Heya playa, I'll be frank with you, being in the friend zone is not something you want to
experience. Yet it's so easy to fall into that role if you're just too afraid or too nervous to
actually make a move and try something with your crush. Most guys end up in this position with a
girl that they like. I know that's not really what you want to hear, you want to believe that
you have a better chance and more hope than actually exists but that's just not true.
For example, if your crush has made any of the following statements in regards to where the
two of you stand you are teetering on that friend zone line so here's how to recover.
This is The Josh Speaks. You're watching The Josh Speaks.
Each of these statements are going to feel like a real punch in the face every single time you
hear them. Now your crush just may casually drop them in not really knowing that it's going to drop
your morale and make you feel like you're losing ground with them. They might just casually say
you're such a nice guy, you're such a good friend, you're so good to me, oh you're just so perfect.
For those of you that are new here my name is Josh and every single week, I make videos sharing tips
ideas, and stories teaching you how to be your best self. Now the reason why you're hearing
those things from your crush is because you're not being open and honest with them. Chances
are you're skirting around the issue of actually showcasing your feelings and because of that your
crush just sees you as a friend. A lot of guys approach girls they like with a bit of caution.
They're afraid they're gonna push that girl away so in the effort to not make things weird and
awkward they kind of just are very very simple in the things that they say and the things that they
do. They don't really stand out in any kind of way. They're using boring phrases like "hey how's
your day going?", "What's up?" and not really diving into deeper and more fun conversations.
What that girl wants to see from you is that you have a unique personality that you're willing to
put on display. You're willing to challenge the norm, you're willing to stand up for yourself,
you're willing to be bold and confident when it comes to talking to her. So what does that look
like exactly well follow me on this train of thought. The first stop is to learn more about
her personality. This means asking her questions, learning about what you guys have in common and,
sharing more about yourself to see if the two of you overlap in some kind of way. The second
stop is going to be to compliment her more. You're going to want to let her know that you're taking
notice of who she is. You're interested in her personality, you're interested in her thoughts,
feelings, and, hobbies. The third step is to start flirting with her. Start creating a bit of tension
by joking around with her, coming up with little things you can make fun of her for, tease her for,
that's gonna help build that tension and let her see that hey you're not the kind of guy that you
just want to be friends and be walked all over. But, the key step here is going to be to ask her
out. If you don't take that active step of trying to make plans with her and trying to get something
rolling she's just going to think you're a friend even if you've done all the three steps before.
So what do you respond with if she drops one of these bombshells on you and says something like
"You're like a brother to me, you're such a good friend, oh you're so perfect, I'm so happy to have
you in my life"?. Well, I think it's important to tell her this: "Look, I'm not someone who
believes in labels so I'm not going to put a label on what we have going on here. I know you see me
as a friend but I'm not limiting it to that." Be frank with her, be honest, and keep moving that
train along. If she drops one of those statements at the beginning when you're just learning about
her or even closer to the end when you're ready to ask her out let her know where you stand. You're
not going to be boxed into a corner here, you're not going to be put into this friend zone. You're
going to kind of still go forward and ask her out and let her know how you feel. Now, look if
she keeps asserting to you that she only sees you as a friend and is not interested in dating you
at all it's incredibly important to be respectful of her wishes here. Don't try to fit a square peg
into a round hole. Just because you want to date her doesn't mean it's your job to convince her or
make her actually give you a chance. She's already decided on what she wants so, be respectful of
that. Don't keep wasting your time and energy trying to pursue someone that just sees you as a
friend. It's up to you now to put your confidence on display. Don't wait until you're late in the
game and she's already decided that you have no interest in her because you've never made a
move. Start taking those active steps and if she hits you with one of those friend zone lines, be
prepared and know how to answer it. I want to give a huge shout out to all my patrons and YouTube
channel members. These are the people that help support the channel every single week so
if you want to talk to me one-on-one about what's going on in your life and get my personal advice,
check out the link to Patreon down below. Now what I want you to do is check out the video over there
on the side where I'm going to talk about how to escape the friend zone. If you're kind of
locked in that position and you don't know what to do, this video is going to help walk you through
the steps of recovery. On that note guys, I'll catch you next time. As always, love and peace.