hello hello hello everybody my name is Steve Ford welcome to your English
lesson today we're going to be talking about certain words that are used to
describe how you feel in English and how we often confuse those words words that
are very similar so I hope you enjoy the lesson and because this is a live lesson
I want to say hello to everybody who's watching hello and I can see everybody
here in the chat we've got to India in the house well because you said in the
house that's that's kind of cool for me because that means I I could do like
some in the house music if my computer program collaborates with me in the
house we've got twenty nine people in the house lots of people came today I'm
very grateful for that who do we have in the house India in the house
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that we have so many people here and I've got a great lesson prepared for you
today today I'm feeling very thankful very grateful and in case you don't know
grateful means that you feel thankful you feel happy for all of the things and
that you have in your life all of the people that you have in your life and I
wanted to send out a special thank you for all of you who are sending me
messages here on YouTube all of you who are sending me the audio messages that I
sent a link for last week so you can see those here so I just want to say thank
you and here's the first one here hello hello hello Steve I got this one on
whatsapp I just watched one of your videos about irregular verbs my name is
Philippe Picard from Chile and I'm a policeman I've
watched your videos from the very beginning well thank you very much
Phillippi the very beginning was 12 years ago and I see how much better they
are in time so congrats I feel I understand a lot with you thank you and
have a nice day and weekend my friend regards from from the distance yes and I
thank you very much Phillippi from Chile that was a lovely message and it was
really I love receiving messages like that I'm going to read a few more before
we start our lesson here I have one from korchi you deserve all the respect and
appreciation for your tremendous efforts from me the most delicious greetings
thank you very much korchi and we have one from Abdul your lessons are great
and make us love more and more of your lessons more and more your lessons I
really enjoy watching you we love you mr. Steve okay well I love you guys too
you guys are great and it's it's been fantastic hasn't it yes so another
message here from soluti Chris Mele the best explanation teacher thank you
you're funny as well and last we have Danielle fajita dos Santos I love to
watch your videos although I'm not fluent yet I get all the words and your
pronunciation so those were some great messages and maybe before we go into it
I had one more I have a few more yeah they just coming in this is from lolly
lolly from last week un bacio dithiol yeah wouldn't be Stefan's thank you for
this amazing lesson see you next week Steve we have one from Stefan merchants
ex excellent video I have my first interview tomorrow and I'm so nervous
however this video helped me a lot to get ready for tomorrow best wishes from
Colombia and in case you don't know I have business English videos too these
are more general English advanced videos upper intermediate videos but I also
have business English videos for job interviews for talking on the phone for
meetings for breaking the ice at work different situations so I have business
English videos and I also have test preparation videos a lot of you know me
because of my TOEFL test preparation videos this is from autonomous thanks
Steve you really make it a bit nicer we are waiting for more of a view about
TOEFL that's a TOEFL message and we also have hello Steve how are you doing today
whoops how are you doing today really appreciate your great efforts for this
short and sweet lesson may Allah always protect you for us sir greetings from
Iraq okay yes yeah I hope to continue the lessons inshallah inshallah and just
a few more messages could we see your cat next time I promise that if my cat
jumps up beside me here this is a huge coincidence because I say cat and he's
here can we see your cat sometime yes yes you can this is Charlie we call him
Charlie Brown because he's brown and yes you can see my cat there he is
why he will I will try to incorporate him into bye charlie
yeah see you later guy incorporate him into another video of mine yes can you
see your cat I just showed him and this one is from Darren cucumber hi I love to
listen to your lessons it feels easier than if I read a textbook well thank you
very much Darren I really appreciate that message I hope that my lessons are
more interesting than a textbook for you and I know that a lot of my students
tell me that they listen to my lessons when they they're not watching them
they're listening to them when they're driving or when they're working out so
it's kind of like a podcast and I also have a message from Alice Howard mist is
live again this deserves more views thank you very much Alice yes my my
videos do not have any advertising in them I do I have never in my 12 years
advertised for English schools God knows they contact me saying Steve can you
please advertise for English schools but I prefer not to do that and well this
deserves more views love you my beloved teacher
thank you for your videos still they inspire me to keep practicing English
