#1 Don’t be a pussy
If you’re going into any social situation, especially with a girl or multiple girls…
if you know what I mean haha…
Then you’re going to have to accept that awkwardness is inevitable and bound to happen.
The important thing to remember is that things are only awkward if you make them awkward.
If you don’t act awkward about it, and just embrace the awkwardness of the situation,
reframe it, and be confident about it, no matter what situation you’re in, it’ll
never be that awkward.
I get thousands of messages and comments a day from guys overthinking every little thing
and the answer to all of them is almost always the same.
The solution to most of the problems in your social life can be answered with a simple,
“Don’t be a pussy.”
#2 Directly acknowledge it, then move on.
Most awkwardness comes from your reaction to a small situation, making the situation
larger than it needs to be and then that reaction leads to more awkwardness, and then the other
person doesn’t know what to do and then it becomes too much awkwardness that you can’t
handle and then you’re like “HOLY SHIT THIS IS SO AWKWARD WHAT THE FUCK DO I DO NOW.
I JUST WANNA GO HOME.
CAN I JUST GET UP AND LEAVE.
ZEUS HELP ME!”
Just take a fucking chill pill dude.
If something is awkward, just directly acknowledge and call it out as something that’s funny
instead of awkward.
Awkward situations are normal and bound to happen, so when they do, just acknowledge
them, laugh about it, and move on.
If you take control of a social situation, 9 times out of 10 other people will follow
because it’s easier to follow another person instead of taking on the weight of making
a decision for the group.
Use this to your advantage and be willing to steer the conversations in your favor.
#3 Take care of your physical appearance
This one may seem obvious but taking care of your physical appearance goes a long way
for your confidence and how comfortable you feel with yourself.
Awkwardness can very much be a physical feeling as well as mental.
When you encounter an awkward situation your mind will revert to weak body language and
a defense mode, but if your physical appearance is well taken care of, then you’ll naturally
feel more comfortable with yourself and in your own skin which will lower the severity
of the awkwardness and make your baseline level of comfort, much higher and stronger.
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#4 Maintain your posture
It’s really hard to appear awkward if you maintain, strong and confident body language.
Awkward situations tend to destroy your body language and make you take on weaker, more
submissive body language.
Maintaining your strong body language will help deflate any potential awkwardness you
may be displaying physically.
So that means, keep your shoulders pinched back, back straight, and chest out.
You know the drill, I’ve beat body language to death so no more wasted time on it…
Next tip!
Bonus tip: An easy way to maintain your posture and body language during tough situations
is to take one strong, deep breath and focus your eyes in one place.
This will help you refocus yourself and relax your mind and body in an awkward or difficult
situation.
#5 Don’t avoid eye contact
In an awkward situation, the other person is most likely going to look at you to see
how you’re reacting and most likely follow your lead, so if you’re avoiding eye contact
and your eyes are darting around the room then it will make the situation more awkward
because the other person won’t know what to do either, leading to more awkwardness.
Eye contact is an incredibly strong indicator of how a person is feeling, when there is
a lack of eye contact, it makes the other person uncertain of how you’re feeling and
uneasy in the situation, so even if the situation isn’t awkward, your lack of eye contact
can make the other person feel uncomfortable and awkward.
Instead, during an uncomfortable silence or awkward moment, you should make eye contact
with the other person and then lead the interaction in another way, whether it’s laughing about
the situation, maintaining the silence to show strong frame with a girl, or acknowledging
the situation and moving on like I mentioned before.
Bonus tip: if you’re with a girl and there’s a silence, a real strong display of frame
control and confidence could be to maintain your body language and maintain strong eye
contact without looking away, this shows the girl that you’re comfortable with silence
and not so easily thrown off by something that most other guys would feel awkward about.
My general rule of thumb for interactions with girls you’re talking to or on a date
with, is to maintain eye contact until she looks away.
Looking away first or looking down can be a sign of insecurity and awkwardness, both
of which will ruin your ability to exude confidence to the girl.
And that my friends is it.
I wanted to make a quick video on dealing with any awkwardness you guys may feel because
I get tons of messages and questions about it.
In summary:
Don’t be a pussy…
DUH Directly acknowledge the awkwardness and then
steer the interaction in another direction Take care of your physical appearance
Maintain your posture, and take a deep breath when you feel overwhelmed or nervous in a
situation And don’t avoid eye contact as it can make
a situation go from kind of awkward to REALLY awkward.
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