Hi everybody, Casey Zander here.
And rest assured this video is 100% going to deliver on the title.
Now the title is going to be how high value men deal with hypergamy.
And the reason why I wanted to make this video is because it's super fresh in my mind and
in my brain, because yesterday I was on a one to one coaching call with a client that
I'm working with.
And this client is in his 40s.
Now, when I talk about making yourself a man of value, this guy is 100% made himself a
man of value.
So what does that mean?
Well, I'm on this coaching call.
And obviously, like, I'll leave his name out of it for privacy and whatnot.
But I'm on this call.
And he's telling me all have struggles, right?
There's women pulling away from him, women pulling back from him.
And he's like, I don't understand, I spent all of my 20s all my 30s all of my 40s making
myself who I am today.
So to give you guys some context, this guy's probably like six between six foot two to
six foot four, gay he was probably around 240 something years old, right full head of
hair.
He's a bodyguard knows how to fight, right?
Like he practices karate.
He's completely ripped in really good shape makes really good income, very successful,
nice house, things like that.
So he's like, why is it that I'm at the peak of my SNV.
And routinely, these are the women who have highest interest and are still pulling back
and pulling away from me, okay?
If you've ever been in the situation where you're like, man, you know, I go to the gym,
I prioritize self care, I prioritize finances, why am I still getting hit with all of these
things, this video is for you.
So rest assured, stay with me until the end.
So that way, not only can we clear up these issues that you probably have in your life,
but I'm going to probably break this down for you on a level that nobody else ever has.
So you can truly understand the difference between physical frames of value versus psychological
frames of value.
So with that said, let's dive in.
Number one, the first point on my notes today is going to be physical high value, like high
value in the flesh does not equal high value of the psychological.
Okay?
Stay with me here.
What would physical of the body be or physical high value of the body or of the flesh, it
would be things like how ripped you are, right?
How tall you are, how good your career is, how much money you make.
And those things make you a good fit on paper.
Okay, but that holds no wait when you are dating.
Unless you can back that up by psychological frames of value.
I will give you an example.
Let's say a woman enters into a club.
Okay, she has two guys to choose from, let's say she has Usher or she has Chris Brown.
Okay?
They're both high value.
They're both rock stars.
They're both pop stars.
They're both famous, they're both very high value.
But let's say Oscar is ready and willing to commit and wants her very badly.
And let's say Chris Brown doesn't really have any interest at all.
Even he's willing to qualify her push her away even and be like, hey, you know, like,
I'm not in the mood right now to talk, who is going to have heightened perceived value?
Okay, it's going to be Chris Brown.
That's because the the high value frame was set in the psychological.
So I'm going to show you how to do this and how not to do this.
Okay, first off men who have made themselves something that are actually high value, like
millionaires, dudes who are ripped, things like that.
The issue is that they telegraphed interest far too early in the interactions with the
women that they're dating, because they assume that they can.
No, that's a big no.
Okay?
What they think is they think that because of their physical success, or their high value
frame in the physical, they assume that that is going to make up for the game of push pole
and tension that has to be created only through psychological frames of value, if they telegraph
interest too quick, because they tell themselves and I tell you this out of experience, because
I know this and I see this, they tell themselves, Well, hey, I've already done the work.
I've already made myself a man of value, I don't have to play the game, I should be able
to tell the chick that I like, Hey, I like you, let's go out on a date.
And then they're consistently burned.
They're heartbroken.
They're cheated on or they're even left for other men with lower physical value, right,
like lower high lower value, quote, unquote, than they are and it leaves them confused.
If you've been telegraphing your interest level, this is a big no, no.
And by the end of the video, I'm going to explain why.
Okay, stay with me here.
The first thing that you have to do, okay, you have to be indirect with how you speak
and non needy.
What does that mean?
Non needy, non needy means you are desireless you don't care if something happens or not.
And when you're indirect, you're willing to say the edgy things, the edgy things such
as like, I don't know if we'll get along.
What's cool about you.
Tell me about yourself.
When's the last time you've had an adventure?
If you can say those things, and you're actually hoping for a good reply from her.
If she can't give you that good reply.
Technically, if you actually are high value and have options, that right there should
lower your attraction.
The difference is when guys are sold far too quick on the perception of beauty.
And if that's you, you're going to be burned nine times out of 10.
Because oftentimes the girl sees that you are one over far too easy.
I hope that this video is making sense if it isn't, okay, comment below because I really
want to sharpen my skills as a coach for you as well.
But being indirect and non needy is so powerful when you are indirect with how you speak.
You're hot, you're cold, right?
You push pull, you create tension, right?
You smile, but yet at the same time you say I forget last.
Okay, you can do this back and forth.
This is what creates a dynamic of attraction because it puts a big question mark in the
psychology of that woman and it leaves her wondering, does this guy like me?
Now let's look at this on a deeper level.
Everybody right now is so obsessed with hypergamy on the internet hypergamy this hypergamy that
millionaire this ripped guy this alpha Chad, this Giga Chad, this, dude, you have to look
at this from a psychological level.
Okay?
Let's use the analogy again.
If the girl walking into the club girl walks into the club, here's Chris Brown.
