By the end of this video,
I'm going to give you 10 signs so that you can spot the signs before they happen.
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Okay, so let's go through the ten signs that you are getting
ready to be discarded by that narcissist.
So remember that supply is anything
that feeds that narcissistic ego and people can be supply.
People can you know, feed their ego.
Make them feel good, you know.
Stroke them. You're so great.
You know, for those of you who are Seinfeld fans out there.
I know it's kind of an old show at this point.
Maybe I'm dating myself. I don’t know
but I watched a lot of Seinfeld back in the day
and there was this,
you know, episode where they used to,
you know, there was this guy who would like tease Jerry about,
you know, love me, love me.
I Think I'm wonderful, whatever
and that's what I think of when I think of,
you know, the narcissist and so they started hanging out with this better supply
and this new form of supply is going to love them more,
think they're better, or in their mind,
be more prestigious,
get them where they want to go,
be higher on the food chain in their mind.
So maybe it's, you know,
younger better-looking, whatever it is more money, who knows?
But they start hanging out with better supply.
That's number one.
That means they start not returning your phone calls.
Not returning your tax.
Not responding to you as quickly as they used to.
Not showing up when they're supposed to be start
seeing them less and less they aren't,
you know, responding and start ghosting you.
That means that you know, you're not hearing back from them as frequently
as you used to, that's number two.
So they're doing things to you
and then they're acting like they're not doing things to you
or they're saying things to you or doing things that they're not supposed to
and when you're calling them out on their behavior,
they act like it's not happening.
For example. They may say oh I'm going away this weekend
or I'm doing something on this particular date
and you say I didn't know about that and they'll say oh, yeah.
Absolutely.
We had a conversation about that.
We discussed that and you think we never discussed that.
Oh, yeah, we had a whole conversation
about that and you think you're going
crazy because you don't remember having that discussion.
That's gaslighting.
Or they'll try to say that a particular conversation
Included a conversation about something,
they'll take a kernel of something that was you know,
part of that conversation
and they twisted around to be something that it wasn't.
hat's gas lighting
and you start to see more and more and more of that during the discard phase.
So that happens. Okay.
this can be happening months and months
and months before the actual discard.
So they kind of start setting it up maybe a long time before.
So for example, if you're in a romantic relationship
and marriage or something like that
and they want to kind of set it up that they're going to be accusing you of being,
you know, an alcoholic or something like that.
It may set it up where months before they'll say.
Thing to a neighbor like, geez,
my wife or my husband had too much to drink last night at this party.
I'm so concerned. So concerned for them,
and it's just really concerned.
They set it up as concern
and then when the actual divorce
then happens months down the road,
they can say, oh, see, you know, I told you I had that concern
so many months ago and you see how they start to plant these seeds,
they start to drop these little things down the road.
So the birth of that smear campaign,
they can start actually setting that up maybe months in advance.
But if you do want to know more about how to shut down the narcissist smear campaign,
I do have a whole video on this topic
which you can definitely check out if you'd like.
so remember their flying monkeys are those
third parties that they want to have on their
side because they definitely want to have all these people on their side
so that they can say that everybody else thinks this,
you're the only one who thinks that they want you to think that they've
got all these people on their side that believe them
you know, are these better life that they're going to have
and everybody is with them
and you're the out person and their the in ones
and they've got this crowd lined up against them to have their army on their side.
So that's definitely part of that discard phase as well lining up there flying monkeys.
So, you know, they've been doing this throughout the entire relationship,
anyway, but you start to see it on steroids
so they're actibg like their narky selves,
doing the things that they're doing lying, denying
and then you're calling them out on their behavior.
So it's projection and deflection.
Not taking responsibility for their actions, their never to blame for anything.
They're lying about everything,
you know, you're trying to get them to take responsibility
for things that they're doing how they're treating
you or things that they're supposed to be doing and they're not or things that they did do.
They didn't, they weren't supposed to whatever it is
and of course, there is never any responsibilities taken on their part.
So that's definitely something that you see.
when they actually realize that you are no longer for them.
They're not no longer for you.
You're no longer going to be a source of supply for them.
because remember for a narcissist,
you're either for them or against them.
It's very black and white.
They live in a black and white world.
Once you're no longer for them
it's definitely you become somebody that they need to go after.
Remember that it's not just about winning for them.
That it's also about making you miserable
and there's a whole A lot of things you need to be ready to slay them
in negotiations, strategy, leverage,
anticipating, and focusing on you.
I talk all about that in my slay methodology.
So, if you are so ready to slay,
give me a slay in the comments.
Give me a slay in the comments. All right.
So that's number seven.
not telling you things.
maybe hiding money,
you know, there's all kinds of things going on
that you're not going to know about.
So that's number eight.
Number eight is withholding, hiding, secreting money or withholding secrets,
not telling you things.
There's just all kinds of things going on,
that you're not going to know about that's number eight.
It's your fault. Always your fault.
Everything is your fault.
No matter what happens. It's your fault.
Even if they didn't provide the things that they were supposed to provide.
They didn't do the things they were supposed to do.
Whatever happens. It's always your fault.
Don't take that on. Don't allow that.
Just put up a shield.
Don't let them lay the guilt thing on you.
So new game in town over here.
Okay? No, the answer is no.
You don't take that on. That's number nine.
It's definitely happens during the discard phase be super careful.
Super careful about anything you write,
anything you put your hand to, anything you do
or say how you behave, whatever it will definitely potentially be used against you.
Especially in negotiations.
You have to be super hyper aware of that.
They will try to trigger you. They will try to go do
and so you have to be super careful about that.
So those are the ten signs that you may be being discarded by a narcissist.
Super important especially when you're going to negotiate with a narcissist
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