Hey,
Kris Krohn here with Limitless TV.
Today we're talking about how you deal
with negative people in your life.
I just encountered one and they sucked all the
life out of me and I've lost all control, I stepped into victimhood and I don't
know how to be happy anymore.
So today
I hope you can learn meaningful things on
how to deal with negative people.
Before I share the ultimate secret on how to deal with negative people I just
want to start by asking how you feel about negative people?
Because guess what
We're here on planet earth engaging in Earth School and we're going to meet
negative people.
Negative people are going to come in and out of your life.
Negative people may show up in the form of a family member that you feel
obligated to spend time with. Negative people could mean a child that is
skeptical and pessimistic or kind of on the outs with mom and dad right now.
Negative people sometimes show up as loved ones and sometimes as strangers
and you know what?
It can be easy to evict to the strangers.
It can be easy to
evict the neighbors. But what do you do when the negative people around you are
people you care about?And people that you love? So I want to start with this first
elemental idea before I share this big key for your key that will make all the
difference in the world.
Do negative people need to bring you down?
See my
friend here?
He's Henry.
Henry's my friend.
And
Henry, he intimidates a lot of people.
So when people come to my personal house and they sit in the office you know the
guys typically, the warrior men, tend to think that Henry's really cool and some
of the ladies are actually kind of frightened. I once had a friend come in
and and she came in before the meeting before I had gotten home and she dressed
him up as a princess. She put a princess hat on him and she put a little cloak on
him and put some frillies and basically she was trying to adjust Henry's energy
because he was giving off, not maybe, not a negative energy but maybe a brooding
warrior energy.
Well guess what?
Everyone around us is giving off energy. And just
because they give off energy does it need to impact you?
Think about it. How do
you feel when you're around positive people?
You probably feel more positive.
Are they acting upon you or are you acting upon yourself?
Because I'll tell
you what, that in my world when negative people come into my world now when
positive people come in my world it's not an invitation to feel negative or
positive. I'm actually a choice with how I choose to feel and even if they bring
a foreboding energy into my airspace, it doesn't mean that I need to feel
negativity or feel my own energy drop.
And so there's a skill that just starts
with conscious choice. And the conscious choice that serves me,
in fact if I were to give you a visual it's almost like I'm in every dad's it
myself up in a bubble which has this two-way shielding energy.
I can take
everything good and let it in but everything negative just bounces off me
and it's nothing more than a choice. it's actually not a bubble it's not an
energetic thingy. I'm not moving my hands around in wah-wah fashion guru fashion.
All I'm really doing is making a choice. And the choice is
that if I'm happy it's
because I've chose it too.
Yay from me that I'm around happy people. If I choose,
if I'm around negative people and I feel negative, know this, in that moment you are
allowing yourself to feel negative.
So before I teach you this number one thing
just remember that whoever you meet and whoever comes into your airspace it
doesn't mean that it needs to build you up or tear you down only you have the
ability to do that and you can develop a mastery with conscious choice to easily
and effortlessly stand in the present, that in the presence of negative people
and still feel positive.
Because you control your emotional environment.
You control your energetic area.
No one else can do that for you.
So what really is the secret to dealing with negative people?
Whether you love
them or whether they'res stranger to you, it's unconditional love.
Unconditional
love means three very specific things to me.
Number one,
it means that I don't desire to change them.
Because if you're dealing
with a negative person wishing and hoping they were positive and wanting to
enforce that or you've got an agenda for them to change, all you're going to do is
create rub because the desire to control and change people is also a version of
negativity. Now you're fighting negative fire with negative fire. So instead, it's
releasing and relinquish that desire for people to change.
Number two,
don't buy
their story.
Negative people are constantly selling crap.
They want to
sell you on why it's the worst day of their life, they want to sell you on why their
neighbor wronged them, they want to sell you on why their childhood scarred them.
They're always selling the bad stuff that's happening so just don't buy it.
That means that you don't have to sit there and feed into the story
and start sympathizing
Oh I'm so sorry
that's happened to you. How could your neighbor have done that?
Instead I
listened and there's no trade.
Most importantly though
unconditional love is loving them where they're at.
And that means that instead
of an agenda to change them,
I detach from that and there's simply an
intention to love them.
And it's amazing how you can show up with unconditional
love for negative people. Where their negative energy doesn't influence you
like we've talked about, you've created a powerful enough energetic emotional
space that you create the environment you own. You live by example and you just
love them wherever they're at.
This is something
you can practice doing. Simply not wanting anything for them. And I remember
this sure it's really powerful for me and a family member, there's a person
that had been in my family for a few years married in and we didn't have a
great relationship. Not even a real one.
And I asked to sit down with them one
day in my office and I just sat and listened to them and then I just decided
to share a desire for me that said, I'd like to get to know you better and I'm
sorry that I haven't really had that desire up into this time but we're going
to be in this family together and I want you to know that I care about you and
I'm choosing to do something about it.
And that day our relationship shifted it
changed and up until that point I had allowed this person to irritate me, get
under my skin, bother me, and I decided to let go of all of that just say, I love
for you where you're at. There's no need for judgment because where you're at
that's you're choosing to be and that's okay.
So friends, you got negative people
in your air space love them without condition.
And that's how you deal with
negative people! You don't let them control your air space! you don't let
them come in! You shield yourself from those people and guess wha?t you remember
who's in charge of your life, who's in charge of your emotional state, who's in
charge of the energy, you are! That's right you point at yourself say, I'm in charge, I'm in
charge!
Woooo!
Yeah like for real, don't let negative people have an impact
on you and seriously if you want to step into some greater mastery and have a lot
of fun doing that, I'm going to invite you to come to our three day limitless event.
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when you're, surrounded with negative people guess what? it does not have to
mess with your personal ozone layer we're going to teach you how to show up
in such a way an exemplary way, that they cannot help but watch their own
negativity dissipate from your life. Step into a more positivity from your example
and you're going to start learning how to surround yourself with some amazing
people. Let that come to the three day even then you're going to walk away
with like fifty new amazing rock star friends that are all going to have a
great commitment to positivity just like you.