my brothers and sisters before you talk about getting married you must make sure you understand
how divorce works most of the young people i've asked have been married without knowing
about divorce and this is why when a time comes where there is a little dispute or a major dispute
in anger some of these youngsters blurt out the words of divorce and talaq and you and i know that
in islam it is a big thing you don't threaten people every little while i'm going to divorce
you if you do this i'll divorce you i'll divorce you about this and that and if you go here i'll
divorce you and if you do this i'll divorce you in islam that is not allowed you don't play games
with something that is very very serious in the eyes of allah almighty so don't ever utter the
words of divorce jokingly don't ever utter them just playfully don't ever threaten your spouse
with divorce for every little thing that is happening calm down take it easy work on your
marriage make sure that you don't want to just get out of the marriage because of a few differences
that you have and be careful if you are to utter those words they will have a huge impact on your
life not just on the marital situation and on your marriage but on your entire life so please
i really plead with all of those out there married or unmarried learn about divorce and how it works
why does allah speak about three divorces in fact i can quickly explain it to you
if a person really doesn't get along with the spouse and they have tried their best to make
it work and they've reached the end they made divorce once that's enough you don't ever need
to issue more than one divorce at that stage it's either revocable or irrevocable you'll have to
learn about that if within the waiting period which is three menstrual cycles in most cases
you decide you want to get back and you want to reconcile you may do so you may do so
if you have reconciled remember you've already used one talaq or divorce if you've reconciled
masha'allah your life may progress and proceed you may never need to revisit
any talaq or the topic of talaq but if for some reason the problems happen to reoccur
and the road seems to be ending once again and you've arrived right at the end you may choose to
go through a second talaq that's the second talaq so a second divorce allah gives you another chance
and allah says okay no problem you can break up again and end the marriage again if after you've
ended it the second time with another one talaq so the first time you gave one and after some time
you gave another one now you've given two and if within the waiting period if you did not reconcile
then the spouses can marry whom they want they can actually you know go and perhaps pursue someone
else or they could get back together with a new nikah that is if the period the waiting
period of three menstrual cycles has come to an end so you've only issued one or two and
the waiting period has finished in that case you can go back to your
the spouse who just divorced you or whom you were divorced from or you could go to someone else and
the second time the same applies but if you have reconciled for the second time then do you know
you only have one more chance now allah almighty says that if you get along alhamdulillah it was
good that's the blessing of allah he's given you the third chance but if you did not get along and
you arrived at the end of the path and you decided you know what i've just had enough i gave it three
chances and you know what it's just not working so allah says the third talaq the third time
you divorce you're not allowed to get back to the same guy because you're wasting your life
you're wasting your time you've tried three whole times and now you go to someone else perhaps maybe
if without the interference of your first spouse you marry another person he might be
an excellent person you might have a beautiful marriage thereafter so many have had amazing
marriages after divorce and you may never have to revisit the issue of talaq or divorce once again
or again should i say but if for some reason you are divorced from the second spouse you may now go
back to the first one because you would have had something to compare it with you may have felt
that the first person was better than the second one and i now understand and appreciate those
weaknesses i can put up with these ones i cannot so that's the whole idea of having three divorces
now what people do is they end up divorcing their wives thinking i wonder where they get
it from that the way to divorce a woman is to repeat the words of divorce thrice that is the
furthest from the truth that is the worst way of doing things it is sinful it is a huge huge sin to
just utter these words thrice for what you only ever need to utter it once and that too like i
said not jokingly not playfully not threateningly but in a serious manner so my brothers my sisters
take it seriously learn about divorce before you get married and if you are married right now
before you have an argument learn about divorce make sure you understand what it is all about
people divorce their wives one two three then they want to go and ask the scholars
what happens now and you know there is a major difference of opinion amongst the scholars in this
regard what does it occur as in a nutshell you're playing with the with the teachings of the quran
and the teachings of allah you won't be able to lead a life of happiness if you
want to play the fool with what allah has revealed so therefore my brothers my sisters
like i said at the beginning learn about divorce before you get married make sure you know how to
issue a divorce an example of it is imagine you have a gun and you don't even know what
the trigger is all about and you pull it thrice or you pull it whatever how many other times and
you've injured someone or killed them and then you say oh can i revive this can i revive this person
i just made a mistake i did not know what the trigger was all about you would be foolish
learn about a weapon before you have it in the same way learn about talaq before you marry may
allah almighty bless every one of us it's a very important subject please share this video as far
and as wide as you can so that people understand i see many people say well islam is very oppressive
because why is it that i cannot get back to my spouse you can you can if you had done it
the right way but because it was a sinful way or because you did it the wrong way then obviously
it's going to change things and you will have difference of opinion among the scholars and then
you actually have a huge matter in front of you may allah almighty grant us ease and goodness this
is just a brief point that i thought i'd raise but there is a lot more to learn about divorce
please go ahead and learn about it assalamu alaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh