- So what are the signs a guy gives you
when he's really attracted to you?
All of us as human beings are wired up,
so instinctively when we're attracted
to somebody, we will do certain things
that are unmistakable, and today we're gonna
talk about seven signs a guy gives you when
he is really attracted to you.
Sign number one is he positions
his body language towards you.
This is often subconscious, I can remember
when I first saw my wife for the very first time.
I was at the Los Angeles Wedding Expo,
and there were 6,000 brides there.
There were hundreds and hundreds of booths,
and I'm walking down this aisle,
and as I'm walking down this aisle,
I literally stop in my tracks because I see her.
She is so beautiful, and I'm like, "Holy moly."
And I wanna talk to her, but there's also
this fear of like, "What if I get
rejected, what if she doesn't like me?"
And so if you remember those old
sort of horror films or suspense films,
when the hallway goes,
(imitates movie buzzing)
like elongates.
(Mat laughing)
That's what it felt like, 'cause I wanted
to go talk to her, but I was so scared,
and I finally mustered up the courage
and I walked over to her, and she remembers
the body languages, I was like just bee lining
right for her, I couldn't help it.
Like I was in this like fog or haze
of like, "I don't know what I'm gonna say
but I'm gonna say something, I'm gonna
go talk to her."
And yet my body language was just pointed straight at her.
So when your man is open, when
his body language is directed to you
versus like he's talking to you, but he's just
he's gonna go somewhere else, 'cause
he just really wants to get away,
he really, really wants to go do something else.
Or if he got closed language or things like that.
Body language is a beautiful unconscious
indicator of his degree of interest.
The second sign that he's really
attracted to you, is that he makes
himself available to you quickly.
Now there's always the guys that are gonna
play games, and gonna not text you back
right away, but just know this,
that's the minority, that's like
the small percentage of guys that
are playeristic out there, that
actually do 95% of the approaching.
So while you might be, you know, running into
these guys a lot, there's really a small
percentage of guys that are out there
that are just players, that are just
trying to get laid, they are gaming.
But the vast majority of guys out there
are good guys, and they're gonna give
you honest signals that they're
interested in you, and one of those really
honest signals is they make themselves available.
So in other words, when you text,
they text you back.
When you call, they pick up like they're wanting
to get back to you right away because
they're interested in you, they find
you super attractive, they want
to get to know you, they want to go on that date.
So they're like, "Yeah, let's meet up,
here's where we should go, like how's that sound?"
And they're wanting to create that
cadence and rhythm of dialogue.
So immediacy of response, they respond
to you right away, they make themselves
available for you.
When a guy is doing that, it's
a direct indicator of his level
of attraction for you.
And number three, and perhaps you've
experienced this, is he can't stop
looking at you, like he is so captivated
by your beauty, that he's just drinking you in.
Like maybe the two of you are out to dinner,
out for a meal, and he's looking at
the menu and so are you, and he looks up
and he just sees you reading the menu,
and he's just taken by you, and he's staring.
And you look up and you catch him staring,
and then he kind of realizes he's staring,
and there's that moment of like, "Oh yeah
I know I just was staring at you."
But he's just captivated, the human brain gazes
and looks at things that finds beautiful.
You see amazing sunset, looks gorgeous.
You see another human being that looks gorgeous.
Maybe this has happened to you, you catch
him staring at you, and this is a surefire
sign of his attraction for you.
And number four is he has genuine
interest for you as a person.
See, a man who's really attracted to you is not
gonna be just surface level of attraction,
like physical, and we just want to,
he just wants to sleep with you.
But he's attracted to your whole being,
like he wants to really get to know you,
he wants to know about your history, your past,
how you grew up, what your family
was like, what you value, what you're
passionate about, what your vision is.
These are those conversations that go
like 2, 3, 4 hours where you close
the restaurant down, or you stay up
super late talking and having that pillow talk
conversation on the phone because you just,
both of you want to get to know one another.
The man who is really attracted
to you, is the man who's really trying
to get to know you on a deeper level.
And that takes a certain level
of beingness in yourself to attract
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And number five is you'll notice that he treats
you differently than he treats his friends.
And it's not in a good or bad way,
it's just different, and here's what I mean.
Because you're important to him
in a primary way, you're important to him
in a romantic way, then when you're around,
that moment becomes more important.
It's not just a casual hangout with friends.
You're not just one of the guys or, you know,
you're just fitting into his life.
Like no, there's an alertness that
he brings to the moment, there's like
this importance, this readiness.
Like he wants the moment to go well,
he's gonna straighten things up,
he's gonna make sure it's planned,
he's gonna make sure there's something to do.
Those kinds of intentions are beautiful
indicators of his level of interest.
Now number six might seem a bit obvious,
but it is a beautiful indicator of interest,
and that is that he tries to get close to you.
The guy who's attracted you physically
wants to be near you.
I can remember on my first date with my wife
we were, after dinner, walking along
the Huntington Beach pier, and it was
colder outside and the wind was blowing,
and so I wanted to be close to her.
So I was like, "Lucky me, it's kind of cold."
So I was like, "Hey come here, let me
put my arm around you and snuggle you."
And she was like, "Who is this
guy trying to get close to me?"
But at the same time she liked it, you know,
so she leaned in and we were close with one another.
And so the guy who really is attracted you,
he's gonna do those same things.
He's gonna try to be close to you,
he's gonna try to kiss you or hug you,
and obviously in a respectful way,
but those are the things that you want to notice.
And number seven, and this is a beautiful
indicator of interest and attraction,
is that he gets nervous, he gets awkward.
Why? Because there's stakes that if you don't
like him, he's gonna be disappointed.
If you don't return the attraction to him, he's
gonna be feeling sad, or devastated, or rejected.
Why? Because he likes you.
So that will translate into nerves,
that will translate into him either
not knowing what to say at all,
and being like dull and stiff, and not himself,
as I'm sure you've experienced it times as well.
Or it will translate into him oversharing and overtalking.
So sometimes women will say, "Well that guy
was just a narcissist, he just talked
about himself all the time."
And it turned out she went on a few more dates
and things evened out, and he was really
interested in her, and it came out
that he was just super nervous
on the first date, and he was just trying
to impress her, and he didn't know that
he was oversharing and just dominating the conversation.
So notice that if he feels really,
if he seems nervous, feels kind of awkward,
he's oversharing or undersharing,
it's a good indication that this
man finds you hot, like he is totally into you.
So my question for you are what are
the signs that you have noticed
that a guy does when he's really attracted
to you, when he's really interested in you?
Go ahead and post those in the comment section below.
I hope this serves you, here is
to your amazing love life.
Thanks for watching and I'll see you soon.
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