If your period of No Contact is almost up and you’re getting ready to meet your ex,
you need to be very careful. This is a crucial time. You want to show them that you’ve changed
as a person. You want to rebuild the relationship BUT there is the risk that you might do or
say the wrong thing and completely blow it. Well, you’re in luck because in this video,
I’m going to teach you exactly what NOT to do when meeting up with your ex.
First, let me introduce myself for those of you who don’t know who I am. My name is Brad Browning,
and I'm known as the “Ex Back Geek” here on Youtube. I teach men and women around the world
tactics that help them get their exes back, and I’ve been pretty successful at it. So, if you’re
looking to reunite with your ex then please do yourself a BIG favour and subscribe right now.
Before we get into the rules here, you need to make sure you’re in the right place to start
winning your ex back. Have you employed the No Contact method? This is a period of 30 days
following your breakup where you don’t communicate with your ex in ANY WAY. There’s way more to
it than that (check out my other videos on the topic in the description below)
but just know that this advice won’t work without No Contact. It’s a package deal.
Also, I’ll ask you this: have you begged and pleaded with your ex for a second chance
since the breakup? If this happened within a couple days of the breakup and never again,
that’s one thing, but if it was more recent then you need to know that this is going to
put your ex on edge and that’s going to make this meeting much more difficult.
Another factor is your emotional state. If you’re extremely depressed,
anxious and worried and you don’t think you’ll be able to hold it together when you see your ex,
then it’s probably best to put this meeting off for now. Remember,
this is a crucial moment and it’s better to wait another week or two rather than screwing it up.
So with all that out of the way, let’s dive into what you shouldn’t do
when meeting up with your ex.
1. Don’t call it a date
How you frame your first meeting can either hurt your chances or help them.
If you call your casual coffee meet up a date,
you’ll probably send your ex running because he or she will feel like you’ve decided that you two
are getting back together. Remember that you’re trying to make your ex comfortable and slowly
reintroduce yourself back into their life and this means NOT putting a ton of pressure on them.
So you need to make sure that your ex only thinks of your meet up as just a friendly
get together and that’s it. If your ex feels that you’re trying to get back for romantic reasons,
they’ll put up walls and they may find reasons to not see you. To prevent this from happening,
make sure that you have a very good reason for meeting up with your ex.
Do not say you want to meet up just to say ‘hi’ or because you miss him or her.
Only say that you want to meet up because you have some important questions to ask.
For example, let’s say you wanted to take up playing the piano and your ex was an extremely
talented musician. Tell your ex that you want to meet up for coffee so you can ask him or her
questions regarding music and piano. This way, your ex won’t feel threatened or intimidated
by your coffee date, and they’ll be much more relaxed and receptive to you. This also gives
a little structure to the meeting which will make it easier to fill in awkward moments.
And whatever you do, just make sure that you DO have a lot of important questions
about “playing the piano”, or whatever it is, when you meet up with your ex.
Coming up with a specific reason to meet your ex isn’t always easy. If you’re still not sure,
please put your idea in the comments and I’ll let you know if it’s a good one.
2. Don’t bring up your past relationship
Remember, your ex is there because he or she thinks you want to get together as
friends--and that’s it. If you suddenly bring up the topic of your breakup, or issues that
plagued your relationship, you’ll put your ex on the spot and you’ll blow your chances.
The key to winning your ex back is ATTRACTION. You need to naturally and organically make your
ex miss you and chase you, and dredging up the past is not attractive or exciting. In short,
you need to make your ex feel GOOD when they’re around you -- only then
will he or she feel compelled to take you back and pursue building a stronger relationship.
If you’re interested in learning more about these subtle attraction secrets, then head over to my
website, BreakupBrad.com, and watch the free video presentation there. In it, you’ll discover
the top 3 attraction secrets that WILL make him or her consider getting back together with you.
3. Don’t beg or plead
Any sort of erratic or dramatic behaviour will make your ex run for the hills. As
I say in my Ex Factor program, begging and pleading is a massive attraction destroyer.
I mean, put yourself in the position of your ex… do you think you’d feel attraction for a person
that’s literally begging on their hands and knees for you? Probably not -- if anything,
you’d probably feel pity for him or her. Remember, the most attractive people in the
world are confident individuals who don’t give a damn about what other people think of them… and
this is EXACTLY the kind of mindset that you need to have before meeting up with your ex.
And even if you’re not down on your knees with tears in your eyes, this is still going to hurt
your chances. So don’t try to kiss them. Don’t try to steer the conversation in that direction.
Don’t even hint that you want them back. Trust me, you’re not being as subtle as you think.
4. Don’t complain
If you’re complaining about your life or about how lonely you are or how depressed you’re feeling,
you’re only going to drive your ex further and further away from you…
and again, this is NOT attractive behaviour.
In order for you to make yourself as attractive as possible to your ex,
you need to show them you’re doing well. That means your work, school,
friends, and dating...yes, DATING...are all doing well. By showing off how amazing your life’s been
since the breakup, you’re subtly conveying to your ex that THEY missed out by breaking up with you…
and they’re going to start wondering why they were stupid enough to let you go in the first place.
5. Don’t ask them about their dating life.
The moment your ex thinks you’re over them is the moment that they’re going to want you back. So you
need to make them think that you don’t care about who they’re dating or what’s going on in their
love life. If you pry into who they’re dating, then you’re going to seem like you’re worried that
he or she will find someone else. Of course, I know you DO care, but for now, you can’t show it.
Remember: your only goal of this short meetup is to let your ex know that you’re flourishing!
And that just about does it for this video -- if you’re interested in checking out more of
my videos, then please subscribe to my channel and check the links in the description below.
And again, if you’re interested in learning some more covert, psychological strategies
that will help you get your ex back in your arms, then visit BreakupBrad.com
and watch the free video presentation there. That’s all for today, folks! Talk to you soon!