Hey, it's Mark here, founder of Make Him Yours and creator of Find Love in Five Steps. Today,
we are discussing one of my favorite things to see a woman master. It is the fine art
of how to get a guy to approach you. You're gonna love it. Stay tuned.
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All right, welcome to the video. Thanks for tuning in. Today, we are discussing the fine
art of how to get the guy you want to approach you. So I do live workshops where I coach
this and I'm really excited to show this to you today. Now, first lesson in getting a
guy to approach you is really important. You have to initiate the interaction. Now, right
now you're probably like what? What did he say? What? So yes, I did say that you have
to initiate with the guy. So let me explain. Here's a statement I hear a lot from women.
Guys never approached me. I just get the drunks or the creepers. If you've found yourself
making this statement before, then you have fallen victim to the myth that men are the
ones who initiate interactions. You're waiting for it to happen. And it won't because you
haven't yet made it happen.
Now what do I mean by initiating? So I don't mean that you have to walk over and start
the conversation with the guy, but you can do that. What I mean is you have to initiate
by giving him the nonverbal signals and making yourself seem approachable. So there's a second
thing I hear a lot from women and that is if he doesn't have the gonads who approach
me, he doesn't deserve me. I hear that a lot, right? And it's wrong. You say men evolved
their psychology not in the last 500 years, but in the last 500,000 years. Now, during
this time we all lived in tribes of say between 50 and 150 people. Now, why is this important?
Well, if there's only an average of a hundred people in a tribe and there's only average
of safe 50 women, and once you take out the ones who are too old, too young, too sick,
or taken by other men, that maybe leaves 10 women at the most, that one man has to approach
in his whole life, his whole life. That's, that's all the options he had. So if he went
and approached that woman and made a fool of himself, she would tell her friends and
her friends, were all the women in that tribe, right? All the women that guy would meet for
life now think he's a loser. And so approaching a woman over all this time became a life or
death issue. So the men that survived were the ones who learned fear. They learned to
hold back a little bit and pick their moments. That's why if you ask a guy today, what's
scary between approaching a group of women or walking along the edge of a cliff, most
men would say the women. And that's why men have evolved these hesitancy in approaching
you. Because when you think about it today, it kind of makes no sense. If he approached
50 women and 40 women didn't like him, it's still have 10 women. Right? So it would make
a lot of sense to do that. And yet men don't do that.
And so this is why you can't say if he doesn't have the gonads to approach me, he doesn't
deserve me because there's lots of awesome, kindhearted guys out there who'd make great
partners, but they won't approach you unless you initiate them to do so. So if you don't
initiate, you'll end up being the one that says, guys never approached me. I just get
the drunks or the creepers because they're the only guys that will approach uninvited
if you don't initiate. Your art form, therefore, as a woman is to get him to believe that his
chances of success are high enough that he should get over his fear. Now this might sound
like a lot of work, but he's still the one that has to walk over to you, right? So the
least you can do is help them out a little bit.
Okay. So how do you initiate, how do you make yourself more approachable? What are the nonverbal
signs you can use? So this is where you want to bring in your flirting tools, your best
initiation, flirting tools. And the first most obvious one is your eyes. Now, in dating,
most women underused their eyes, especially when it comes to initiating with men. So depending
on the situation, you usually have to hold eye contact for two to four seconds straight,
often repeated for you know, a couple of times over, over 10, five to 10 minutes. So that's
the true like one, two, three, four. It's a lot of eye contact, right? Repeated two
to three times, you're probably going to feel desperate or even weird doing that. But I
promise you, you're not. This is just how clueless men are. You have to make it that
kind of obvious.
And number two, you also have to smile at him. So if you just stare down at him, that's
just scary, right? He may think you want to kill him. He may think you hate him. Who knows?
Remember your goal is to make yourself approachable. And that's exactly what happens when you smile.
The other initiating tool that you want to consider is your energy and this gets communicated
so many ways, you know, through the openness of your body language towards him, through
your expressiveness, in what you're saying to your friends and just how positive and
inviting, you know all your interactions are with other people around. All those things
will add up to make you seem really inviting to talk to for a guy. So when you combine
a smile, eye contact and a positive kind of inviting energy, any man is going to get the
message straight that you want him to come over. and meet you.
Being able to invite a guy over to you anytime, day or night when you know perhaps there is
more physically beautiful women around you and that guy only has eyes for you and he
comes straight over to you while they watch. That is a cool thing to be able to do, right?
I love coaching it in my workshops. And look, that's it for the video today. Thanks for
watching. I hope you enjoyed. If this topic's interested you and you'd love to learn more.
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