hi I wanted to answer a question that you had left you had said while I
understand that a in general narcissus would make terrible partners do they
need do they still need love or can they experience the feeling of love and this
is a really good question because if you've ever had a relationship with a
narcissist you want to know like do they love me did they love me are they
capable of love do they love their new supply like all of these questions
the short answer actually I would just cross out love and I would just put
narcissistic supply so really all love is to a narcissist is
a narcissistic supply are you enabling their behavior are you not holding them
accountable for their actions you're not forcing them to take responsibility for
their actions are you validating them are you you know overlooking red flags
and just pretending that they walk on water and they're a perfect human being
so if you are then you're giving them really good narcissistic supply and they
love you so they don't really know what love is they didn't experience true love
or unconditional love from their parents from siblings from the people that were
around them and that raised them they the reason why they have this
personality disorder is because at some point they deemed themselves unlovable
not good enough to the point where they just killed off their true self and
created this persona I'm amazing you know I walk on water I can do no wrong
like I have this grandioso personality or again they can be more covert and
just be like what was me you know everything always happens to me and they
just want sympathy and attention from you know external people they just want
validation so really do they need love they just really need attention so they
just really need supply so if a narcissus isn't getting attention and
supply I mean they could very well become depressed they can almost become
suicidal so they have to always be surrounding themselves with people that
think that they are absolutely amazing that's why a lot of times especially in
over at narcissist will be in a position of power so they'll you know
be the bigwig and they you know politicians or whatever just CEOs like
they could be the manager of McDonald's it doesn't really matter they just need
to be at a higher ranked position that way people think that they're amazing
they have to be in a relationship with another person that thinks that they
walk on water and that they're God's gift and that they can do no wrong
and that never hold them accountable for anything so the person that ends up
being in a relationship with a narcissist is a very weak person they
probably either don't have any boundaries or self-love and is extremely
codependent and fragile and very insecure or they could very well be a
narcissist themselves and it's it's very common to have two narcissistic we know
you know two people with either narcissistic traits or narcissistic
personality disorder come together and be in a relationship most often those
relationships don't last because at some point there has to be a give-and-take in
a relationship and a narcissist is just a taker so that's gonna always cause
friction when you get to narcissists together but we're kind of going off
topic um so again do they need love no they mean narcissistic supply
do they ever experience the feeling of love I personally don't think so I mean
maybe if you have someone that doesn't have full-blown a narcissistic
personality disorder and just has a lot of traits they might be able to
experience some kind of love but even then I really just don't think so you
know something like a parent that is narcissistic looking at their children
you know most often we would think oh my god we absolutely love our children we
automatically unconditionally love our child but for someone that's suffering
from NPD or even has a lot of traits and is right there on that spectrum um it's
gonna be really hard because that child is constantly as long as that child is
you know adorable and cute and good in school and athletic or whatever it is
that they're giving that parent which is narcissistic supply which is that's my
child then they think that they feel love for that child but when push comes
to shove they don't put that child first they don't put the best interest
the child first so it always you end up seeing that they don't really love the
people around them because they only love themselves and what they can get
out of the people that they have surrounded themselves with so I hope
that helps answer your question it was a little longer than I wanted to but if
you have any more questions please let me know