THERE IS MOUNTING EVIDENCE AND STUDIES REGARDING THE ORGASM GAP
BETWEEN MEN AND WOMEN, AND RECENT DATA INDICATES THAT
UNFORTUNATELY 47% OF WOMEN ñ 40% OF WOMEN EXPERIENCE SEXUAL
DYSFUNCTION, ASSOCIATED WITH A CHRONIC DIFFICULTY IN
ACHIEVING ORGASM.
THIS IS VERY DIFFERENT FOR MEN.
ACCORDING TO THESE STUDIES, ALL GROUPS OF MEN ñ GAY, BISEXUAL,
HETEROSEXUAL ñ ORGASM MORE THAN ALL GROUPS OF WOMEN.
IT IS IMPORTANT TO NOTE THAT LESBIANS OUGHT TO HAVE A BETTER
TIME ORGANIZING ñ ORGASM AND THEN STRAIGHT WOMEN, WHICH
IS THE MOST UNSURPRISING THING I'VE EVER HEARD IN MY LIFE.
THERE'S TWO ASPECTS TO THAT, RIGHT?
THE HEART OF THIS STORY FOCUSES ON ANATOMY, IF YOUR ANATOMY IS
STRUCTURED IN A CERTAIN WAY, YOU ARE LIFE ñ YOU ARE LESS LIKELY
TO GET AN ORGASM, IT'S NOT HIM, IT'S NOT YOU, IT'S SLIGHTLY
BASED ON ANATOMY.
LESBIAN PARTLY ñ LESBIAN PARTNERS TO OPENLY DISPROVE
THAT, THEY JUST LET YOU KNOW THAT THERE'S MORE OPTIONS, LIKE
IF YOU CARE MORE ABOUT THE FEMALE BODY OR CARE MORE TO
FIND OUT, YOU CAN PLEASE BETTER.
BECAUSE LESBIANS DON'T HAVE A DIFFERENT ANATOMY AT A DIFFERENT
RATE THEN STRAIGHT COUPLES DO, YOU SEE WHAT I'M SAYING?
YEAH, IT'S NOT LIKE YOU HAVE THE ANATOMY AND YOU ARE OR ARE
NOT LESBIAN THEREFORE.
SO EVEN WITH THE SAME PERCENTAGE OF ANATOMY BEING DIFFERENT
WITHIN WOMEN, WITHIN COUPLES, LESBIANS DO END UP ORGASM AND
MORE, SO THAT SEEMS LIKE IT'S A LITTLE BIT MORE OF, THEIR
PARTNER PUT MORE EFFORT INTO WHICH.
THE FOCUS IS THE ORGASM WHEN IT'S TWO WOMEN.
WHEN IT'S MEN, ANOTHER WORD FOR YOU, AND ñ IT'S AN ANDROCENTRIC
MODEL OF SEX, WHICH MEANS IT IS FOCUSED ON EMAIL ORGASM.
IF YOU GET IT, YOU GET IT, WHATEVER, IF YOU DON'T, I
GOT MINE.
I THINK WITH LESBIANS THE FOCUS IS ON PLEASING YOUR PARTNER;
WHEREAS, WITH MEN THAT MAY NOT BE THE FOCUS ALL THE TIME.
TO BE FAIR TO MEN NOW
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TO BE MORE ANDRO - SOMETHING SOMETHING, YOU CAN UNDERSTAND
WHY MEN MAY BE FRUSTRATED, BECAUSE 40% OF WOMEN ARE HAVING
DIFFICULTY ORGASMING.
AND PEOPLE LIVE IN THEIR OWN PERSPECTIVE, SO A CERTAIN
PERCENTAGE OF MEN ARE GETTING FRUSTRATED GOING, I DID THE
BEST I COULD.
I THINK THERE ARE SO MANY DIFFERENT FACTORS AT PLAY.
THERE ARE BIOLOGICAL, OR AT LEAST PHYSICAL FACTORS, AND
THERE'S CERTAIN WAYS THAT SOME WOMEN'S ANATOMY HELPS THEM
ACHIEVE ORGASMS EASILY, AS OPPOSED TO OTHER WOMEN, AND
THAT HAS TO DO WITH, YOU KNOW, WHERE THE CLEAREST IS, HOW
LARGE THE CLUTTER THIS IS, THAT ACTUALLY DOES PLAY A ROLE.
THERE IS ALSO THE COMPONENT OF HOW AROUSAL FOR WOMEN IS
JUST AS IMPORTANT MENTALLY AS IT IS PHYSICALLY.
YOU HAVE TO BE IN THE RIGHT PLACE MENTALLY FOR A LOT OF
WOMEN.
SO IF YOU ARE CONSCIOUS OR NOT IN THE MOOD TO HAVE SEX,
THAT COULD REALLY IMPACT WHETHER OR NOT YOU CLIMAX.
THERE WAS ANOTHER GREAT POINT MADE BY A PSYCHOLOGY
ASSISTANT PROFESSOR, AND HE SAID THAT WOMEN HAVE A HIGHER
BODY DISPATCH ñ DISSATISFACTION THAN MEN AND IT INTERFERES
WITH THEIR SEX LIFE MORE.
THIS CAN IMPACT SEXUAL SATISFACTION AND ABILITY TO
ORGASM IF PEOPLE ARE FOCUSING MORE ON THESE CONCERNS.
IT COULD BE THAT PEOPLE ARE FOCUSING ON THEIR BODIES, OR
THAT THEY ARE BEING ñ WORRIED ABOUT BEING PERCEIVED A CERTAIN
WAY IN THE BEDROOM BECAUSE OF SOCIETAL PRESSURES TO BE A
GOOD GIRL AND THIS AND THAT.
ALL THAT RELATES TO YOUR OVERALL POINT ABOUT HOW IT NEEDS TO BE
IN THE HEADSPACE, BUT THAT IS TRUE FOR MEN TOO.
NO.
I WAS GOING TO SAY.
THERE ARE A LOT OF MEN WHO ARE LIKE, I'M ABOUT TO ORGASM, ON
THE OTHER HAND I'M NOT ATTRACTIVE.
IF I'M ABOUT TO ORGASM, NOT THE ONLY THING ON MY MIND, AND IF
I'M UNATTRACTIVE AND I DID IT ANYWAY, SCORE.
IF MEN ARE FRUSTRATED THAT THEIR MEN CAN'T ACHIEVE ORGASM, YOU
HAVE GOT TO TRY DIFFERENT MODES OF STIMULATION.
I THINK
THERE'S TWO SUPER INTERESTING THINGS WE
HAVEN'T EVEN DISCUSSED HERE YET.
TO AMBER'S POINT, HERE'S WHAT ONE OF THE RESEARCHERS SAID: "WE
FOUND THAT THE DISTANCE BETWEEN THE S AND THE URINARY OPENING,
WHICH IS CALLED CUMD - " I'M NOT KIDDING,
" INDICATES WHETHER OR NOT A WOMAN IS INCLINED TO HAVE
AN ORGASM WITH INTERCOURSE OR NOT.
IF IT'S BELOW 2
CM, THEN SHE LIKELY IS GOING TO HAVE AN ORGASM WITH INTERCOURSE.
SO, OKAY, I DON'T KNOW WHAT HAPPENED BUT THERE IS A FUNNY
FEMALE MOMENT GOING ON OVER THERE.
2 CM, KNOW WHAT I'M SAYING?
ANYWAY, SOMETHING AS OBSCURE, AND YOU PROBABLY NEVER EVEN
THOUGHT OF, NOT LIKELY, OF COURSE YOU NEVER THOUGHT OF IT!
THE RELATIONSHIP OF YOUR INTEREST TO YOUR URINARY
OPENING, THAT APPARENTLY MAKES ALL THE DIFFERENCE IN THE WORLD.
