This is my introduction to the book that I wrote called:
"The Completion Process"
I need you to bear with me,
because trying to summarize something I feel this passionate about
is gonna be quite the challenge for me.
So, stick with me if you can.
This is much more than just a book,
it's in fact a book that introduces a technique.
A technique, that I've decided to name
"The Completion Process",
because that's essentially what it does.
When we experience trauma,
we become FRACTURED.
But I want you to understand
that trauma is more than just some horrific event you go through
- like a car crash or war.
Trauma is anything,
that you cannot find resolution with.
When you can't find resolution with something,
you can't move through it
and make it a part of who you are about to become.
So instead, one aspect of you stays frozen in time
and another aspect of you
continues forward into your adult life.
It has the capacity
to help you get to the place you wanted to get to in your life
regardless of whether what you have suffered from
is seriously complex trauma
that you see at the hands of rape or war or incest,
or trauma, that we all go through;
The trauma of birth, the trauma of being weaned,
the trauma of losing a loved one...
Any kind of trauma you can experience
will find resolution through this process.
The first part of this book
will set you up to completely understand the process,
why we do it in the way we do it,
how trauma works,
why you can't get over the things you can't get over,
why your current life seems to be not working for you so well,
even though you can't put your finger on exactly what it is
that's making it not work.
You're going to fully understand
exactly what is happening to your life.
The second part of this book,
it introduces the actual process,
so you can use it and apply it to yourself.
And you can start using this
as a tool in your life on a daily basis.
Whenever we become fractured due to trauma,
we become reactive.
In the world of healing we call this a "trigger".
It means, that you could pass a scent
and because that scent triggers a memory
of something you experienced before
which you have negative associations with,
it causes you to react out of fight-or-flight mode.
That reactivity
is what is giving rise to the wars you see today,
the relationship problems...
Healing, or shall we say, integrating this trauma
allows us to no longer be in that reactive state.
It allows us to stop hurting other people.
It makes us go from a person who is fractured and fragmented,
to a person who is experiencing ourselves as whole.
And you can only imagine
what the world would look like
if we all took that responsibility in our own lives.
I designed and used this process on myself
to heal from 13 years of acute ritual trauma.
When I got away from my childhood situation,
I was literally a shell of a human being.
I was suffering from dissociative seizures,
from multiple personalities.
I had the full range of post-traumatic stress disorder,
and it was complex PTSD,
which involves developmental trauma.
It used to be that people who had complex post-traumatic stress disorder
were just gonna live lives that were "just so good".
The attitude was like:
"Okay, because there's actual damage
that's been done to the development of this person,
there's only so much we can do with that.
And that never worked for me.
I have managed to accomplish
a kind of recovery which you don't see.
People like me are so rare,
walking the planet after going through that kind of damage,
in a space of integration.
And the reason I am in the space,
is because of this process.
I want to personally thank you
for taking your own healing into your hands
by trying out this process.
I want to thank you for taking responsibility
for the way that you are fractured,
and for putting yourself back together again
so that we can experience the reflection of that,
which is a world that is in a state of wholeness.
Thank you.