every day you focus on error details and such unexpected things we language
learners don't usually realize thank you a lot yeah well thanks for your message
that was a lovely message and I think I just have one more message before we gab
before we get on to the lesson I received a whole bunch of audio messages
I will send you a link for this as well this is so that you can if you want to
share your voice you can record an audio message as well
let me just take that out of the what's app from last week in case you haven't
joined my whatsapp group you can join that at the link below this video I've
created a new whatsapp group our first one is full so I'm just creating more so
that you can follow me you can get all the Instagram updates and everything
like that but if you would like to ask me a question and I'm gonna play one and
I often answer them on my Instagram you can go to this link here and I'm going
to post this in the chat if I edit this video after I'll post it in the yeah I'm
gonna post it here so here you go yeah and you can always
post a message a voice message to me from your phone or from your computer
anyway I wanted to post one this was from Gisela hood Rodriguez from Brazil I
just want to take a quick listen to it
hi my name is Ali from Brazil I would like to say that I thank you when you
speak fast English it's amazing great and I would like to ask you about
your video where are you teaching about English
press and using the weather I can't find anymore this video on ok uh so she was
thank you very much Gisela for your your question and I'm going to post the link
for that video this is a video about two vocabulary related to the weather and
Giselle II in case you're watching my lesson I'm going to post a link for it
right here this is weather vocabulary that you had
asked about yeah and there were a few other questions and comments I listened
to all of them by the way thank you very much for sending them and you can send
me yours in the link that I posted on this chat let's go to the lesson after
all of that gratitude and feeling grateful so we'll go into it and I'm
just going to transition over first question meeting new people
what kind of person what kind of person are you when you are at a party and you
don't know anybody do you a introduce yourself B wait for someone
to talk to me see check your text messages or D leave which would you do
if you go to a party and you don't nobody at the you don't know anybody at
the party what would you do and I'm gonna
check your answers here most people that I see posting here are
saying that they would choose a that they would introduce themselves so I see
that we have a lot of social butterflies in the group yeah lots of lots of people
here are saying that they would introduce themselves okay
so interesting so so nobody is is shy shy that's shy so I can see that a lot
of people watching my lesson are not shy that they would introduce themselves
yeah a few people like Denis Xavier is saying that she would wait for someone
to talk to her okay yeah so you would wait Alain a lot of
people would they would wait oh yeah Adina is saying the same thing that she
would wait for people too oh no Adina would introduce herself okay
that's that's interesting I was expecting most people watching my
lesson would be a little bit more shy to talk to people like that but let's keep
it going would you feel more shy if you had to
speak with people you don't know at a party in English so before it was your
own language is my face white do I need more color on my face and now we're
doing it like if you're at a party and you're talking to people who only speak
English so what do you think and lali lali who for example we have a
viewer who comes every week her name is lolly lolly and lolly lolly is a real
friendly person she leaves me messages all the time she's always caught in the
comments section here but lolly lolly from France is saying that if she had to
speak to other people at a party that she didn't know in English that she
would feel very shy so it could depend on the language thing you're very much
on the language thing yeah definitely definitely
okay all right so let's go to the next one here as I'm going to change just do
a small change on the color of my face
maybe a little better there maybe a little bit more saturation okay I think
that's a little bit better okay so let's go to the next one some people
definitely feel more shy in certain situations okay so I have a question
from John John okay John that's a good question John would like
to know what exactly shy means John shy is like this you're at a party and you
you know you you you do not that shy the opposite of shy is like hi how are you
yeah that's the opposite of shy that's friendly so friendly is that and then
shy is like mmm yeah so hopefully John you can see the
difference there but that's a good honest question yeah feel free to ask
questions during this lesson mm-hmm so some people definitely feel more shy in
certain situations because they feel what do you think a insecure or beyond
by the way John that's a good picture of somebody who is shy yeah what do you
think is the best adjective in this case
okay and I think everybody's got it so if you thought that the answer was
drumroll please that the answer was insecure high five that is correct
little self-confidence or almost no self-confidence unsafe means in danger
