I'm going to tell you in this video.
Okay, so I'm going to give you
10 things that will make narcissists literally lose their minds if you do,
and I'm saving the best of the ends,
you want to watch all the way till the end.
I am Rebecca Zung.
I'm a narcissist negotiation expert and also a lawyer,
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so that you can finally go on the offensive,
instead of constantly playing defense
against the most toxic personalities on the planet.
It's supposed to be 16% of the population,
we are overrun with narcissists right now and
I'm out there giving you free resources
because I'm on a mission,
I'm on a crusade to help you become powerful and
you will finally win this battle against narcissists, all right?
10 things to help you win this battle,
they will lose their minds if you do these 10 things,
All right, ready? Let’s go.
They can’t stand it if you set boundaries,
because they’ve conditioned you from the beginning,
they started love-bombing you, but then they start ghosting you,
they start doing all these things,
they start this power play with you, and
they think you belong to them,
they can do anything that they want,
but you're not allowed to have any boundaries;
so, as soon as you start setting boundaries,
they're going to show up at your house, or office,
they're going to start flooding your texts and emails,
they’re going to start doing all these things,
they’re going to start going crazy,
but if you start setting boundaries, they will lose their freakin’ minds.
Stop catering to their every need, you'll see them go insane.
That's what they need, they need that narcissistic supply,
that's their food, their lifeblood, their oxygen,
that's what they need more than anything else in the world,
that narcissistic supply, that's their Diamond level supply,
that's the thing they need more than anything,
that adulation, you stop giving that to them,
their brain will explode, that's what they need.
So, if you want to see them go crazy,
that's something that you can definitely do.
They have attached themselves to you for a reason, and
I always say narcissists don’t attach themselves to you
because you have so little value,
they attach themselves to you, because you have so much,
even though they start the devaluing process almost immediately,
they do attach themselves to you,
because you have so much value,
I know, it's mind thing that they do to you.
They may say they want honest feedback,
they do not want honest feddback,
they want you to give them that adulation,
they want that positive reinforcement,
yes, they do want you to lie to them,
they want you to tell them how wonderful they are,
they want you to say how great they are at all times...
No, they do not want that honest negative feedback,
“Honest feedback”,
No, they want positive feedback at all times.
When you stand up for yourself,
especially if you've been conditioned early on
in the process, to allow them to have their way,
then, you start fighting back, you start asserting yourself and
you are not allowing them to walk all over you anymore.
They don't like that, they'll start to lose their minds.
That is the only way that narcissists will start to respect you.
They'll say they don't like it,
but they will start to respect you all a lot more and
I have a whole video on this topic, by the way,
“This is the only way to make a narcissist to respect you”
with a whole lot more on this in that video,
you're definitely going to want to check out that video.
This is where you start to slay, slay the day,
slay is my methodology for how to actually win against narcissists,
strategy, leverage, anticipating and focusing on you.
Especially openly, in front of people.
They don't like that.
They hate to be ignored, HATE to be ignored.
That's like the worst, like, you're basically ghosting them,
which is one of their moves.
So, when you're ignoring them,
you're using their little power move against them.
You're saying, “I don't think that's true” and
you’re kind of challenging what they're saying.
They don't like that either and
that'll kind of make them lose their minds over that too.
But, I'm going to tell you,
don't call them out on it necessarily right away,
because that can be good leverage down the road.
So, give them some rope to hang themselves.
Number eight, number eight,
we're working our way to number 10.
If you notice that, you want to stay with me here,
you want to stay with me here, because we're working our way.
Hey, I've been there.
I've been there with some covert narcissists,
I've had to deal with some covert narcissists in my time,
It’s not fun, not pretty. They pretty much suck.
That's why I'm on this mission,
that's why I'm on this little crusade that I'm on,
that's why I have this little Forum that I have here.
Do you want to know why I feel so passionate about this?
Because I've had to deal with coverts,
Yes! I know what it's like to have to stand there and
ignore their attempts to manipulate you,
it's not easy.
They work very hard at trying to trigger you,
you can be better, you can rise above.
They can't stand it.
They must know, they must know everything,
but if you keep secrets,
because they love to be the king and queen of withhold,
they love to withhold.
That's one of their little like thing in their little bag of tricks,
the withhold.
But, if you do the withhold…
So, keep secrets from them, they don't like that.
Bye-bye.
That'll drive them absolutely bonkers,
especially, if you're still a good source of supply;
if there's still supply to be had, because they're vultures.
So, if you're still a good source of supply,
then, that really drives them insane.
So, keep your distance from them.
Anyway, you don't want to be a source of supply for a narcissist.
No, you don't.
So, ease on down the road, move on, goodbye, see ya,
there's definitely better down the road.
So, that's it.
Those are the 10 things that will make narcissists lose their mind.
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I will definitely see you in the next video!