Here's our shirt.
Let's other way here's our shirt.
Here's Chris Brown.
Okay, Asha is ready to commit right away.
That means that she is going to find her physical value equal or even slightly above his because
of the quickness and the speed he was willing to invest.
It does not matter how good on paper he made himself or how big those digits are on the
bank account or how many Instagram followers there are.
Because he's the one who is willing to commit the value exchange is equal.
What do we know about hypergamy hypergamy means that the value of the guy is based off
of the perception if he is above.
So let's say Chris Brown doesn't want to commit, let's say he pushes away verbally.
He says off get lost, I'm not into you.
Instantly, that woman will assume he is higher value than her.
This goes on up here.
hypergamy starts up here in the head in the psychological because only a higher value
man would be willing to push away only a higher value man but would be willing to say no.
And I'm going to tell you a little secret.
Only a higher value man is willing to actually say no, far more times than he will say yes,
most guys are happy to get anything.
They have no framework.
Right, since they have no framework to follow since they have no qualifications.
Instead of being indirect and non needy.
They are extremely direct and they are extremely needy.
And because they want companionship so bad.
It's destined to fail, and they lower the psychological perceived value of themselves
in that woman's head nine times out of 10.
Number two, what do you do?
Well, you stay or you stagger in negs, okay.
And you layer in what I like to call push aways or takeaways, things like oh, you're
losing me?
Are you always this boring?
Right?
Do you ever stop talking?
Okay, things like that.
What that can do is that can actually create heightened tension.
Because, once again, the woman doesn't necessarily know where you stand.
And if you show that you can be indifferent verbally, this is going to command the perception
of higher value.
Now notice, that woman still does not know how much money
you make, what your bank accounts like, honestly, what your status is really, and probably,
like, she doesn't even care, the difference is that you can command the social attention,
and you can actually start to leverage your personality to get what you want.
When you are desireless.
Like that, and you're willing to stagger some sort of negs.
The reason why the woman likes it so much is because it just shows that you actually
have a specific type that you're going for.
And if you can find the smallest flaw and you're willing to express it, most guys are
scared to express any flaws.
And therefore they they are happy to get anything.
Right.
So instantly when you do that, this goes into the last form, which is self qualification,
and you want to qualify her based on what you want.
So you have to be willing to say these things, you have to be willing to add qualifications
such as what you're actually looking for.
Are you the shy type?
Are you the leader of your group, right?
You have to be willing to actually ask specific things that shows you have a type and you
have a standard and based off that response will dictate if you give that woman in that
interaction, a positive gesture of Yes, or a negative gesture of no and now all of a
sudden, you have reversed the roles and you are now flipping the perceived value where
you are the one in control.
You are the one making the decisions.
And ultimately, you are the one deciding for yourself if you want to invest more time in
this interaction, not the other way around.
This right here is why oftentimes guys who have done the work they've made themselves
full stack their crush Bring it in life.
Just because they are high value on paper, they don't necessarily know how to actually
give the psychological perception of higher value in a social interaction.
And it is 100% different, you have to learn both.
There is no skipping.
There's so many guys who want to put the put the head down and learn how to do kickboxing,
and they want to learn how to benchpress a lot and make a lot of money.
And they think that they should just be able to walk outside then and the women will just
know, it doesn't work like that.
So to wrap this up with hypergamy, why, why did I title it like this?
How high value men deal with hypergamy?
Why did I have that as the title?
Well, I'm going to tell you why.
The biggest reason why is because if you have actually made yourself a guy who has high
value on paper, right, you're chasing excellence, you're building your body, you're prioritizing
self care if you have done all of that on paper, the woman is expecting you to act the
way I just described, she is expecting you to have qualifications, she is expecting you
to have a type she is expecting you.
Okay to actually be cocky or a little bit arrogant in certain times, because technically
on paper, you should be able to, because if on paper, you're supposed to be able to command
the type of companion that you want.
If you go into these interactions completely blind to that and don't know your worth and
don't act like it through your speech.
Excuse me, there is no corner if you're seeing this to leave that and I think that's funny.
If if if she's seeing that okay, there is now an incongruence.
Okay, what is an incongruence?
an incongruence means that who you are and how you act does not actually line up.
And when that incongruence is there, there's a there's a break in the chain and it causes
a loss of attraction for some of you.
You're sitting here right now you're wondering, why is this so complex?
Okay.
It's complex, because it should be it's complex, because understanding the psychological nuances
of game and heightened perceived value is one of the hardest things to learn probably
on Earth.
But if you can do it, rest assured this is going to strengthen your relationships with
women, it's going to strengthen your relationships in business with friends, it's going to be
easier to network.
And if you're watching this video, and you're like, Okay, this actually makes sense.
And you're wondering how you can actually take this forward and learn this at an even
deeper level.
What I've done over the past three years, I've created a process called MBT gain MBT
stands for masculine behavioral techniques.
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and ultimately, the best plan of attack to not only crafting yourself into being a high
value, man, but showing it in a way verbally, where you give the right psychological frames
of value.
So that way you can command the dominance in any social interaction and actually get
what you want.
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