Oh 4e hi james from engvid you know
people see the world differently we all
do
I mean what sounds good to you may not
feel right for other people and we also
learn differently what I want to use is
this lesson today to teach you how to
communicate more effectively I want to
teach you the three styles that people
have when they communicate how they
communicate and how you can use these
styles understanding your own to learn
English more effectively let's go to the
board and take a look shall we
all right we got mystery he doesn't seem
to be feel good today professor he or
whoever this guy is with a funky glove
is right he's like a doctor like Freud
okay so how do you feel the well did mr.
e mr. e says I I don't like how it
sounds it just feels wrong I can't see
myself doing it now each one of these
things there are different styles
there's a word called modalities which
is a way of seeing or learning things
right modes models now he's talking
about different ones sounding is for
hearing feeling to be your hands or your
body how does it feel and seeing your
eyes we're going to look over here now
and I'm going to give you the titles or
the proper names we say when we talk
about these things okay so when we talk
about a person who is visual we mean
they see with their eyes of course but
what we're talking about is when they're
thinking they see pictures or movies
when you ask them a question a picture
appears in their eyes right away when
you say the large black dog they see a
dog a large black one they tend to be
like me
they speak quickly that's why I'm
slowing down now but I you say something
to me I I see a picture and I want to
get it out of my head as quickly as
possible because pictures are like a
thousand words okay now they like things
to look good why am I telling you this
well if you understand how these people
think you'll understand how to
communicate with them
right so a visual person likes things
looking good
they speak quickly and they see pictures
when they're speaking that's why they
speak so quickly to you or rapidly okay
what about an auditory person auditory
comes from audio audio whoa whoa whoa
whoa you know your mp3 player you like
music that's auditory with your ears
these people need clear speech what that
means is what I'm doing now is best for
an auditory person they need to hear
clearly what you're saying or they don't
understand you it's not such a bad thing
we should all be a little bit more clear
in our speech especially when learning a
language they also need to manage sound
level what would happen is if I'm
talking and they're talking and several
people are talking they are the people
most likely to say hey guys calm down
lower the volume because they can't
concentrate because they need that clear
speech okay and what's the third thing
we're going to talk about or body
it's called kinesthetic sometimes it
includes taste delicious
and smell okay these people need really
slow speech because they feel with their
body so the slow speech helps them to
process the information okay they like
to do things there's what we call
hands-on they want to touch something or
move something they understand things
when they're doing it if you draw a
picture like for the visual person it
won't make as much sense and even if you
just speak to them they will get it as
soon as they touch it they understand it
okay they like comfortable environment
something that makes them feel
comfortable so in each category or sense
these people like things to look good
the visual ones these people like to
make the sound nice for them and these
people like to be comfortable in their
environment the nice heat the right
chair okay how does this help you with
your English well this isn't a beginner
lesson what we want to look at is how
people learn and how we can speak to
them so your message is understood more
readily also I'm going to show you how
you can use it
to help yourself learn you ready okay so
as I was saying it's important to learn
your style as well as someone else's how
does it work for you we look at mystery
he's saying all of these things it
sounds feels and see well the doctor
really understands is feel so this is
appropriate speech for him feel to feel
how does it work for you in a classroom
well if you have an option or if you're
watching videos you want to have someone
who matches your style when dr. e and
mystery are speaking feel and feel match
does your teacher speak quickly if
you're a visual person this is good
because if they speak slowly you're
going to get bored because you're seeing
pictures and the pictures are
disappearing and they're still speaking
so you'll be like come on come on
right now if they speak too quickly and
speak like me all the time like this too
rapidly and your kinesthetic or auditory
or they're not clear you're not going to
get the information you need so why am I
telling you this pick the style you need
when you're studying look at your
environment if you're an auditory person
pick something that is a neutral sound
so the sounds aren't bothering you and
someone who speaks clearly okay so
someone who's got a lot of stuff going
in the background may not be the best
teacher especially on the internet to
watch right if you're visual if they use
pictures to show things this is good
they speak fast right you can keep up
with them that's good for you and
kinesthetic the environment they don't
like a lot of mess or stuff around so
they have to be comfortable take someone
who speaks very slowly and you should be
comfortable in your environment nice
comfy seat warm cocoa or water in your
hand and you're just relaxed those are
the best ways for you to learn now
moving on from your learning style while
we go back to why we're here
communicating with others now here's how
this works
people we're all different so don't
think one person thinks in one style
that's just silly
no one's all of everything you know 100%
but what we're looking at is what words
do you hear them use very regularly if
you want them to understand you better
it's best you use those same words when
you're speaking to them if I'm always
saying it doesn't look good to me
I mean you haven't really shown me
anything and I just don't see it I'm a
visual person speak faster and use
visual words that will communicate to me
we understand each other if you use
auditory words like doesn't sound right
I'm not hearing it doesn't like a bell
it's going it's like we're speaking
different languages and you don't want
that especially when you're learning a
new language right so I didn't make the
words too complicated because I want you
to use vocabulary you already know but
listen for you see here feel these are
common words and I'm going to teach you
a few more on the board in a second but
let's look at some useful phrases okay
now when you want to give an idea or
your teaching okay it's a very good
thing to try and use as many as the
styles as possible because you have
different students so right now I'm
going to speak a little faster because I
don't want to make you visual people
bored but then I'm going to slow down a
bit to make sure the auditory and
kinesthetic people understand what I'm
