even if they don't have issues yet would benefit from doing some inner child work this do you think
this could prevent people from abandoning the marriage if yeah i think i think that
yeah if you develop this kind of a relationship with yourself and
the dialogue is one way that to help it there are many exercises but i i just use that as an example
but if you develop this relationship with yourself and with the world outside you're
developing the inward and outward relationship but if you do that it becomes much more difficult to
um to remain ignorant of the other person's needs or feelings it becomes more difficult
to choose a partner based on just money or looks or you know something like that it becomes
there's a lot more depth and commitment that go into relationships
everyone can benefit from this anyone anyone can benefit from this um inner child talk yeah can the
um the person who is the victim or the person who has been abandoned now that this person has this
tool for identifying how the inner child feels and what the inner child needs how can because we're
talking about women but it can be man or woman how can the woman in this case who's abandoned
use this tool to help the child because the father has left and this child is still a child
at the stage when these traumas um become part of the child's psyche with this inner child that
the adult self discussion adult self has with the inner child how can you teach a child this
too since the child is not an adult how does the child have its own inner child discussion
uh you teach it by by becoming you know a slightly different type of parent
because when i when i started working with this exercise unfortunately my children were already
uh 17 and 15 or actually 18 and 16 they were already grown to that extreme
but i became such a better parent once i got in touch with my inner inner child
that inner voice the feelings i was so much better able to relate to my own children
and anyone who gets involved in this inner child work the dialogue becomes a better parent now when
you begin to relate let's say you're you're going through an abandonment you're in an emotional
crisis there are no easy answers your your life is it's just painful you're filled with the shame of
being discarded and thrown away by someone it's very difficult but you have young children but
as you begin to do the work your relationship with them improves because your sensitivity and
your awareness increases then they become more in touch with their emotions because as a parent
as a mother you are touching those emotions in a gentle empathetic way so it kind of creates
a more aware child and a more in tune child who feels instead of feeling weak for crying feels
good about crying or instead of feeling you know damaged because they have trouble doing something
they they forgive themselves and understand that everyone has their own issues so it is a very
positive parenting approach to do the work and then let that work um help you be a better parent
that's awesome that's awesome and i guess these are some of the positive things that
can come out of what is an adverse situation many positive things and that is definitely one of them
that's just awesome