Today on Limitless TV, we're talking about body language tips. How do you read
and how do you use body language to help you understand the world and be more
successful.
All right we got more body language tips coming your way right now and I have the
amazing and marvelous Marianne Denovellis that's going to be helping out
today because let's be honest, how often have you gone to some presentation, been
to church, watched someone speak that has absolutely slouchy body language? The
body language is at what you want to look like. Their hands are in their
pockets, their face is communicating a lack of connection or disinterest. And
then when they're communicating their message it's coming out draw without the
energy that you would see matching what the message of the energy really is. Yeah
that's okay that we got some good body language going on right there.
Okay so Marianne's gonna help teach these today and what we're gonna do is, we're
gonna go through these five. And what we're gonna do first is, we're gonna
start talking about body language starting with the holistic body which is
Marianne could be slouching, leaning forward sticking her gun out, and be
bowlegged.
And there you go. Okay this is uh, oh this is terrifying. Okay. Or if she
was gonna show confident body language, she would have her shoulders up, rolled
back. She'd be standing stiff and tall and she would look like
this, super confident. Notice her hands are not in her her pocket and notice
that her hands are just comfortably hanging there right at the side. She's
got one foot in front of the other, she's got a forward facing position, and she's
got really good energy that she's putting off right now. So body language,
mimic that. Number two, we're now going to bring in hands.
Marianne, keep really good
body language but show us inappropriate things to do with the hands. Okay this
communicates closed, playing small, uncomfortable, touching your face, it's
just kind of disgusting. People don't want to be thinking of all your mucus
getting on you. This is showing closed-off not really willing to be here.
I'm close-minded, I'm confused, irritated, disgusted. Right now I don't
know what I'm doing, I don't know what I'm talking about. Show us hiding
something.
Hands behind the back this is for some of you this is a comfortable
position but what you're communicating in their mind psychologically, I'm hiding
something. I'm trying to keep something from you. Okay now Marianne, with your
hands we're either gonna keep them right at her side or show them the box.
Okay
this box is 2 feet by 2 feet by 2 feet on all sides around. And Marianne, she can
put her hands anywhere she wants except for inside the box. So first, demonstrate
what what does it look like for you to show your most open body positions when
communicating to the crowd. Ok hands are open out right this is your star figure
this is you're hugging position. This is the most vulnerable way that you can
really stand. Show us some other things that you can do with your hands outside
of the box.
Okay you can demonstrate something to the right you can
demonstrate something to the left and you can use your hands to also talk and
and help verbalize and communicate but notice that what she's doing is, is she's
keeping your hands apart from each other. If they connect, it's never inside the
box it's always outside the box it's open communication. Super awesome. Now
we're going to add to the body and the hands are get a new body in hands right
away. Now we're going to talk about mismatched face. Your face has like
dozens of muscles in it and you can use these and you can use your face to
communicate something very different where we got a confident body,
we got confident hands, but look at the mismatched face. Okay right now we got
concern that's coming up.
right now we've got. I'm uncomfortable/
I think there's a
bowel movement coming on I'm lacking in certain teeth. I'm getting sick, I'm
feeling ill. It's amazing that your face can communicate a lot of things that if
that matches your message it's okay. So we've got to take the face and now go
ahead and show them what a confident face looks like.
Okay there's happy,
they're smiling, there's good energy of being willing to smile at them. I see
you, I recognize you, I'm talking at you, I'm connected with your energy that's
right over there. I'm agreeing with you, I'm nodding my head. My head is moving up
and down and yes a lot of the time when I'm talking and communicating with
people. Okay now show us enthusiasm .
Okay so we've got excitement, we got
enthusiasm. Look at how you can use these muscles. Now show, now it's time to show
us some warrior face. What does it look like to go ahead and communicate? Put
that energy out there. Awesome. Excellent. Show sympathy and empathy and compassion.
Okay using your hands, safe touching, hands right here by the way. These four
fingers lightly touching the of somebody. It's not an uncomfortable
grab, it's not a massage, its acknowledgement that says that, I see you.
