Heya playas, if you've finally worked up the courage to ask your crush for their phone
number but you don't know what to say and you don't know when you should contact them
then you're not alone.
In today's video I'm gonna teach you exactly what to say to start that first conversation
so you're not left wondering "what do?"
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First off if you're having trouble even asking your crush for their phone number then definitely
check out my video right here where I explain how to do it.
But now that that's out of the way, lets talk about what your crush is probably expecting
the first time that you contact them.
We need to first look at how you got the number and what happened after.
Did you for example get the phone number and then scurry away or did you set up plans and
ask for the phone number?
They gave you their phone number because they want you to contact them.
And if you don't, then you're not really carrying through on what you intended to.
A lot of guys for example get worried as to when they should contact a girl.
Should it be the day after?
Three days after?
What exactly is the rule?
The truth of the matter is that there is no specific rule as to when is the best time
to contact them.
In my mind the very best time to contact them is as soon as possible.
For example, once you get the phone number, sending a text message shortly after saying
"This is totally not me by the way" with a winky face is the perfect way to initiate
that first level of just having fun when talking to each other.
You don't have to have full in-depth conversations every time you talk, in fact, having short
bursts of conversations prevent it from dragging on.
A very big mistake that a lot of people make is starting the conversation with "Hey what's
up" and here is why it's bad.
Saying "what's up" and then waiting for a response is the same exact thing as saying
"hey, by the way, I'm expecting you to create the topic of conversation that we're going
to have here and I'm just gonna sit here and calmly wait."
You're putting all the work on the other person.
So instead, try continuing the conversation from earlier.
Say something like "hey, I was just thinking about what we were talking about earlier...
that conversation is far from over between us :p".
And what you're simply doing is setting a tone that you guys will meet up in the future
to continue talking about what you did before.
Making small implications like this that you will hang out and eventually when you do actually
ask her to hang out, prevents you from having to deal with the whole awkward situation of
saying "Hey, so, uh.
You want to hang out sometime?".
And if you want to take the phone call route, the best thing to do is to give her a quick
call and say something like "Hey, I completely forgot the name of that guy from Twilight.
What's his name?".
And when she says "I don't know, Edward Cullen?"
just tell her "oh my god you are so amazing right now.
I really gotta go, bye."
They may be a little confused at first but now what you've done is established that you
can call them and have quick conversations.
Plus you've given yourself the opportunity to build on that movie character name any
time you want.
They'll feel good because they'll feel like they've done something productive here.
You'll feel good because you're more relevant in their minds, And you've now established
a situation where calling them, out of the blue is not so weird after all.
How you choose to follow up isn't as important as who you choose to follow up with.
By starting up your conversations small and having them build up as you learn more and
more to where you eventually ask them out, it'll come off as natural and not forced.
What do you guys think though, are you holding back from messaging your crush because you
just don't know what to say?
Leave your comments below and we'll talk about it.
The key here is to not miss out on the opportunity in front of you.
Every conversation doesn't have to be fun, and sexy and flirty and romantic.
Simply focus on getting to know the other person better.
That way you can build a connection where talking isn't awkward and neither is making
plans.
As always guys, love and peace.
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