- Heya, playa.
Have you ever sent a text message to your crush
and sat there hoping, waiting,
praying that they would respond to you?
And all you got back was a one word answer?
What gives?
Why do they give you one-word answers?
What are you supposed with that?
I'll tell you how to respond to them right after this.
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One-word answers like idk, cool,
or even just an emoji as a response
can be incredibly frustrating
because what do you say in response to that?
I mean, here you are trying to have a conversation,
maybe you asked a question,
maybe you're following up on something,
or maybe you're just starting an interaction by saying hey,
and all you get back is this short, little response,
and it's nothing to go off of,
they haven't really given you a real answer.
A lot of times, people make the mistake
of starting a very bare bones conversation.
Maybe you'll say something like hey or just even what's up
and you're hoping that your crush
is gonna launch into something,
that they're gonna actually start the real conversation.
Sure, you may have made the introduction
but did you lead the way into an actual conversation?
If you're starting the conversation
with something very basic,
like hey, what's up, how's it going,
and you're hoping that your crush
is gonna fill in the gaps there,
what you're basically doing
is passing the ball over to them.
You're not actually starting the conversation
because the real response that has to be given
has to come from them.
Meaning, by you saying something like what's up,
now they have to formulate what's going on,
they have to come up with something to talk about,
so you haven't really started anything,
you just passed it along.
And it might sound weird
because this is how normal people talk, right?
You say hey or what's up and they give you an answer,
you guys kind of carry on from there, but we're not talking
about having a normal conversation here.
We're talking about you talking to your crush,
you getting them involved in the conversation.
If you like them and they don't really like you back
or you're not sure how they feel about you,
you have to be the one
that really initiates something substantial,
something worth engaging with,
something that they want to talk to you about.
The reason why I always say start with a question
or lead them with a story
is that you're giving them something tangible to work with.
They can share their honest opinion based on what you said.
For example, if you ask a question,
like, hey, this new movie just came out.
Me and my friends were thinking about going to watch it.
What do you think?
Do you like these types of movies?
In that question, you give them the chance
to share their opinion on those types of movies,
that movie in particular,
and then once they kind of give you their answer,
you can always dive deeper into the conversation.
You could say, well, what other types of movies do you like?
What's your favorite movie of all time?
When's the last time you saw a movie in actual theater?
And look, let's be honest,
just because you ask a question doesn't mean your crush
is gonna give you a full in-depth answer.
They may very well give you just one word
or one phrase or just keep it very brief.
Now, I know that could be incredibly frustrating
because you're trying to get something going
and they're just not going along with it.
But I think it's still important
to go deeper into the conversation.
After you ask that question,
still ask those initial follow-up questions
because I think as you do that more and more,
hopefully they're gonna start to see
that this is a topic you're interested in talking about.
And if they're interested too,
they'll eventually open up and start sharing.
Now, when it comes to telling a story,
this is your opportunity here to be a little flirty
in how you talk to them, or to omit details
so that they can ask more follow-up questions.
The whole point here
is not just to kind of unload something on them,
but to have them engaged with the storytelling process.
In fact, I'm gonna link up a video over here
of a story that I told a girl in a bar
that got her super engaged and hooked in the conversation.
So, you definitely gonna wanna check that out
after you finish this video.
But really, there's only so much that you can do.
You can try to put everything out there
and start conversations
but they may just not feel comfortable yet in talking to you
or they may just not know what to say.
We forget sometimes that our crushes can also be shy,
and one-word answers might be indicative of that shyness.
Or boredom.
Maybe your conversation just isn't engaging enough
and they're giving you these one-word answers
just so that they don't appear as mean
or rude for ignoring you.
You have to start learning more about your crush.
That's the only way
that they're gonna start opening up to you.
If they don't really know you that well
and you don't really know enough about them
to talk about things that they like,
well then, you're not gonna get
the type of response you're looking for.
So, I think what you need to do
is to try to talk to them more in person if you can
and then also text them, but try to learn more
about their hobbies and their interest.
If you can go into conversations
that they would enjoy talking about,
you're gonna have a much better chance
of getting a real response from them.
And just to clear things up,
don't ever bring up an anger or annoyance
the fact that they're giving you these one-word answers.
Yes, I know it could be frustrating
but if you point it out and you say something rude,
it's only gonna make them shutdown.
So, you may wanna joke around about it
and say something like, you're a really chatty person today.
That might be an easy way to kind of point it out
without making it too obvious that you're annoyed by it.
And if your conversations
are going from back and forth texting
to just texting once in a while
to just getting short answers from them here and there,
you're definitely gonna wanna check out the video over here
where I talk about five things you can do
if a girl ignores your text.
If you feel like they're just not responding to you
or you're just not getting the type of responses
that you want, this video's gonna help you figure that out.
On that note, guys, I'll catch you next time.
As always, love and peace.