why am i sick of seeing self-love everywhere a lot of people don't know
what it means exposed to you guys what is the first step for this journey of
evolution of self self-love will be the result of that all hi guys welcome back
to my channel today I want to talk about a subject that I'm kind of sick of
seeing everywhere self-love I know it's kind of
contradicting everything I've been saying so far but let me explain why am
i sick of seeing the term self-love everywhere because I feel like it got to
a point where it's such dislike really trendy word everyone's using yet a lot
of people don't know what it means and how to get there and how does it feel I
really wanted to sit down and explain to you how to get to that final destination
that is self-love because self-love is the end product of a journey that you
all have to go through to get here yet what we see in the media is just this
and I feel like it leaves a lot of question marks and a lot of wrong
definitions of what it is I decided that instead of focusing on that I want to
get to the root of what led me to get to the end result and the root of it all in
my opinion is self awareness so what is self awareness self awareness is and I'm
going to read the definition of it so I'm not gonna mess it up because I don't
want to say things that are not true okay
self awareness is the capacity for introspection and the ability to
recognize oneself as an individual separate from the environment and other
individuals so I'm starting this talk about self awareness to expose to you
guys what is the first step for this journey of evolution of self and the
growing and they're learning to embrace yourself and your imperfections and who
you are and know that you're worthy and know that you have value to bring to the
world and own it that's what gets you to that position of self-love of respecting
who you are loving who you are and just be
strong enough to go out there and be who you are because it's not easy these days
so it was a journey and it's still a journey I think that it's a lifelong
journey and that's so beautiful about it you will be faced with new challenges
every single day that we put who you are as a person your morals your values to
the test if you want to go after what you want if you want to build a career
that you want if you want to find the right partner if you want to just feel
comfortable with who you are self-awareness has to happen you have to
plant that seed right away so I wanted to tell you about five ways that I
practice self-awareness every single day things that I truly feel are making a
huge difference and just connecting myself more with myself and hopefully it
will help you as well the first thing is quality alone time as I mentioned with
my modeling career it really threw me into this alone time it's not something
that I intentionally chose to do but I'm so happy that it happened quality alone
time is not when you just alone in your room turn on Netflix and spend time with
yourself no it has to be an intentional alone time it has to be a time where you
can reflect where you can connect yourself where you are alone with your
thoughts and your feelings and there's no distractions around you the second
thing is getting a feedback and constructive criticism from the people
around you that's a wonderful tool that can help you grow and learn more about
yourself because a lot of the times were so caught up in our own head and in our
own thoughts that we can't see things clearly so going to the people that you
love and trust and you know one the best for you and ask them for their opinion
for their feedback it's such a cheap easy way to learn more about yourself
it's valuable information that will just help you grow and have more insight
about who you are and how you present yourself to the world but something very
very important to remember when you do go out there and ask for feedback and
ask for criticism and ask for advice make sure to qualify those people I
wouldn't go for my mother for business advice but I would go to my mother for
things like family and the choices she made as a young woman and anything with
children I would go to someone that I respect in different areas of life so I
think that what happens a lot of the times is that we go and ask for advice
from people that haven't been themselves don't have the knowledge don't have the
expertise and when they say oh you know it's all gonna be okay and you just get
frustrated because you're like how is it gonna be okay
I feel like it's a very kind of dead and thing so be smart about who you go to
for different things and learn from those people the third thing is
mindfulness and meditation that's something that is extremely important
and today we do live at a time where there's so many studies that's been done
to show the benefits of it on our quality of life on her brain on the way
we feel and act so meditation is definitely more complicated thing and
that's something that I'm actually kind of attacking right now where I'm going
out there looking for help looking for someone knowledgeable that can teach me
on a deeper level what meditation is because right now I feel what's out
there in the world is very surfaced so I really want to get to the root of it and
then mindfulness is that you can do every single thing in your life from
making your coffee to talking to someone to listening in a mindful state of mind
I think that's so much more powerful it also lets you listen and be open to
things rather than just react and be close to all the lessons that other
people in the universe can teach you so being mindful is definitely a powerful
wonderful thing that just helps you slow down and learn how to breathe
which surprisingly enough we are not doing enough of it today remember to
read you guys we don't read enough the next thing is asking yourself the
question why this is so extremely important and really ties in to kind of
the first thing you can ask yourself the question why when you
that intentional alone-time also at the end of every single day ask yourself the
question why why something made you feel a certain way why something triggered a
negative reaction in you why do you do the things that you do why did you say
the thing that you say keep asking that question why will really help you to get
to the deeper deeper deeper cause of an issue a lot of the times when we get
triggered by different things that other people say is actually just a mere - you
know an unsolved issue that's going on inside other people's anger or other
people's attitude shouldn't trigger something in you so remember that and
challenge yourself challenge your thoughts challenge the way react and
your patterns as a person that's the only way to grow the next thing is
journaling a lot of people do journaling and I'm so happy to see that but some of
you that maybe don't know what journaling is it's basically just
putting your thoughts and your lessons and anything and everything on paper not
only will it gives you time to reflect it also your spitting out those thoughts
so they don't like block and clog your head and become a bigger thing that it
actually is because that's something that as humans do quite often and it
also helps you to hold yourself accountable if there are things that you
wrote there that you promise you're gonna do or things that you promise
you're gonna change new patterns that you want to adapt it will hold you
accountable so these are the five ways that I don't see a reason that anyone
can't incorporate it into their lives on a daily basis and I truly feel like it's
gonna make a huge difference just please remember you have to be consistent and
it has to be intentional and keep doing it keep at it we are on such a beautiful
journey of growing and forming into the powerful beings that we all are so give
yourself the space to do it it's really really important and very
beneficial practicing these five ways and adapting more and bring more
self-awareness into your life will give you you back the power to be in charge
of your own happiness of your thoughts of your emotions of the way you behave
and there's nothing more powerful than that can you imagine if you are so happy
and so content with yourself that no matter what's going on around you you
are in tune and in control of your own being that's what I want us to focus on
self-love will be the result of that all thank you guys so much for watching I'll
see you next time