How to Handle Adult Sibling Rivalry.
Fighting with siblings is only natural -- but letting a feud fester into adulthood can cause
serious damage.
Here's how to put an end to your sibling rivalry.
You will need Understanding and willingness to compromise.
Step 1.
Understand the roots of sibling rivalry.
Studies show that conflicts often begin in childhood due to factors such as parental
treatment, gender, family dynamics, and age differential.
Step 2.
Recognize your sibling as an actual person.
Avoid the temptation to regress to childhood labels like "the attention seeker” or "the
perfect one" -- your sibling has likely long outgrown that phase.
Step 3.
Pinpoint the source of friction.
It's easy to shift the blame of your rivalry entirely onto your sibling, but acknowledging
your own part will give you a deeper understanding of the conflict.
Step 4.
Hash out the hostility.
Start by saying "I'm sorry" for whatever part you may have played in the sibling rivalry.
Researchers have found people automatically respond positively to hearing an apology.
Then, focus on reaching an understanding and ways to fix the problem.
If you live apart from your sibling, don't use a family gathering to confront them.
Plan to meet in a neutral setting or talk over the phone.
Step 5.
Realize what you can and can't change about your relationship, and try to make peace with
a compromise.
You may not be able to choose your family, but you _can_ do your best to overcome sibling
rivalry.
Did you know 80% of siblings over the age of 60 say they've ended their rivalry, while
4% stay angry forever, according to a survey.