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Have you ever met a very nice person in your life?
Who are they?
And what makes them nice people?
We're not talking about the fake nice people though that we've covered in another video
But you probably pictured someone who is agreeable easy to get along with
thoughtful, caring and polite
They do favors for their loved ones without ever asking for anything in return
and are happy to help everyone out with their dilemmas
While being nice is a wonderful quality. We should all aspire to have there are certain drawbacks that come with taking it to an extreme
Perhaps you might relate to the points in this video and that's why we made it so that you can know when you're being too
Nice for your own. Good. Are you starting to worry? You might be too nice for your own good?
Well, here are eight signs that can help you figure it out
One you don't prioritize your own needs
Are you constantly putting others ahead of you and selflessly devoting most of your time energy and attention to them?
Do you go out of your way to make sure all of their wants and needs are taken care of but never once asked them
To do the same for you if you're not careful
You might end up being exploited and taken advantage of by a lot of so-called friends
It's important to take care of yourself and prioritize your own needs from time to time
Anyone who actually loves you will understand and once what's best for you
Two you're constantly saying sorry
It's great that you're humble enough to admit your mistakes and apologize for them, but don't overdo it
You don't owe anyone an apology for things that aren't even your fault
If you're too nice for your own good you may suffer from a guilt complex that compels you to say
Sorry, every time you feel like you've let somebody down
You're so preoccupied with making sure you don't hurt anyone else's feelings
That you're quick to offer a hasty apology and take the blame for something you shouldn't
Three you agree to things you don't want to do
Being nice and doing favors for other people should make you feel good about yourself not worse
If find yourself agreeing and going along with what everyone else wants because you feel like you have no choice but to say yes
If so, you'll probably start to resent others for asking so much of you
But you'll never want to speak up about it
You let them walk all over you and blame yourself for not being brave enough to tell them how you really feel
For you often say yes immediately
Are you often quick to say yes to everything especially if it's someone close to you who's asking for something?
Do you often agree without any hesitation because you worry others will judge your decision
Do you care about their opinions so much that it means you'll sacrifice your own needs
It's important to only say yes to things that you want or are willing to do. It's okay to have other priorities
Don't let other people's happiness come at the cost of your own
Five you never tell people what you want
Are you afraid of coming off as bossy or demanding is this why you don't express your opinions or share your preferences with others?
You never suggest where to eat where to go out or what movie to watch
So everyone else ends up making the decision for you instead?
You might feel hurt that they don't take your feelings into consideration
But when they ask you what you want, your default response is usually whatever you want or I'm good with anything
Being so flexible to accommodate others is detrimental to your self-esteem as well as your image people may begin to take you for granted
So it's important to let others know your mind
Six you have a strong need to be liked
People who are too nice for their own good often act this way because they think it will make everyone else like them more
Do you think this is true for you?
to be honest with yourself about where this compulsion to be overly nice comes from
Do you define yourself? According to your relationships with others? Have you made your sense of self-worth too dependent on their approval?
While it's normal to fear rejection and crave acceptance from others. You shouldn't let this need control your life
People should like you for who you are not because of what you can do for them
7 you're very conflict averse. Are you afraid of a little confrontation when a friend or family member is upset with you?
do you just avoid them and hope they'll get over it soon of
Course, nobody liked to argue or fight with other people but being to conflict averse isn't good either
You want to keep the peace?
So you just give to what the other person wants and agree with the things they say
But how can anyone ever respect you if you never stand up for yourself?
you can state your side of an argument in a calm and reasonable way and others will appreciate your honesty and
Eight others often take advantage of you. Have you ever been in a codependent relationship?
Do people always turn to you for help fixing their problems?
Do you've a long list of favors you've promised to do even if you didn't actually want to all
Of these things are definite signs that you're too nice for your own good and other people are exploiting you for it
You never have any time for yourself anymore because you're so busy helping everyone else out and you constantly feel
overwhelmed by their incessant demands of you in
The end while there's certainly nothing wrong with being a nice person
It's just not right for you to sacrifice so much of your time energy and emotional well-being for the sake of others
Set healthy boundaries for yourself and don't be afraid to put your foot down from time to time
It's not selfish to take care of yourself. And you deserve to be happy just as much as anyone else does
You often find yourself putting others needs before your own. Could you relate to the situations explained in this video, please?
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