are you being ignored by your boyfriend or partner? are you frustrated because
he's not talking to you or not responding to your texts or calls? well
then stay right here because in this video you will learn the top reasons why
your man is ignoring you and exactly what to do
about each of them. don't go anywhere because we're starting right now
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okay on to our topic what to do when a man ignores you oh and make sure you
watch this video all the way till the end because I'm also going to tell you
the things that you absolutely must not do when you're being ignored because
doing them will sabotage your relationship and make things even worse
especially if you're in a long-distance relationship so those last tips are the
most important imagine the scenario you're dating a guy and things are going
well he's texting and calling you in planning dates making time to see you
basically things are going great and then all of a sudden there's a change in
him he stops calling and texting or maybe he's less responsive or doesn't
even respond at all in some cases you know what caused the change maybe you
had a disagreement or an argument or a fight and then he changed but other
times you have no idea why he's ignoring you but in either case you know he's
ignoring you and it feels horrible and it makes you feel anxious and that makes
you start questioning everything replaying your interactions over and
over and trying to figure out what happened was it something you said did
he learn something about you that he doesn't like why is he ignoring you and
why is it so difficult to handle well here are the top 5 reasons and how you
should deal with it number 1 he's playing games or playing hard-to-get
this is often the case when you have no idea what happened or why he's ignoring
you see at the beginning of a relationship a man may believe that he
has to play hard-to-get in order to sustain your interest and get you
wanting him more and this kind of behavior is a powerful form of
manipulation that sadly works especially on people with low self-esteem but even
if your self-esteem is very robust if you've been with a person for a bit and
they start taking days and days to respond to your messages or answer your
calls it gets very frustrating that's exactly what he wants you to
experience that uncertain panic response so that you'll be more receptive to him
when he finally does reply but purposefully ignoring you to get you to
want him more is a manipulative game and should be a huge red flag so what do you
do well call him out on his behavior you can say something like this you've
seemed really distanced this past couple of days you haven't been calling or
texting and it takes you hours and days to respond to my message with one or two
words what's going on are you okay that lets him know that you've noticed a
change in his behavior and it gives him an opportunity to explain while giving
you the chance to set the expectations for your relationship and not in a
complaining way but in a way where you convey the message that this isn't what
you signed up for so either this is the real him or the guy he was before is the
real him and either that guy comes back or you're out and don't be surprised if
he tries to deny what you're experiencing and if he does deny it you
still put him on notice that you expect more number two he's trying to punish
you because he's upset or angry about something
did he just start to ignore you after an argument or disagreement is he angry
about something if so then he's ignoring you as a form
of punishment and manipulation he's intentionally ignoring you because he
wants you to feel the pain that uncertainty provokes and perhaps bring
about some change that he wants but silence and distance only generate more
problems and in the end solve absolutely nothing it's manipulative and abusive
and damages the relationship so how should you deal with this well do your
best to find out what is wrong and do not give him the silent treatment back
if one or both of you need space establish that and since communication
is often the issue try to discuss and understand the situation and if your
attempts to communicate go unanswered after a day or so consider sending this
message to him hey I see that you're not responding to me I'm not sure why but I
want to understand why you are angry or upset or sad
if you're not ready to talk or need space I get it but the silence is
difficult for me so could you let me know maybe we can find a time to talk in
the next few days but I can't continue with this relationship if you keep
shutting me out and that should be the last message you sent him if he doesn't
respond fairly quickly then you shouldn't do anything else and fYI being
ignored is incredibly difficult to handle and often makes you feel like
you're panicking and here's why being ignored forces you to deal with
uncertainty and ambiguity and the brain does not like uncertainty or ambiguity
especially when you can imagine scenarios in which you are threatened or
fear loss I've talked about this before being ignored activates a threat
response in the amygdala the part of the brain responsible for processing
emotional reactions and threat responses and it's so difficult to handle because
that part of our brain can't separate physical threats like someone coming at
you with a knife from silly threats like someone not responding to your text
message so when you're being ignored it makes you feel almost like you're
panicking because it's triggering the same part of your brain number three
he's not alone so this one could be good or bad some people put their phones away
when they are visiting with family or friends or when they are working closely
with a colleague if that's the case he probably does the same thing when he's
with you but if he's a person who is constantly taking calls and texts even
when you're together then you might question his motives for ignoring your
calls or texts is he ignoring you because he's with someone that he's