so right so you can go to a party and you can feel shy because you don't know
anybody you know especially if you're speaking another language like English
you can feel shy you don't want to talk to anybody but when you feel unsafe
that's when you feel that you are in danger that's when you feel like your
life is in danger so you can feel unsafe if you're walking down a dangerous
street late at night it's it's a little different to feel unsafe or when
something is unsafe and when you feel insecure those those two are different
so so hopefully you can you can see the difference there yeah okay so let's go
to the next one and high five if you got that one right
this one here hopefully with this English lesson I can boost your self
confidence boost means to increase and yeah that's that's why we're doing these
English lessons folks is so that I can boost your self confidence and we can do
that together
okay time out here I had a good question from let me see here somebody asked oh
yes Fabiano a good question Fabiano grammatically speaking Shai has one
syllable and we should say Shire for some reason native speakers sometimes
they break the rule too because it doesn't sound good and most native
speakers will say more shy they won't say oh I'm Shire I guess you could use
it that way but I guess most native speakers because it just sounds better
they will break the rule and the same or shy yeah but that's an excellent
question Fabiano we should do a lesson on comparative and superlative
adjectives the next week so many ideas so little time yes okay okay
Oh Fabiana it's me from Italy okay Bob any Fabiano vibe na okay air-cool okay
and let's go on to the next one so I have a I have a question that maybe
has something that has happened to you which is the following have you ever had
a dream you went to work or school in your pajamas have you ever had that
dream everybody's in their work clothes
you didn't expect okay Lolly's had that dream and I think a lot
of people have not had that dream yeah oh we have some some Arabic speakers
who've had that dream as well so many
that can be one of the most uncomfortable dreams that you ever have
is when you you dream that you're going to work in your pajamas or worse you you
dream that you're going to work or school you're someplace in public and
you have no clothes on whatsoever I mean it just goes from from bad to worse so a
lot of people watching this lesson have had that dream that they're going to
work in their pajamas now I'm sure the man who went to work in his pajamas in
this picture feels very and huh what do you think he feels a embarrassed or be
ashamed both of those words are very close in meaning but there's a small
difference that even a lot of native speakers don't know so who knows maybe
native speakers will watch this lesson in the future too
oK we've got a mix of answers here some thinking that it's letter B some
thinking that it's letter A and if you thought that the answer was embarrassed
high-five and don't feel bad because I think a lot
of native speakers would get this wrong too and I'm gonna explain the difference
between embarrassed and ashamed embarrassed other people make you feel
shy and uncomfortable
that's embarrassed so the other people like you can see in this picture here
this guy you know he's laughing at this other guy so yeah other people make you
feel shy and uncomfortable embarrassed so the difference here is that a which
of the following situations do you think is the most embarrassing a work in your
pajamas B spinach in your teeth C zipper your zipper is undone and went on when I
say your zipper is undone I mean that you're walking around in public with
your zipper down we say you're you are flying low you are flying low your
zipper is down and nobody tells you for some reason nobody tells you this
happened to me once happen to me more than once I'm like when I used to give
class big classes now I just teach online privately but when I used to give
big classes I remember I was teaching this class of 30 adults and for a good
three hours I taught the class with my zipper down nobody said a word
they didn't say teacher no nothing so what do you think work in your pajamas
spinach in your teeth your zipper is undone what do you think what situation
do you think is the most embarrassing for you most people are saying see it
would be with your zipper undone yours / down yeah weird situations for sure
yeah and everybody's saying letters see yeah
Fabio no not just weird situations I'm thinking embarrassing situations yeah
yeah and everybody's saying letter C would be really embarrassing I think the
only thing more embarrassing than letters C would be if you were wearing a
tight pair of pants and those pants they if they if they you know if they rip if
they tear and you have a hole in the back of your pants and you're in public
I think that might be a little worse huh yeah that would be embarrassing anyway
let's go to the next one another reason for zipper problems can
be eating too much now the woman here feels ashamed of herself and I'll pause
it when she yeah right he or she feels ashamed of herself so this is a little
different from feeling embarrassed a little different what is the difference
well another reason for zipper problems can be eating too much the woman here
feels ashamed of herself I feel guilty for or about eating too much so this is
more about when you feel bad or guilty about something that you have done
