Heya playa, if you've already started a new school year chances are you've
seen your crush around and thought to yourself...
How do I start that conversation with her?
How do I get over my nervousness?
How do I make this year count?
Don't worry, I'm going to walk you through exactly what you need to do to get your
crush to start noticing you so that you can actually have those conversations,
you can actually ask them out, and you can potentially date them in the future.
Let me ask you something where do you currently stand with your crush?
Are you just a fly in the wall that she walks past every single day barely even noticing?
Are you guys somewhat friends,
maybe you talk here and there because you're in the same class together?
Or maybe you even have some mutual friends in common.
I'd say the biggest challenge people have when it comes to getting noticed by their crush
is that they hope that magically one day their question is just
gonna notice them out of the blue and realize yeah you're the person for me.
"There she is. Damn, she looks good. Alright,
now's my chance to just stand here and hope she comes and talks to me. No, there she goes.
Just walking away, barely even noticing me. All right, new game plan."
Tip number one is to walk, talk and act with a level of confidence in yourself
knowing that you bring something awesome to the table just by being yourself.
A lot of times people make the false assumption that they're gonna fail
even before they try and this affects your whole way of being.
You're probably gonna end up slumping your shoulders more, you're gonna not make eye
contact with people and you're not even gonna open your mouth to share what you have to say.
If you want your crush to notice you, you have to at least give yourself a fighting chance
and the best way to do that is to carry yourself in a way that is open to others.
That means keeping your back straight, standing up tall, making eye contact with people when you can.
Smiling if you have the opportunity to do that too.
Being friendly, open, and engaging is just the start though.
This is gonna help set the baseline for how you
choose to interact with not just your crush but with other people.
Remember, getting noticed is more than just your crush paying attention to you.
It's how other people observe you and how other people interact with you.
And that leads to tip number two which is to start conversations with your crush's friends.
There's nothing that's gonna help you get noticed more by your crush
than them observing you interacting with people that are close to their world.
If her friends start to like you, whoa, you are miles ahead of anyone else that likes your
crush and wants to get to know them because the friends hold the power of your crush's interest.
Think about it, your crush turns to her friends for advice, for care,
for comfort, and recommendations on who's worth getting to know.
"Hey who's the guy you were just talking over there? I think he's in our math class right?"
"Oh him? That's Sami Z, he's friends with my boyfriend Kevin O. I never really talked to
him but he's actually a really funny guy and pretty cool to chat with."
"Hmm really? He's actually kind of cute. I never really noticed him
before you mentioned him today though, would you mind introducing me to him?"
"Totally! You're just gonna love him. He's so funny. He's just, you gotta meet him."
Take full advantage of your crush's human curiosity here.
Look, people wanna know who other people know so be the person that
your crush's friends are talking about.
The one they're name-dropping in conversation, the one that they're
inviting to hang out with them so you can just get that much closer to your crush.
Now if you want to know how to start the conversations with those friends,
check out the video listed over here where I walk through that.
Tip number three is a super tip so you definitely want
to make sure you practice this every single day.
Check-in with people and have more conversations.
You might be thinking how does that get my crush to notice me?
Well, look at the bigger picture here.
The more you talk to people, the better of conversationalists you're going to be.
You're going to get better at telling stories, telling jokes, and being an active listener.
Not to mention the fact that you're going to learn a lot about tons of
different people so when you do talk to your crush you can name-drop them.
You can let your crush see that you have an active friend group, people that you interact
with on a daily basis and they're comfortable sharing deep personal stories with you.
And I don't mean going around gossiping about people but if you're the type of person people
love to check in with and get advice from your crush is going to take notice of that.
Your crush may even participate in that too and come to you for advice or just even to chat.
And by practicing talking about yourself with others
you're actually going to fine-tune your storytelling abilities.
Think about how a comedian works, right,
a comedian comes up with a joke and tests it out on a smaller audience.
They see how the audience responds, where they think the joke went on too long,
where they think the real hilarious point was and they improve on it.
They perfect that joke more and more until they're ready to bring
it in front of the biggest crowd that they know.
By talking and sharing things with your friends and then your crush's friends and
then eventually your crush, by the time you get up to that level you're going
to have already perfected the stories and things that you want to share with them.
So, you're not going to be going in totally frozen and nervous,
you're gonna actually have a game plan.
Ultimately these are the things that are within your control and getting your crush to notice you
so if you finish off the last school year pretty disappointed because you didn't take your chance
and ask out your crush, you didn't feel like you were in a place where you were ready to do it,
now that summer's done and you're back in school let your confidence be on display.
Show them that you have what it takes to be somebody great.
Put yourself out there and take a chance.
I'm curious though where do you currently stand with your crush?
Do they even know who you are?
Are you guys close friends and what are you doing to get closer to them?
Leave your comments down below and we'll talk about it.
Also what I want you to do is check out the videos over there on the side.
If you're remote learning right now and you're not in class, I got a video that's going to help
you out and if you're in class with your crush, that video is going to help you out as well.
Check them both out they're going to be super helpful and I'll catch you next time.
As always, love and peace.