The life and the gifts, the family and all of the events. That can be such a fun
time but also such a stressful time. I'm talking about the holiday season. And
today we're here with Kirk and Kim Duncan from 3 Key Elements to help us figure it
out. Okay. -This time of year because there's a lot of deadlines, right?
There's a lot of family parties. A lot of things because everybody's trying
to get everything done. And their new... -If
feel stressed if I'm not enjoying the holiday season, is that a reflection of
my environment or is it a reflection of me? Is it my fault? -Oh, that's a really
good question because time management influences things, right? And then how
many times we say yes to things like how many things are doing. -So maybe a
combination? -Yeah. -But the environment can impact it.
-Absolutely. The environment impacts it but then we have responsibility to
decide. Are we going to say yes to everything? Are we going to just like... -Here's
how you catch it though. This now you catch it. It's you find out if you're stressed
overwhelmed by how you talk to people. -Yes. -So in your conversation, when you
start to be short or your sentences are not complete and especially when the
other person... -Or you start making not making sense. And then it causes poor
communication. -Yes. -Which then... -You're arguing with other.
-So as soon this communication starts to happen take it on for yourself
to go. I got to do something about... -there's an issue here. -I got to do
something. So that's step 1 with dealing is just recognizing that there's an issue. -And
then what you do. Once you start to recognize that there's some of this
miscommunication going on, What we got to do is take a moment and you got to change
up your atmosphere. Meaning, go outside. Even though it's cold to get your boots
on gear jacket and go outside and literally chill for a moment. Get away
from the moment. Got to be able to change that up. You need to just get away from
the moment because you're wound up tight. -So, get outside? What's interesting that you
say that like relaxation is so important and yet so many of us say,
"We're so busy like we want to relax and yet we just don't make that time for
ourselves." -Yeah, when you see this chance, when you see the miscommunication start
to happen, jump on that relaxation step immediately or you're going to start
causing more and more problems. -Often sometimes, though with relaxation
something it's not we think that it has to take a long time. -Yes. -When in reality,
you could just walk out the door and take 5 seconds to get... -So you can
reconnect yourself and then go back and reconnect people.
-I'm glad you point that out because you're right. A lot of us think, "Oh, I
don't have vacation." -Right. -But... -Just walk out your front door. -Right. Okay. So,
you can relax, you and also meditate. -Yes. -And let's talk about that. That's a
buzzword lately. -Yes. I want to share that one because even like on the way this
morning that coming here, I was having all these things I was trying to take
care of it I felt myself. Breathing shorter and when you breathe... When you
don't breathe and you start to have shallow breathing,
you don't think correctly because your oxygen doesn't go to your brain. So I had
to consciously take a few seconds and just calm myself down ,take about some deep breaths.
-When you think about 3 or 4 things at a time, you can manage that. But it could when it gets to be
7 to 10 to 20, then your brain overloads and the only way you can
really get a management of that is to start managing your breathing. -That's
felt so good. Like I just really deep breath in and it sounds dumb. But it's like I
haven't been breathing there or something.
-I know that brings oxygen to your brain and then it allows you to actually think
better and more clearly and actually expands the capacity in your mind to be
able to manage everything. -It calms down. -So,
we can relax and we can breathe deeply. -If you're stressed and you got all these things going on,
instead of unloading on people, go get a pad of paper and unload on paper. -Genius. -So,
your write down all your frustrations, your worries, your concerns and so the
rule is we intermarriages, you unload on paper not people. -Right. -And then after
you write down all your frustrations, tear the page off, tear it up into pieces.
so nobody can trace.... -That you're upset with and... -If you don't
unload frustrations on paper, you're going to end up and loading it on somebody else.
-And you're going like this and you crunch it up. -And then you and then you
get rid of it. -Goodbye. I'm letting it go, I love it. Okay. Well. after we get
through the holidays in the new year and it going to be an awesome new year because
Kirk is going to teach us how to master our influence. He has a huge conference
coming up. And there's a GTO special 47 bucks for a 227
dollar value of killer deal. -Yeah. -And it's training. -It helps you with steps of
how to manage your life and manage your relationships so you can do better. -I
love it, I love it. February 7th through the 9th. You can register it 3keyelements.com/gtu
And of course, will link you to all the
information. Thank you guys. Kumbaya.