Have you ever been rejected?
Yeah, you have.
Everyone has.
Don't be that one guy who's like "naww bro, I'm so alpha, I've literally never been rejected!"
It's happened to everyone, it's even happened to me - wait ... has it?
hmmm ... uh ... ye- wait ... ummmm ... yeah!
it has.
So don't sweat it.
It's happened to all of us, and today I'm gonna teach you how to not let rejection bother
you EVER again.
Step 1: Whether you have a girlfriend or not, whether you're talking to girls or not, you
always want to have other shit going on in your life.
Hobbies, goals, friends, stuff you like doing.
Like I said in one of my other videos, "a girl is like a protein shake."
That means, a girl is like a SUPPLEMENT to a good life.
She shouldn't be the ONLY thing in your life that you care about.
If you're a cool guy and you get girls, you're gonna be happy because you're a cool guy who
gets girls.
If you're a loser, and you get a girl, well, you're still a loser, you're just a loser
who happened to get a girl.
If you don't have a hobby, get one.
If you don't have a goal, get one.
Getting girls is important, but it's not the ONLY important thing in your life.
If you have other shit going on in your life, you aren't gonna be completely crushed if
you get rejected.
On top of that, you'll be more attractive anyway, because you won't give off a vibe
that you only care about one thing in the world ... and it's them.
Step 2: If you do get rejected, the first thing I like to do, is try to figure out if
I did something wrong.
Were you a little too needy?
Did you say something awkward?
Did you text her just 1 too many times?
Use it as a learning experience so you don't make the same mistake again.
If you're learning algebra and you get a problem wrong, you're not gonna be like "god fucking
dammit!
FUCK!" and get all depressed ....... no, you're just gonna figure out what you did wrong,
and learn from it.
Don't spend too much time on this step though.
Sometimes a girl just isn't gonna like you.
Maybe she already likes another guy, or she has one of those on-again-off-again boyfriends,
or she's just in a bad mood, or she's racist, or whatever.
Don't let it destroy your confidence because it's not that big a deal.
Using the algebra example again, if you get a problem wrong, are you gonna start breaking
your pencils and ripping pages out of your notebook like "fuuuck I'm so dumb, I suck
so much at math, I'm never gonna get good at this ..." no way!
You're just gonna keep learning new stuff, and keep trying until you get it.
Step 3: NEVER sit around feeling sorry for yourself.
If you got rejected, no big deal, if you find yourself sitting around beating yourself up
about it, again, just pause, take a step back, and realize that beating yourself up doesn't
actually DO anything or HELP you in any way.
Just get back out there and keep trying.
Watch some EPIC BASED ZEUS VIDEOS if you need motivation.
Just don't let yourself get into one of those negative spirals because they don't help anyone,
plus they make you even LESS attractive to other girls because it's like they can sense
your negativity, they see it in your body language, your facial expression, and your
overall attitude.
I actually have one friend who, every time we go out, talks to a BUNCH of girls, and
ALWAYS gets shot down by the first couple girls he talks to while he's still getting
into it.
But you know what his secret is?
The SECOND he gets rejected, he walks away, UNPHASED, and just moves on to the next girl
without even thinking twice, because he's so confident in himself that he doesn't let
rejection bring him down or affect his self-worth.
Step 4: If you were in a long-term relationship and you got dumped, delete the girl's number,
delete her from social media, and be done with her.
Don't do the thing where you constantly check her Facebook to see what she's doing, it's
creepy, and it doesn't help you get over her.
Just cut contact with her and be done with it so you can start moving on.
Work on yourself.
Improve yourself, start eating healthy, exercising, building your relationships with family and
friends, taking classes, learning stuff you're interested in, pursuing your hobbies.
You'll get to a point where you're happy whether you're single or in a relationship, and at
that point, you become MUCH more attractive.
Like I said, a girlfriend isn't the entire workout, she's just the supplement you take
after you already got in a good workout.
Even though this is a dating advice channel I'm still not gonna bullshit you because you
guys know I'm not about that: girls aren't the most important thing in the world, and
once you realize this, going after them because less of a desperate need and more of a fun
hobby, and you'll enjoy it A LOT more.
In summary: - Have other shit going on in your life.
- If you get rejected, figure out if you did anything wrong, and learn from it.
- Understand that sometimes girls just aren't interested.
Even Ryan Reynolds probably gets rejected OCCASIONALLY.
- Don't feel sorry for yourself.
- If you got dumped, cut contact with the girl and start moving on already.
Getting rejected is like losing a game of air hockey to one of your friends.
You're a little disappointed, but ultimately it doesn't really bother you THAT MUCH, and
you immediately move on and forget about it.
Fuck, I'm literally the Analogy God right now.
OUTRO: If you're trying to get over a rejection or a breakup, I also recommend watching my
video "30 Tips to Instantly Be More Confident" because it'll help boost your self esteem
so you aren't as broken up about it.
Click the link on the screen to check it out now.