Okay so it's amazing how this face give you a lot of things. Now we're going to
add to that face. We are going to add message.
Marianne you now have permission
to speak.
Yes I am so excited to have you all here today. How many excited to be
here at this event?
Okay good energy right there. She's projecting her voice
and she shared her message in a way that matches. So for example, how would your
message sound if you were talking about something sad and you wanted your body
language and your hands and your face to match the message?
I'll never forget the
day when I was standing in my house and I heard a crash outside.
Now pause.
Notice that she's slowing down her speaking. This is not her enthusiastic
warrior moment, this is her healer energy. She's slowing down. She's actually
naturally gravitating to the past which is the stage right position. And she's
connecting with her audience. Show us energy.
Man we got some stuff to do today
I want to hear some noise. Let me hear some noise! Okay look at the way she's
using her feet. She's using her state. She's moving around and she's and she's
doing that in a really great way and noticed that her body language,
she's got faster moving arms and her face is matching her message.
Now I'm
gonna put one more up here and I'm going to give you a challenge I'm gonna see if
miss talented here can tackle this one.
This fifth and final one is the energy.
It's one thing to know the words and it's another to project the energy and I
think Marianne has already shown us what that looks like. Marianne what I want to
invite you to do is do your body right, your hands right, your face right and
even say the right words. But I want your energy to be communicating something
different than the words. So for example, let's go for an excitable enthusiastic
state but the energy isn't matching the language.
I'm so excited to be here with
you today.
How many of you are excited to come to this event?
Okay pause.
Notice
that she's got the right words. She's asking and rolling questions, she is
engaging and yet noticed that energetically there's a mismatch between
her saying how many of you excited to be at this event instead of, how many of you
excited to be at our event today?! right?
There's, we are trying to get
the energy to match. Similarly, let's do together. This time I want, I want your
body to be right your hands her and your face right your message right but I want
your energy to be off when you're telling a sad story.
You know I
was in my house one day and I heard the crash outside and I knew my dog was dead.
Ans pause. Does she look like she's concerned for having a dead animal
that's a member of the family that's a pet?
There's not a lot of concern. There's
a mismatch there. Okay so what we're gonna do in a moment is I'm gonna give
Marianne an entire 30 seconds to take any topic that she's passionate about
and what she's gonna do for 30 seconds is she's gonna demonstrate body, hands,
face, message, and energy that all match each other. Will you please get on your
feet at home and give up for the amazing Marianne Denovellis!
I'll never forget the
first day I set out to climb a mountain. I've been mountain climbing
before but I never really quite had attempted something this big. We got out
of the car that morning and it's six o'clock in the morning. It's totally dark
outside and I can feel them in my face. I can feel the chill of the
mountainside and I could see the summit way the top. Way in the distance and I
thought, oh my gosh
this is my mountain.
I get out of the car and I start climbing
and I start time when we go on for minutes, we go on for half an hour, goin on
for an hour. And that's when you start to feel the burn right? And the summit, guess
what? it still it's as far away as it did when we first got out of the car.
Then
the breakthrough happens.
I'm asking myself, can I make it ?
can I go on?
can I
get any closer and how much further do I have to go? all of these thoughts are
pressing down on me. And I look up and say, this is my time. This is my mountain.
This is where I get to prove my mettle and show everything that I've worth. This
is my moment to show my success. And you know what happened after that?
incredible success.
I get up, I go on, I say, you know what I don't care about the
soreness my legs. I don't care about how much longer it's gonna take. I don't care
what I have to do because this is my time, this is my moment and I choose to
be there.
And I gotta tell you something,
the view from the top of that mountain
was more than worth everything it took to get there.
Awesome. Did you give
her a round of applause on that one too? that was just me putting an amazing
Marianne Denovellis right there on the spot. Notice that as she was speaking
that when she was playing smaller, her hands came closer together and then when
she was opening up her energy they got further apart and notice that we went on
a roller coaster of low high low high and just in that
short 60 90 second period of time, you demonstrated beautifully body, hands, face,
message, and energy all coming together.
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