hope this helps.
And if you want to take it to the next level, you can check out my program Hooked at Get
Her Hooked dot com.
I'll leave a link in the description down below.
That's going to teach you the whole system in terms of meaning and attracting women and
going out and making it work for you.
If you want to dive deeper into this and make it part of your lifestyle instead of just
this video, check that out.
Hope that helps.
I'll see you on the next video.