Hi. In this video, we're going to talk about one way you can know for sure
that a man wants a relationship with you.
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Hi there. Mat Shaffer, your empowerment, connection, and relationship coach.
I am a former attorney who has committed his life to supporting women like you
in creating the sort of fulfilling, enjoyable, and meaningful relationships
that you are so worthy of.
Today, we're going to explore something that men do
that almost always indicates that they want to be in a relationship with you.
I'm excited to dig into that, but before we do, take a second,
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How can we know that a man is interested
and actually pursuing a relationship with you?
There's lots of ways that men indicate interest,
but it's a little different when a man is actually looking at you
and thinking to himself, "You know what?
This is someone that I think I could be with for a long time."
I know so many of you out there, that's what you're craving.
It's that long-term, committed, passionate,
fulfilling, meaningful relationship.
Let's talk about the one thing that really is a great indicator
that a man is looking at you,
and he's seeing that potential in you and in your connection with him.
First off, I want to give you a little context.
The context is that men are builders.
What do we mean by that,
that men, in their lives, are constantly building things and creating?
They're doing it at work.
They're building their career.
They're building their income.
They're building their legacy with their work
and what they're creating in their job,
but they're not just doing it at work.
They're also building in relationships.
Actually, long-term relationships are, for a lot of men,
it's something that they're building and creating
just like what they're doing at work.
Actually, one of the greatest ways you can tell
that a man wants a long-term relationship with you
or he's seeing you that way
is if he's demonstrating that he wants to build a long-term relationship with you.
What does it look like if a man wants to build a relationship with you?
How is he going to treat you?
How is he going to talk to you?
Let's talk about three ways that a man is demonstrating to you
that he wants to build a long-term relationship with you.
We're going to start with the most general and go down to the most specific,
so be sure to stay to the end of this video to get them all.
One of the first telltale signs
that a man sees you as long-term relationship material
is that he's talking about his life and his goals.
He's talking about his long-term aspirations,
and he's giving you a sense of what kind of life he wants to have.
Why would that be a sign that he wants a long-term relationship with you?
Well, he's basically communicating to you indirectly,
that he sees you potentially as part of that vision.
If he's got a vision for what he wants his life to look like.
If he had dismissed you from consideration of being a part of that,
he probably wouldn't share it with you.
He wouldn't be talking to you, maybe, if he wants a family.
"Oh, someday, it would be so nice to have kids.
I really see myself as a father."
If a man has already written you off as a potential partner
in parenting and all that stuff,
he's not going to want to talk to you about that
because it's not going to be a subject he's comfortable communicating with you.
If a man is talking to you about his long-term goals, his aspirations,
his dream for his life, and his family, and his development as a person,
that's an indirect sign that he sees you as someone
that he might want to build that future with.
Now, a second and more specific way that men indicate
that they see you as a long-term prospect
is if they start talking to you about dates in the future like,
"Oh, I'd love to go on a hiking trip in six months.
Wouldn't it be cool to go on an adventure to Rome next year?"
They start, basically, future visioning and planning dates with you
way out ahead of time.
That's a great sign that a man sees you as a long-term possibility
because, otherwise, he truly would not do that.
He might not be doing this consciously,
but he's wanting you to see him as a long-term mate, as a long-term partner.
When a man really gets that sense of wanting to be with a woman long-term,
he's going to want to establish with her an understanding.
"Hey, we're in this together.
There are things that I want to do with you,"
because men are-- They're builders.
They're planners.
If a man is telling you plans,
and he's wanting you to be a part of those plans down the road,
chances are he sees you as a long-term prospect,
and it would be really powerful for you
to encourage him as he's doing this planning.
Play with him, talk to him about the things you would love to do in Rome,
speak from your heart, speak from your feelings
and encourage him in his planning,
and let him know how much you would enjoy being a part of it.
It's really going to fuel his imagination and help keep the wheels turning
and get him more and more excited and invested in you
and what you two are going to be doing together.
This is a really powerful way for you to just co-create a vision
for the plans that you want to have down the road.
I want you to recognize your power in this situation
because if a man is seeing you as a long-term prospect,
that's something that you can actually either encourage, and invite,
and evoke him deeper into through letting him know how it makes you feel,
letting him know how excited you are,
really playing with him in that imaginative space,
or you can totally pump the breaks on it and let him know,
"Oh, I don't know where I'm going to be in six months.
Let's not get ahead of ourselves."
Either way, know that you, as the woman, you are the conductor of the heart.
You have a ton of power in this situation.
Lastly, and maybe most importantly,
the biggest way to know if a man sees you as a long-term prospect
and someone he wants to build a relationship with
is if he connects you with the other long-term people in his life.
If he connects you and introduces you
and wants you to foster relationships with his family, with his friends,
with the people that he's known forever,
that means when he connects you with those people,
it means he sees you as one of them.
It means he sees you as somebody that he could be with for the long haul.
If he wants you to be one of those people,
you get to meet those other people in his life who he's had with him indefinitely
and who he sees with him on into the future.
Men are constantly looking into the future in that sense.
If a man is drawing you in and he's connecting you with the people
that have been with him for a while and will be with him indefinitely,
chances are he's seeing you as one of them as well.
Then the opposite is, of course, also true
if a man is specifically not connecting you and not allowing you to come into contact
with his family, with his friends, and with the long-term people in his life,
that would be a pretty big red flag
that he doesn't see you as a long-term prospect.
If that's the kind of relationship you're looking for,
it's probably a good time for you to pull back and start exploring other options.
Remember, ladies, men are builders.
The most important way to know that a man wants a commitment with you
is if he's demonstrating that he wants to build a relationship with you.
There are three primary ways to know that.
First off, if he's talking about his vision for his life,
he's letting you know his goals,
he's letting you know the type of family he wants to have,
whether he wants to have kids,
and he's giving you that long-term snapshot of the kind of life he wants to have,
he's indirectly letting you know
that he's considering you for a role in that life.
Take that as a great sign because if he didn't see you as a possibility
in that picture that he's talking about, he wouldn't be sharing it with you.
Secondly, if he just starts making plans with you that are far out in the future,
six months from now, a year from now,
talking about trips and adventures he wants to take or anything like that,
he's letting you know he wants to make plans with you,
and he's engaging in the creative process with you.
That's a powerful opportunity for you to fuel his imagination,
encourage him, and invite him to go deeper into it.
Let him know how fun it would be, how great it would make you feel
to go to Kauai six months from now,
or an adventure you'd love to take on your anniversary next year.
Play in that space with him,
and you're really going to help him become even more invested in your relationship
and all the possibilities that it presents down the road.
Lastly, and most importantly,
one of the most important ways that a man will show
that he wants a long-term relationship with you and he sees you in that way
is if he connects you with the other long-term people in his life,
if he introduces you to people in his family,
if he connects you and wants you to hang out with his back home friends
or his childhood friends that he's known forever.
If he connects you with these long-term people,
it means he sees you as one of them.
That's something for you to really encourage,
and let him know how much you appreciate it.
Do your best to connect with and build relationships with these people.
If you can just honor, and appreciate, and encourage a man
as he demonstrates to you these three things,
it's really going to give you the best shot of developing
this long-term relationship with him that I know you want.
I hope you enjoyed this video.
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and don't forget to click that link in the comments and caption.
I have created some great content that I know is going to help you
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