How do you know if you're getting better with women? This is an analogy I just came up with.
I like to have this analogy of working out. It is a great analogy
to the process of meeting women. When I say the process of meeting women, I'm mainly talking about
meeting women in person and building attraction. That can be through a cold approach or that can
be through going on dates. This is not gonna 100% apply to online dating, although it still can a
little bit a bit more. I'm talking about the main process of when you're in front of a woman. That's
going to be word counts anyways. And like I said, that can be done through doing cold approaches,
or when you're finally on a date with them because maybe you didn't do a cold approach. Maybe you did
meet them from online, but you're now in front of them on a date. Here's the analogy. Imagine that
doing the approaches, or doing the dates is a workout. It's like when you go into a gym, you're
lifting weights, you're working out to break down the muscle and then get stronger. The approaches
and the dates are doing that. Now when you do a workout and you want to build muscle, what
do you have to do when you get home? If you are someone who works out, you probably have an answer
in your head, it' s very simple. What do you do? You got to eat protein. You got to eat protein,
you have to have the right nutrition to build your muscle. In this analogy, think of your analysis
and the content, such as here on the podcast, or maybe it's the YouTube channel, or maybe
it's my Hooked program, or any of my other programs in my member's area. The information
that is the protein. I'll explain this again, I'll go a little slower here. When you're going out and
you're doing approaches or you're on dates, that is we're working out, we're doing the thing that
we need to do to get better at this. But then if you're just doing that, but you're coming home
and you're not going okay, what did I do wrong? What could I have done better?
Where did things fall off? And then doing your research to then get better. It's like,
I'm going out and doing approaches, but man, I feel like I'm not flirting with them enough. This
is your analysis when you come home from doing an approach or doing on a date. You're coming home,
you're saying okay, maybe I didn't flirt enough. I gotta learn more about flirting. I gotta learn
more about building tension. All right, let me dive into the Hooked program and find that one
video. Let me go into the How To Talk To Girls podcast and find some of his episodes on flirting.
Or the YouTube channel and find some stuff on flirting. Or dive into the Magnetic book and go
into the chapter that talks about flirting and conversation. That's the protein. It's like,
if you do all your workout, but you don't eat protein, you're not going to build any muscle. If
you're doing approaches and you're going on dates, but you're not trying to fix the little things
that need to be fixed or tweaking, you're not going to get better. This is the analogy here.
What's the system for you? The system for you is, like I said, you're doing the in person stuff,
the approaches, you're going to parties and socializing – all the normal pickup
stuff and you're going on dates. And then you want to come home and you want to think about
what you need to do to then get better at whatever it is that you did. Now again, some people have a
very tough time with that. That's where coaching might come in. But if you're doing this yourself,
you might have an idea of the structure of, I know that it's open and then get rid of that
approach anxiety and become more courageous and then you're working on continuing conversation,
then you're working on building tension, and you're working on escalating and closing.
And then maybe you're working on how to become better at doing the same thing on dates.
And then maybe you're working on how do I escalate to sex? How do I become awesome at sex? How do I
get into a relationship? How do I find the person who's going to be a good match for a relationship?
How do I then have an awesome relationship? And then how do I have an awesome marriage? I just
gave you the whole breakdown of beginning to end. If you're aware of the timeline of how things go,
then you can say, I know where I can work on this. I know where I can get better. This is
a way to do this on your own if you don't have a coach behind you to catch your blind spots.
You need to do that analysis and content. All the episodes I'm putting on the podcast
every single week, all the episodes I'm putting on my YouTube channel every single week,
or access to my member's area where I have all these different courses that teach you all this
stuff in an organized way. That too, is going to be the protein. It's going to be the way to
analyze and see okay, where can I get better? What can I do better? This is exactly what I did when
I was first getting into this. This is exactly what I did. I would go out. I would do my best.
And then I would find my sticking points. You ever heard that term sticking point? You find
your sticking points. Your sticking point (or I should say the awareness of your sticking point)
is one of the most crucial things because if you have an awareness of what your sticking point is,
then you know where to do some research, then you know where you can get better, and then you'll
know where to drill whatever you need to drill on the next time that you're going out or going on a
date. And again, this does apply to online dating. You can be doing online dating and results aren't
happening so you're doing the workout, you're putting in the swipes, and you're doing your
pictures and all that stuff. But then it's not working and then you need to tweak from there.
It can be applied to that as well. I hope this helps you. I hope you understand what
I'm getting at here. This whole idea of you put in the work and then you come back and do the content
and the analysis ie. or aka. whatever... the protein. That's why... if you right
now are listening to this... whether you're listening to this right now on YouTube, TikTok,
or the podcast... if you are just ingesting this content and you're not doing anything with it,
you're doing yourself a disservice. I mean obviously. That's a very obvious statement,
that you're not going to get any results by just listening or watching. You're going to need to do
something with this information. And I encourage you, and I feel like I haven't done this enough
recently in the podcast, but I want to encourage you to use this stuff. I've had guys who have left
reviews on my podcast who say, this guy doesn't know what he's talking about. It's like, well,
that sounds like someone who didn't try the advice and they just listened. And I don't
need you to blindly believe me. You don't have to. You shouldn't shouldn't blindly believe anybody.
Great if the material resonates with you. But the point is go out and try it. Do something
with this material and see what comes of it. And then you can come back to it. But if you're just
sitting here doing mental masturbation. And by the way, I did a lot of mental masturbation
when I was learning how to meet women. I would watch stuff all day. I would fantasize about
being able to use the information, but I was too scared to put it into practice. I understand
that. For some guys, you want to keep listening to finally motivate you to make that first approach,
or whatever it may be. But then, it came to a point where I said to myself,
this is not getting me anywhere. I can't just keep watching all this stuff. I remember I was
just taking in as much as I could reading, watching and doing nothing with it. And it
wasn't until obviously that I put something to use that I started to make my journey and I
started to make my way. I want that to be the same for you as well. Use this stuff. Don't just
sit on it. Don't just mentally masturbate to all this stuff. This should be used.