embarrassed was more like they they think that it's bad that you are doing
it guilty is amaura shamed is more of a personal thing so how did I let this
happen so that's - that's more like when you feel ashamed ashamed of yourself
oh I all of these business dinners and I was
eating too much drinking too much now I've gained so much weight why did I let
this happen how did I let this happen I feel ashamed of myself a little
different there it's almost like guilt you know like in Latin they say Mia
Koopa may I'm a sumo Koopa and they have that in all the the Latin languages they
also have that in law yes so that's the difference yeah Lali Lali feels guilty
when she drinks so much beer yes and hopefully this is not the result yeah
that you can't get into your skinny jeans
yeah and that's ashamed to be ashamed of something is when you feel guilty or
disappointed in yourself you let yourself down yeah
and in case you don't know to let yourself down means you disappoint
yourself how did I let this happen so hopefully you can see the small
difference between the two ashamed and embarrassed that's an important one now
my next question for you is how often do you work out at the gym a never be
rarely see sometimes D often and II always you know if we go back and we
look at this picture I'm thinking you know maybe this person here is is a
letter B she's not even on the thing yet yeah I'm thinking this one over here is
like a letter e yeah so I'm curious to know folks how often yeah so for example
Ludmila says that she's always working out at the gym
well high five Ludmila I have a lot of sometimes work out I guess a lot of
people work out at the gym yeah maybe you're working out at the gym and
watching my lesson at the same time why not multitask yes
so we've got a whole load of answers here
the whole load of discussion about how often you workout at the gym most people
are saying sometimes and that's probably the that's probably the best formula is
you know just to do it sometimes to work out at the gym five times a week
Wow okay and Hiva has recently been working out at the gym so Hiva just got
back from the gym okay Bella I really like your name Bella you would say the
slower you speak the better the slower you speak the better not slow here yes
anyway and John is saying sometimes in the month John do you want to say
sometimes like once a month or something like that I I understand John some
people are really busy and they don't have time to to exercise especially if
you're traveling for business and stuff like that or for school or maybe you're
a little too too relaxed about that I don't know anyway speaking of working
out this smaller guy on the right with no muscles would like to be like the
bigger guy on the left with muscles he feels envious or jealous what do you
think
mm-hmm okay I should put some waiting music on there for the people that are
gonna be watching a recording of this lesson
if you thought and that's those were very quick answers that's right so Hiva
says he wishes to be like him that's a very good explanation so the guy on the
right would like to be like the guy on the left and when that is the case if
you thought that the answer was the answer was envious high-five that is
correct we would say envious that's that's the word so you can see him
saying that here he's saying I envy that guy oh man I really envy that guy so try
to listen to this explanation it's something that even native speakers of
English will confuse is that to feel envious means you would like to have
somebody's status possessions power wealth physical appearance you really
envy somebody that's that's to feel envious it's more you would like to have
the things that somebody has but to feel jealous means you feel insecure because
of another person so to feel jealous is more about somebody else you feel
insecure because well I mean the best way to see it is in that picture there I
think that that's the best explanation for it that's that's to feel insecure
and to feel jealous
and are you a jealous person this is a great question I know that jealous being
jealous or jealousy can be kind of the spice in a relationship sometimes you
know if there's if you're not jealous at all I uh mm I don't know for me
personally I think you know if there's no jealousy
it shows the person doesn't care the relationship is dead so are you a
jealous person a no B yes but I never show it C yes I am very jealous I can
get very angry what do you think
okay so lolly saying yes but I never show it okay so lolly plays the pretends
not to show it yes and we have somebody saying from Russia saying no they are
not jealous and John is saying yes I'm very jealous and I get and I can get
very angry so John's girlfriend or wife watching this video be very careful
because when John gets jealous he gets very jealous
so Oh wonderful John try to understand John's situation because John has a very
beautiful wife so that means that he can get very jealous so he needs to to
protect his wife at all costs got it John I understand okay I get you
depends on the situation yeah so yeah I mean everybody can get
jealous you know you can you can get jealous if of Instagram if your husband
wife boyfriend girlfriend significant other is checking Instagram Facebook you
can get jealous of you know those kinds of things too does
need to necessarily be in public nowadays could be on a social media
