quit porn and get
lucky I'm Dr Trish Leigh welcome back for another episode of porn brain rewire the podcast uh this
is our St Patty's Day episode so if you know me I am all Irish which is very fun and exciting
on St Patty's Day so today I want to talk about how you can create your own luck when you quit
porn and how it's very diff ult to do so without quitting porn so what we're going to talk about
is number one there is no such thing as luck so what is it I'm going to break that down in just
a second number two quote unquote luck comes from the optimal brain pattern I'm going to share with
you how porn damages your brain and it makes it so it's very difficult or impossible to get into that
regulated brain pattern and number three is going to be your brain hack strategy for the day on how
you can create your own luck so let's dig into number one number one is there's no such thing as
luck now for a long time my uh my sister if you're listening dear sister every time I've had an
accomplishment she has said to me you're so lucky and it makes me think of yes a song from Eminem
and Skyler Gray which I've talked about before uh which the title's escaping me so I'll think
of it in a second but it makes me think about all the hours of intention Focus perseverance
and being able to show up so that I can create the moment that everybody sees as lucky there's
a lot of hard work that goes into being lucky let let me tell you that now it also is to a certain
extent a spiritual experience and a manifestation experience because pragmatically I know that if I
set the intention I work slowly and in a very deliberate and a concentrated fashion that yes
uh the universe is going to show up and meet me in that journey and it's going to offer up the
opportunities toward me that I am working for and that's a very spiritual experience so I believe
I'm co-creating this life of mine that I'm showing up and doing what I need to do but that also these
wonderful opportunities are coming towards me the opportunities cannot come towards me unless I'm
pragmatically doing what I need to do that's why there's no such thing as luck you can't sit around
on your couch for the most part watching porn damaging your brain not doing anything anything
on purpose and get lucky so that's will bring us to number two is what's happening in your brain
when you create your own luck opposed to when you're escaping trying to get away from your life
and unfortunately making yourself unlucky so the optimal brain pattern which I call the green zone
it's a brain map that has all the speeds regulated so if you remember if you've listened to this
podcast before there's three primary categories of speed in your brain there's slow speed which
I call breaking there's medium speed which I call neutral and there's fast speed which I call
gassing so you need your brain to be gassing at the perfect amount we'll call it 45 mil hour you
also need to make sure your brain does not have the brakes on in the day we only want the brakes
on for sleep and you don't want to be permanently shifted into neutral porn shifts you into neutral
and the reason you keep going back to it is you want something to shift you out of gassing into
neutral as fast as possible unfortunately porn is a supern normal stimulus which means it shifts you
fast and hard into neutral and unfortunately many people get stuck in neutral so I've been
characterizing the two brain patterns behind the porn cycle and then sexual arousal dysfunction
function as strained brain strained brain you'll feel your brain is running between anxious and
exhausted overwhelmed in spinning your wheels and completely numbed out that's the pendulum effect
of strained brain if you use strain brain for too long consistently frequently and especially
with high levels of intensity from porn you will tip yourself eventually into drain brain drain
brain is is artificial consistent neutral this shows up as lack of motivation um really being
off purpose it not only do you have underlying feelings of anxiety but they've kind of dimmed
down and now you mostly feel General malaise and depression these brain patterns are at the core
of arousal dysfunction overall and sexual arousal dysfunction especially erectile dysfunction so a
disre regulated dysfunctional brain pattern leads to disregulated dysfunctional Acts or behaviors of
your mind and your body so what people don't understand is if they struggle with a mental
health or a cognitive issue there is neurological disregulation underneath that if you struggle with
a physical problem like Ed neurological regulation is existing underneath it in
9,999 cases out of 10,000 I just had this conversation with Zack Carter who's working
with many men with erectile dysfunction he offers an assessment for Ed and he wanted to know you
know how many people I actually thought didn't have a physical component and it's even higher
than that I would contend it's 99,999 people out of 100,000 don't have a physical issue with their
sex organ it may show up as a physiological issue but it's coming from brain disregulation
and now I can see it in the Q brain map that I perform I've seen it in hundreds of brains so if
you struggle with going back into the screen or sexual arousal dysfunction especially Ed I want
you to know there's a disregulated dysfunctional brain pattern at the core that brain pattern is
making you very unlucky in the bedroom so if you want to get lucky it's time to heal your
brain let's move to number three so number three is your brain hack strategy for the day if your
brain is disregulated from desensitizing it from high level stimuli known as supernormal stimuli
porn this solution is multifold and it goes like this number one stop desensitizing your
brain you may not even know what you're doing to desensitize your brain if that's the case you need
to get into my three steps to heal Ed from home program it's very affordable you can find it on
my website Dr Trish le.com it teaches you how you're desensitizing your brain and what you
can do to resensitize it which leads us to number two in your brain hack strategy figure out all the
hypersexual behaviors that you are engaging in and stop desensitizing your brain then set the
lucky intention of what you want your sex life to look like what do you want and make sure your
actions and your behaviors of your mind and your body are leading you toward that not away from
that so if you want to have an amazing sex life with your honey you can't be watching porn where
you're becoming highly stimulated from other people consuming them from the fourth wall and
coupling that with masturbation Which is higher level physical and mental stimulation if you're
constantly stimulating yourself away from your partner no wonder why you can't get an erection
or you can't have an orgasm with that partner you can't because your brain needs this highlevel
stimuli and your partner is no longer doing it for you because you've coupled your brain to
porn in masturbation and you've uncoupled it from your partner it's time to get coupling your brain
back toward your partner no problem no partner no problem if you don't have a partner then you need
to stop coupling your brain towards the screen and start coupling your brain towards candidates
to be your partner actual other human beings porn makes it so that you lose sight of the distorted
unreality that's happening in the screen opposed to the beautiful reality that you could be lucky
to have but unfortunately most people cannot have it both ways the supernormal stimul of
porn ensures that because it will always pull you back towards the screen and it will never push you
towards your partner so remember that so in your brain hack strategy stop desensitizing your brain
and pull pulling it away from the sex life that you want in your actual life start resensitizing
your brain toward that lucky life that you want to have number three is if you can't resensitize
your brain yourself there's technology that can do it so if you want to learn about that I offer
a program called Brain Training 101 I teach you how to get the brain training headband at
the best price and with the best customer customer service and once you have it exactly how to use it
to heal the arousal dysfunction in your brain it's as easy as that now there's a personal trainer for
your brain performance pattern that can guide it back towards that optimal mode if you want
to meet with me personally I offer a very high level service called Q brain mapping I'm lucky to
be one of the only people who offer this service world wide I can see exactly the dysfunctional
brain patterns that are in there in every area how they're impacted how high or low the magnitude of
use is of those three brain speeds and how they combined to be strained brain drained brain or
a combination of the two so if you want me to be able to connect the dots between your history how
you use your brain currently and what your brain is doing sign up for the qeg brain map cuz I'd
love to spend time with you and show you the path forward all right as we wrap up I want you to know
there's no such thing as being lucky and that's coming from one lucky girl it's because I show up
intentionally each day and very pragmatically create my own luck you can do that now too if
you want more help on this journey please go over to Dr Trish Leigh.com my 90-day program has all the
steps that you need to be able to to learn how to create your own luck over the next 90 days
while you're leaving porn behind and getting on purpose in your life I hope you hope I hope
to see you in the program soon all right until next time control your brain or it'll control
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