AND I REMEMBER A WHILE AGO YOU AND I ACTUALLY TALKED ABOUT A
STUDY THAT TALKED ABOUT THE SIZE OF A WOMAN'S RISK, AND SO THE
STUDY FOUND THAT THERE IS ñ A WOMAN'S CLITTORIS,
AND VERY FOUND A CORRELATION BETWEEN THE SIZE AND ABILITY TO
ORGASM, BUT THEY COULD NOT FIGURE OUT IF IT WAS A
CAUSE OR EFFECT.
IF YOU HAVE A LARGE ONE BECAUSE YOU ORGASM SO MUCH, OR IF
YOU ORGASM SO MUCH BECAUSE IT IS LARGE.
IT IS INTERESTING.
ñ NO MATTER WHAT, IT DEBUNKS THIS IDEA THAT MEN COME TO YOU
ABOUT THE SIZE OF THEIRS, WHEN IT'S ACTUALLY THE SIZE OF MINE.
LITERALLY.
AND BY THE WAY, IF IT'S NOT WITHIN 2 INCHES, THEN THEY SAY,
YOU MIGHT HAVE TO MANUALLY STIMULATE DURING SEX.
SO TRY A LITTLE HARDER, IS THE BOTTOM LINE TO THAT.
BY THE WAY, SOME WOMEN DON'T ñ
SOME WOMEN STILL DON'T ORGASM, AND YOU GOT A WHOLE RANGE.
AT THE END OF THE DAY, IF THAT IS YOUR SITUATION, DON'T BEAT
YOURSELF UP OVER IT, IT MIGHT BE A MATTER OF ANATOMY, BUT
GIVE IT A COLLEGE TRY 1ST.
AND THEN FINALLY, I FOUND THIS SUPER INTERESTING BECAUSE
IT HAS SOMETHING TO DO WITH EVOLUTION.
SO APPARENTLY, OUR ANCESTORS, ORGASM USED TO MORE EASILY CAUSE
OVULATION, OR USED TO CAUSE OVULATION.
NOT HOMO SAPIENS, BUT OUR ANCESTORS OF HUMANS OVERALL.
SO THERE WAS A POINT TO THE FEMALE ORGASM, A
BIOLOGICAL, EVOLUTIONARY POINT TO IT.
NOW IT IS ON A MENSTRUAL CYCLE, OBVIOUSLY.
SO IT MIGHT BE THAT WE ARE IN MID EVOLUTION, AND SINCE WE
ARE HUMANS WE GOT STUCK HERE.
LIKE, THERE IS NO MORE EVOLUTION GOING ON BECAUSE WE HAVE
MITIGATED OUR ENVIRONMENT, UNTIL OUR ENVIRONMENT FIGHTS BACK WITH
THE OZONE LAYER BEING DEPLETED.
BUT I'LL SAVE THAT FOR ANOTHER DAY.
MAYBE THAT'S A GOOD THING, BECAUSE IF YOU ARE NOT GOING TO
BE ABLE TO ORGASM AT ALL IN THE FUTURE, LIKE AS A RACE, OR
FEMALES, WHAT'S THE POINT OF
LIVING?
THAT'S NOT FAIR.
AND I'M POSITIVE THAT I'M OVERSIMPLIFYING, ALL OF THE
SCIENTISTS OUT THERE WILL YELL YOU ñ WILL YELL AT ME.
BUT BOTTOM LINE, IT MIGHT BE THAT SOME WOMEN OUT THERE ARE
MORE LIKELY TO ORGASM BECAUSE OF THE WAY HUMANS HAVE EVOLVED, AND
SOME ARE NOT.
SO, AGAIN, IT STILL LEADS TO THE SAME CONCLUSION, WHICH IS GIVE
IT YOUR BEST SHOT, BUT DON'T BEAT YOURSELF UP TOO MUCH IF YOU
ARE A WOMAN OR A MAN IF THERE IS JUST SOME ANATOMICAL THINGS
THAT YOU CANNOT GET PAST.