network yes okay um I Josette I would be interested to know what letter D just
that what does letter D is d like I I will kill the person or okay anyway so
that's jealous Rhapsody is a mix of a and B okay
Laidback versus lazy my boss is laid-back and maybe you don't
know this one a lot of my students when I teach them this adjectives a lot of
them don't know about it but it's one that's used a lot nowadays
here in North America laid-back in this case means easygoing and relaxed and
this is what you're looking for folks you are looking you are looking for a
laid-back boss I think that happens more and more from the students who I talked
to who are bosses that seems to be more of the strategy nowadays is that the
boss is more laid-back and gives more praise more credit to their employees
more high-fives and things like that it's not that old-school you know boss
like this is wrong that is wrong go back to work no laid-back friendly is he
going that's a laid-back boss would you like
to have a laid-back boss yeah lolly lolly 'he's got it relaxed and calm now
too laid-back could be considered lazy and i want to try to explain this
because for some people laid-back has a negative meaning and maybe in your
country you have this too because in north america canada and the united
states people from the east coast from New York City to Toronto to Chicago to
Boston to Montreal Montrell no no that's that's another
thing but people from the East Coast they tend to be more business oriented
more rush rush rush and people on the west coast from California all the way
to Alaska British Columbia where I'm from in between they tend to be more
laid-back but here's the thing here's the thing is that too laid-back can be
considered lazy and people from New York City think of people from California
from the west coast as being too laid-back as being lazy and people from
New York City think that but people from the the west coast they think that
people from the East Coast are too uptight or too wound up so meanwhile
Californians or West Coasters might think that New Yorkers are too wound up
or too uptight gotta go gotta go yeah gotta go gotta go yeah gotta go and I
know from talking with students from Italy they say that people from the
north are or more business oriented and they're more uptight wound up depending
on how you look at it and they say that the people from the South are too
laid-back or lazy so it's two points of view same thing in different countries
my students from Brazil they say that people from the north are too laid-back
and that people from the south they say are too wound up is it the same in your
country do you have this different these different regions where people are
considered to be more hard-working or more laid-back let me know in your
comments let's check it out
so Hiva is saying that in Turkey it's like that so Hiva I would be curious
what is it like in Istanbul people are considered to be very wound up and maybe
in what was it is is Mir they're considered to be more laid-back or
something like that yeah Lali Lali true south of Italy people are more laid-back
and that can be considered a positive thing or a negative thing mm-hmm an alum
in America we can't be lazy and I think what Allah is saying in America we can't
be lazy anywhere yes two weeks vacation per year I know I know
in North America I live your reality in France we are more laid-back in the
South Sea sopia maybe if you go to a place like
nice or to lose the people are probably more laid-back then if you go to Paris
for example I know though probably they're gonna be more hard-working maybe
a little bit more wound up yeah people are too busy in their professional life
yeah and you can use the expression wound up yeah that means always in a
hurry or could be positive full of energy yeah right
so Karen Karen has a good example of laid-back in a negative way so Karen
Escobar is saying we consider people in the government to be too laid-back yeah
if you have a job for the rest of your life you're a civil servant and by the
way that means funcionar your público de Chanel Civic how do you say that
sometimes layback can be considered to be a negative thing yeah different ideas
there so that's great and I think that's it for the lesson today folks
yes as we go back to white so I know that there were a few more adjectives I
see that I have a lot of people here with me so I'm going to go
over a few more differences that I talked about in the lesson maybe I have
like one or two pictures where I can show you the difference I might need to
do a continuation of this lesson we had a few more that I I think I will talk
about and maybe make a quick lesson and release this on YouTube or maybe meet
with you in the middle of the week if I have a chance because I know that there
were a few other ones that I wanted to discuss for example we had today we
covered jealous versus envious laid-back versus lazy we did not go over alone
versus lonely terrific versus terrifying that's a good one we did do a shamed
versus embarrassed we didn't do boring forces annoying sensitive versus
sensible so we did about half which is about right so I promise that we will
continue working on these either in another YouTube live lesson or I will do
a pre-recorded lesson and release it on YouTube and I hope that you really
enjoyed this lesson I really enjoy reading all of your comments and
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