﻿7 Common Habits That Make Men LOOK WEAK [0:00:00]
Habit number one that makes you look weak, putting other human beings
on a pedestal. I know, I’m guilty of this. When I was a teenager, when I was in my early 20’s,
any beautiful woman that would give me any attention, I was like putty in her
hands. I just felt, oh, my gosh, this deity this beautiful being is actually
looking at me giving me attention. Well, after having a few beautiful
girlfriends and developing my own confidence, I soon realize women have as many issues if not more
than most guys. And for the record, they definitely are not deities.
And we see this go both ways, a lot of men put other men on a pedestal. Athletes they admire,
politicians who they align with, and they basically say these people can do no wrong,
I’m going to just support this person blindly. Here’s the thing. When you support somebody
blindly, you oftentimes walk into a big mess. You need to make up your own mind
and make up your own decisions. And that right there is a lot more attractive than putting other
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The next common habit that’s making you look weak, you are way too agreeable. Now,
I’m not saying to go out there and just start fights, but I am saying have an opinion and
be willing to stand by and be able to defend it. How are you able to defend opinion? Because you’ve
asked yourself the hard questions. You don’t just simply take what someone has told you and then
spout it off as the truth. You’ve actually gone out there and you’ve done the work.
You’ve researched it. You’ve asked yourself the hard questions knowing that other people are going
to challenge your beliefs, your religion, your views on politics, your views on how the world
should be, your views on just simply society. When you’ve questioned yourself enough times,
all of a sudden you’re going to find the rocks, the things that people are going to throw at you,
you’re going to find you can just brush them off because you’ve asked yourself harder questions.
The next common habit that makes you look weak, you avoid pain. Gents, news flash. Life is pain
and anyone that tells you different is trying to sell you something. Do you know what movie
that came from? Let me know in the comments. Seriously though, gents, you look at religions,
you look at philosophies around the world and they talk about this again and again. It’s our
attachment to things and wanting them to stay the same especially when they’re going good,
when we’re getting used to it. And, whenever this changes, this causes discomfort. This causes
agony and pain because we want them to be like they were.
But, here’s the thing, life is constantly changing and when things are good, they’re
going to get bad. When things are bad, they’re going to eventually swing back to the good. You
can develop this philosophy of I’m going to deal with the pain, I’m going to embrace the suck.
That’s one thing we picked up in the Marine Corps and I absolutely love
is whenever you saw something, it was going to hurt, it wasn’t going to be fun,
it was going to be painful. You just started getting excited about it. I mean, it was kind of a
weird like religious experience thinking all these guys get excited about going on a 20-mile march.
Point being is when you can embrace this, all of a sudden, you get – this is rarified air
and you’re going to be able to accomplish and do things. It’s a mindset shift.
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Another common habit I see that makes you look weak is you surround yourself with followers with
people that are weaker than you. And this may build up your ego, it may make you feel great
when you are that big fish in that small pond. But, if you’re not going out there and seeking
to surround yourself with people that are going to elevate you, push you, or going to tell you
sometimes that, yeah, you’re not as good as you think and you need to take it to the next level,
you’re not going to grow. That pain that discomfort
that searching and trying to figure things out, not knowing, this is when you grow
and when you go on to reach higher levels. The next common habit that makes you look weak,
you’re not truthful. I get it, they’re small lies. You don’t want to upset people and I would say in
certain situations, yeah, if she says, how does this dress look on her, and he kind of does make
her backside look a little bit bigger. Yeah, you want a happy life happy wife, don’t say anything.
But, many situations especially at work especially in professional relationships,
you need to be more open. Yes, your boss is pushing you and you’re dropping things
and he is all over the place. You may actually need to have a [common-to-god] conversation.
Yes, he’s in a position of power. He pays the salary, but you need to be straight up. Hey,
you’re asking me to do three things, I’m capable of doing one really well, two so-so, and if you
have me do all three, I’m going to fail at all three. What would you like me to focus in on?
That’s having a straight up conversation and it’s not always comfortable. It sometimes is
easier to tell small lies to say I got this, I can do it, and putting it on all night and
unfortunately neglecting your family and the things that are important in your life.
But, you need to have those difficult conversations. You need to pick and
choose your battles, but make sure that you’re picking and choosing
the ones that are going to bring you that big return on your investment.
I would recommend that you learn how to have difficult conversations. Just look it up,
there are many books on this, but you want to build up, you want to create the trust
and then you want to air the grievances before it becomes a volcano and it explodes in your face.
The next common habit that’s making you weak, you’re way too dependent
on others and the system that we live in. Now, I get it, this system is what helps make
us all great. The fact that we have other people that are very specialized in what they do and that
we can work with them, that’s awesome. We see this in families, we see this in communities,
and this is a great thing. But, you do not want to become so specialized or even worse
afraid to try to do something new. An example, the other day, I had an
issue with my washing machine. It leaked all over the place. Turned it off, drained it,
and I thought, okay, I’m going to call somebody in, have them work on it.
And I started thinking about it. You know, the real reason I could say, oh,
my time is too valuable. But, the real reason, I didn’t want to address this
is I was scared, I was worried. I had no idea mechanically how to figure this thing out.
Guess what? I went and looked at the few videos on YouTube. I just broke out the different parts
of the machine, opened up the back and I found the problem. And I have to admit
that was the highlight of my day, being able to fix something so simple so mechanical.
And I think so many of us guys are losing that. We don’t know how to fix our own water heater.
We don’t know how to actually get in and make repairs on our own vehicle. There’s a sense of
accomplishment. A lot of men they tell me, oh, I’m not going to ever sew anything, that’s a woman’s
job, I’m not going to iron my clothing. It’s not about what – whose job it is. It’s
about this needs to get done and do you have the skillset to be a sharp dressed man.
So, I’d love to hear from you guys down in the comments. Where can you be more self-reliant?
I know for me, I’ve really tried to take a step back and I’m looking at things I can do around
the house that, yes, I could hire people to come in and do. But, I’m trying to do them myself.
But, I have to say that there is an amazing sense of just feeling that I can manage and that I am
more self-reliant by doing things on my own. The next common habit that makes you look weak,
not indulging in self-care. No, just kidding. I actually don’t like that word, but I will steal a
point from Jordan Peterson, “Clean up your room.” And he talks about treating yourself like you
would treat somebody else that you are responsible for. And I had a friend I was in a mastermind
with. And he owned a dog food company. And he talked about in really rough times,
dog owners will actually go without food themselves and will still buy his premium dog
food even when they can barely afford groceries. And, that always stuck with me and it reminds me
of so many times we take care of others and we’re willing to take care of our parents,
brothers, sisters, our kids, our, you know, people that matter to us, our animals. Yet, we won’t take
care of ourselves, we won’t go to the doctor, we won’t take our medicine. We won’t go to the gym.
And, we – I am very guilty of this. You need to take care of yourself,
again, as you would take care of somebody else that you’re responsible for.
Because if you’re not doing this, you’re not going to be in a position of strength,
so that you could help others, so that you could make this world a better place and become the man
you know yourself to be. [0:10:04]
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