getting at all right so when you're
giving ideas or teaching you could say
something like this I'm going to just
demonstrate how to do it and you're
telling someone I'm going to do this
physically so for the people who are
kinesthetic they will go okay and they
will be ready to go okay now grab the
bottle pick it up pull it okay they
understand all right now if you're
talking to a visual person you're going
to say something like I want to
illustrate because that tells my brain
illustrate is drawing and my brain will
get ready to take a picture and draw
okay and what about articulates clearly
articulate in English means to speak
articulate is to show through speech so
I want to articulate these points to you
I'm going to tell you speech as part of
the listening set okay so we're talking
about giving ideas are teaching here's
some handy phrases to use so you can use
all of them but at different points I'd
like to demonstrate how we're going to
do this now before I do that I want to
clearly articulate that you should have
all the things with you okay and you
know just to illustrate my point when
you don't have these things you can't do
the job I've used all three to
communicate to three stylet styles of
people nice huh
let's move on what's the next one
how do you say you like it I say to you
you know what it doesn't really feel
good you can say feels right to me
you're communicating even though you
don't agree you're telling them I have
the same kind of idea you have on this
situation all right so I can say it
feels right to me it sounds right to me
or sounds good to me or it looks good
and each one I'm communicating to each
style and I'm telling them I understand
you because you said seal I'm saying
feel right how do you feel about it
let's feel pretty good proper response
to the proper question how does it look
to you well with the way I see it proper
to response to the proper question okay
cool and the last one being careful when
you want someone to be careful or to
take their time when they're doing
something here are some useful phrases
take one step at a time
literally one step steps are small and
you're saying be careful don't run take
steps as a physical thing so if you've
got a physical guy who's like oh yeah
hey let's just take it one step at a
time all right how about this word for
word
that's auditory listen let's let's go
over this word for word you could be
reading a book or something right you
could be reading a book or a paper or
even saying someone says something go
hey what did you say
I want word for word once again they're
telling you remember auditory they're
saying be clear I need to hear each word
or I need to see each word or I won't
understand
and finally the visual look closely now
to be honest with you 60% of people in
North America and 60% of English
speakers are visual partly in first
world I would say it's because we are
hit all the time with television and
Internet so the visual ones you're going
to see may be a little bit more helpful
but they're useful because each of us
change modes depend or styles depending
on the situation we're in so you should
learn all of them alright now here are
some words for vocabulary you may not
know Tim when there's a lot of light we
say it's very bright but when there's
not a lot of lights and you're in a dark
room you say it's dim because there's
not a lot of light when you have a dim
view of something or someone it means
you don't have a good view of them you
don't really like them necessarily I
have a dim view of drug
means I don't like them I don't like how
they seem to me dim not not a lot of
light not clear clear almost the exact
opposite clear means it's easily
understood so when someone says to you I
have a dim view of you I have a bad view
of you I don't necessarily like you the
light isn't good on you when they say
it's clear it means I understand is that
clear I understand sir got it great
clear easy like a good picture and
insight see the word in and you know and
sight is the ability to see when you
have insight you have an understanding
John what's your insight on this
particular problem well boss I think
saying what what understanding do you
have of this situation
he has no insight they have no
understanding how about this one a vocal
you'll hear vocal lalala lalala
you think it's speech it kind of is but
we use it for people who speak their
mind a lot he's not very vocal or he's
very vocal means they speak their mind
they tell you what their thinking is he
vocal not really okay I'm very vocal
that's why I'm doing this otherwise it
would be no lesson
tone-tone todo todo todo is from music
but we usually use it to say something
like this I don't like your tone I don't
like the way you're speaking to me in
other words I don't get a good feeling
about how you're saying orth I like his
tone I'm happy about the way they're
speaking or what they're saying cool and
the last one here you know James here my
hearing a good here is this is similar
to understanding insight and I go I hear
you I understand you right no one says I
don't hear you because it means I
physically have no ears and I cannot
hear what you're doing when I say he
doesn't hear you it means he doesn't
understand you or yeah yeah you can stop
where I hear I hear you I understand
cool now the last one is remember
kinesthetic we're talking about firm
firm means strong or a good hold when I
have a firm understanding it means I
really understand it a good
understanding all right
cold ah she's cold I mean they're not
nice they're not receptive they're not
friendly okay and grasp is to understand
see we have grasp here here here an
insight and they're all about
understanding did you grasp what I'm
saying can
you grasp what I'm saying do you mean
you incite are you hearing me okay three
different ways of saying the same thing
oh you like that
good so I just want to say this before
we disappear because I'm feeling sorry
for my mr. e number one everybody has a
different way of using their style and
they won't be one style all the time
please remember that we switch styles
depending on situations number two no
style is better than any other style
people usually think visual people think
faster because they see pictures but
they also can make mistakes because
they're quickly going through things
well the kinetic kinesthetic person's
takes the time to take it in and
understand it right cool
now if you can take these hints and
remember listen for the words people are
saying and then try and match the words
that will give you what we call a
bonding there's another word for it but
that's another time try and use these
phrases to get your ideas across okay
and you know see how it works for you
anyway I got a good feeling you're going
to use this just right but hear me out
before I disappear I want you to go
somewhere okay because I want to finish
off the lesson unfortunately got it go
right here you ready so I want you to go
to www.engvid.com
where you can learn about conversation
skills vocabulary and many other
interesting topics cool
I know hear what I'm saying anyway I see
it's time to go got a jet taking one
step at a time anyway have a good one
you