hiding from you let me give you an example a woman I
know was cheating on her boyfriend and whenever she was spending time with her
boyfriend she would block the other guy's number on her phone that way she
wouldn't risk a text or a call coming through and having to explain to her
boyfriend and when she was with the other guy she temporarily blocked her
boyfriends number obviously she made these men feel ignored as their cause
and text messages went unread and unresponded too now obviously you
shouldn't jump to any conclusions just pay attention to his explanation when he
finally comes around does he come up with some
elaborate story or explanation or is his explanation more mundane if he's
ignoring you because he's with another woman you're bound to see this pattern
happening more than once quick reminder if you're a subscriber struggling with a
dating or relationship issue you can get my opinion on your situation by sending
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number four he's ghosting you or fading you out oftentimes someone you're dating
becomes distant because they're afraid of the confrontation of breaking up with
you they would rather fade out of a relationship than end it properly so if
you feel him pulling away and making excuses not to see you then he's using
ignoring you as a breakup method he's hoping that you'll eventually get fed up
of being ignored and the relationship yourself or you'll just stop trying and
the relationship will fizzle out without any kind of confrontation so what can
you do instead of being strung along tell him
this if this isn't working out for you I understand I just need to know so I can
move on without any doubt or hesitation then if he wants to break up you've just
given him the opportunity and if he doesn't want to break up it gives you an
opportunity to communicate your needs and expectations for the relationship
number five he's just not that into you this can be a difficult truth to accept
we often choose to believe that someone is just busy or naturally bad at texting
which is why they are ignoring us are so inconsistently responding but trust me
when I tell you this no one is that busy no one is too busy to text you good
morning or to check on you it takes 30 seconds if you are important in a high
priority he will find the time or he'll make the time for you period
if he doesn't either he's just not that into you or he's just not ready to be
serious about anyone because he's focused on achieving whatever he's doing
and he's prioritizing those things over everything else and if that's the case
you can't take it personally a relationship is just not in the cards
for him right now and that's okay move on and find someone who's on the same
page as you are you don't want to be with someone who
what's contacting you at the bottom of his to-do list so ask him what's going
on and don't be afraid to be vulnerable let him know that you've noticed his
inconsistency and distance and you want to understand he may tell you that he's
just super busy and focusing all of his energy towards work or school or
business and if that's the case he may tell you that he will try harder and if
you believe him then you can decide if you want to continue pursuing the
relationship or not but if he just tells you that he's super busy and doesn't
promise to do better then my suggestion is that you simply move on because he
isn't even going to try to change he's either unable to be the type of
partner you need or he's just not that into you so move on to someone who is
okay now the super important things that you absolutely must not do keep watching
because if you do these things you're ruining your chances of making things
right again number one don't keep calling and texting if there's a
legitimate reason why he's not responding as much over texting or over
calling just to get an answer will come off as possessive and insecure and a
little crazy trust me he's seeing your cause and text besides if he didn't see
that you've been trying to reach him shouldn't he be concerned and reach out
to you so yeah he's seeing that you've reached out if he still doesn't respond
after a week you may need to come to grips with the fact that the
relationship is over number two no begging and pleading
regardless of how much it hurts you can't beg or plead with a person to stay
with you when you do and when you get rejected you will only hurt more and
feel helpless and frustrated and begging and pleading will make him cringe and
feel sorry for you and if he's ignoring you because he can't handle
confrontation he will definitely ignore you if you beg
and plead with him so don't do it now number 3 is my favorite no stalking his
social media or Facebook or Instagram or whatsapp to see when he was last on line
and no posting or updating your stories to see if he's watching and I know I
know most of you have done this but this is really bad for you in so many ways
first it requires you to spend considerable time and energy thinking
about what he's doing you see him online and then
it confirms for you that he's ignoring you and inevitably when you bring it up
to him as proof that he's ignoring you you're going to look like a stalker
and if you don't frequently post to your stories and you suddenly start posting
he's going to know that you're doing it to see if he's watching it's going to
give him that satisfaction that ignoring you is making you act desperate trust me
just have patience and keep your head up he will come around and you'll be glad
that you didn't give in to his manipulations and number four don't
resort to hurtful insults name-calling or picking a fight of course you're
angry but confrontations are saying something hurtful will be something that
you later regret don't do it again being ignored is very difficult to deal with
and it's often a manipulative tactic used by abusive people and narcissists
if it's happening maybe you're dating a narcissist click here to watch a video
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