- If you could go back to the first time we met,
what advice would you give yourself
regarding our relationship?
- I mean, we were young, so like,
I was actually thinking about this earlier.
Like, I don't even think I ever thought,
like, am I ready to be in a relationship?
We just- - It's a big one, too.
- We just went in it like.
Have you ever thought about that
or no? - Hell yeah.
We just kinda started going
and everything. - Didn't even think about it.
- Everything that comes along with it came along with it.
- And we had to like grow separately,
without each other knowing sometimes.
- Yeah, but I think that's important, though.
Honestly, even if you're in a unit,
a unit isn't gonna work if two people aren't,
I don't, not content in themselves,
but like, if they're not okay with themselves.
- Yeah, definitely.
- But as they were happening, it was definitely hard.
- Yeah, so I think I would say that like,
"Girl, you're young, you know,"
and when we're younger,
we just kind of accept a lot of things for what they are
and just kind of move, you know, without thinking.
- I think young people accept
and romanticize a lot of things about relationships.
- No, definitely, I would say that too,
like it's not just flowers all the time.
It's crying, it's, you know, being upset and mad
and getting over it, making it through stuff.
- Right.
- Yeah.
When do you think I need you the most
and why do you think that is?
- When something's going on.
- Yeah.
- Just so, it's not that I think you need me,
but I know it would be nice
to have something else to focus on,
you know, some other energy,
as opposed to certain things completely compounding at once.
Maybe I could, you know, take some of that away.
- Sing the jingle.
- Sing a jingle.
- Scream.
- Yell. (yells)
- Definitely took my mind off some things.
- Oh, I think that's it, though.
Whenever you need to like be elsewhere in a moment.
- Yeah.
- I think that's it.
It's my turn.
- Yes.
- When have you seen me the most vulnerable
and what have you learned from it?
- Sorry.
- Hm?
- I said, "Sorry."
I was getting emotional.
Give me a second.
- What happened?
What happened?
- Nothing, I just don't like thinking about it,
but it was that night when you were just feeling really bad.
- Oh, okay.
- Yeah.
(Maggie laughs)
I ain't crying.
- It's okay.
- I don't know.
You just like, think you're a bad person sometimes
and you're not.
What was the question?
And that night I just seen, like, I don't know.
I don't know.
It was just very vulnerable and like,
you know what I'm talking about, right?
- Yeah.
- I just never seen you, like, get that in it
and just to know that
that whole time you were like very vulnerable
and like kind of alone
and you already know how I feel about like being alone
with your thoughts and like not sharing them.
I don't know, and I learned from that night
that I don't know, just to always check up,
even if you feel like you're like, doing fine.
- I'm good, I'm good.
- You always say that, though.
- I am. - That's why I'm saying
like, you know.
- Even though that happened, though,
I learned a lot from it.
- I know.
- I learned a lot from that.
I know I'm not a bad person, but you know,
as humans, we carry that.
We carry the flip side.
So I guess that was my hardest thing to deal with,
like wanting to be this version of myself that I wanna be,
but then seeing all the effects
of the other side of myself, you know?
But yeah, I'm good.
Come on, I'm good.
I'm good. - I know, okay.
What am I always carrying that I should let go of?
- Ooh. - Okay.
- Ooh, I think just the way
other people around you affect you.
I think you should not hang on to that.
- Just let it go.
If there's a better way to say that,
I think like, for lack of a better term,
what people think of you.
I feel like there's a better way to say that, though.
'Cause it's not necessarily what they think,
but like the way other people's energy affects you.
Yeah.
- Yeah.
- It can linger, you know?
- Definitely.
- That's the main thing, though.
Once you got that out the way, man, you're a bird.
You can fly all the way up there and just fucking-
- And just go.
- Just go.
- Just let it go. - That's the
main thing, though.
- All right.
- I think so. - I definitely agree.
- Yeah? - Yeah, yeah.
- What do you admire most about me?
- I admire your confidence a lot and your drive.
Those two things, I think.
I think that's what like is most of your energy.
It's just like, let's just go do it.
Let's do it right now.
And just like, just your drive
and just your confidence in yourself
and like your thoughts and your morals
and your beliefs and just being like,
you're a nice example of energy that I admire.
- That was beautifully said, wow.
A nice example of energy.
You might have to write that down somewhere.
- I got it.
- Thank you.
My turn. - My turn.
- Damn, I keep jumping the gun.
- Why do you think we struggle with sharing our feelings?
- Okay, no, we're both very emotional people,
but I think if it's like, when it's within a relationship,
even though it shouldn't be hard because like, you know,
your partner's with you and you know they're good.
Myself, I don't want you to have any of my burdens.
I tell you that all the time.
- All the time.
- I don't want you to have my problems.
If it's my problem, it's my problem,
which I know is like the stupidest thing to say.
But like, I don't know, being the way I am,
or how I've been raised or what I've learned,
I can share, it's just a little different.
- Just a little bit at a time.
- It's a little different, you know what I'm saying?
- Yeah, I agree.
It just takes us a while to like get to the point
to actually talk about it,
which I don't think is a bad thing.
I feel like we both have to process things by ourselves
and get to a point where we're willing to talk about it
and like not be short ended
and like actually talk about the entire issue,
you know, and like get all our thoughts together
and not just speak off of anger,
like, sadness or whatever,
and like try to actually understand each other.
- That's why I try to avoid it sometimes.
- Yeah, I know, but sometimes we need it.
- Of course, gotta feel what you feel in the moment.
- Definitely, last-
- Last question.
How do you love me?
- How?
- How do you love me?
- Just taking everything that you are,
like the whole, like your whole identity,
and like everything that's affected you in your life
and just accepting it.
And if I don't understand,
like at least I listen, you know, or I try to understand,
or I'm there with you in that moment,
even if you don't need me to understand.
And just loving you as a whole
and accepting all your flaws and everything.
I don't know.
- As a human, I'm a bag of flaws.
- As a human accepting you as a human
and that you're not just your physical form
and you have many facets in your soul
that are deeply intertwined and exciting to find out.
(hands smack)
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