- Heya playas.
When it comes to going to prom,
there's a few different scenarios that can play out
if you plan out what you're doing.
You can go with a date,
you can go with friends,
you can go with a date and friends,
or perhaps the scariest of them all,
you can go alone.
Is going to prom alone
as bad as you think it is?
Absolutely not.
And in this video
I'm gonna explain exactly
why you should go to prom
even if you have no one to go with.
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- Okay here is the deal,
there will be some of you
that won't go to prom.
Either you're just busy that day,
you can't afford it,
or you're just not interested.
And if that's so,
then this video is not exactly for you.
But if you're going to prom
or there's even a small inkling
of you wanting to go to prom,
then you should definitely listen up.
You may feel like the idea of going alone
makes you look like a loser,
like you're that awkward person
just lurking around watching everyone else.
But the flip side of it all
and what you're never told
is that going alone
gives you the ultimate freedom
to do whatever you want to do.
You can show up early or late,
you can leave whenever you want to,
but most importantly you can talk and mingle
with anyone that's there.
There's no time wasted
waiting for all your friends to get ready
or having to manage a date while you're there.
You can walk up to anyone that you want
and start a conversation.
Sometimes when you're with friends or a date,
you limit yourself and the people
that you're willing to talk to
because you don't really wanna go
outside your own bubble.
But that's the beauty of riding solo,
you can go dance with a group of classmates over here,
you can flirt and grind up on your crush over there,
you don't have anyone to answer to and no agenda to follow.
Prom is yours for the taking,
and I know that type of responsibility
can seem kind of intimidating,
but trust me,
once you get the ball rolling
and start talking to different people,
you'll open up and you'll love the experience of it all.
But let's be practical here.
As good as that sounds,
some of you guys aren't going to prom
because it just costs too much.
And I know what that's like.
I talked about it in my own prom experience
which you could check the card out on here.
Paying for my suit, prom itself, the limo,
the comedy club, and the hotel room
all cost a pretty penny,
and it's not money that came out of my pocket
because I didn't have it.
I didn't have a job back then
so my parents had to pay for everything,
and not everyone can just offload that on their parents,
but that's exactly why going to prom solo
is the least expensive thing to do.
The only things you really have to worry about paying for
is what you wear and the cost of being there.
No one's gonna care if you arrive in a limo, a party bus,
or if your parents insist to drop you off.
And to be honest,
you don't have to worry
about being all decked out.
Just go looking your best
the way that you see fit
because after a while
people are gonna stop caring
what everyone's wearing
because they're gonna be dancing
and interacting and just having fun.
And based on my own prom experience,
after a while people will be dying
to get out of their dresses
and their suits and their shoes
and to transform into something
that's way more comfortable.
So do your best to find out
what the bare minimum cost is
just to go to prom
and stick with that if you can.
What's so great about prom
is that it's your last big hurrah
to do something big, something drastic, something monumental
like walking up to every single one of your crushes
and asking them to dance.
I know for myself at my own prom,
I didn't have the courage to do something like that,
but then again I didn't have a channel like this
to help me through it.
This is one of your final moments to at least try.
I know in the past you probably told yourself
I'll wait til next time to talk to them,
or I'll find out if they like me first before I even engage,
but that's not gonna roll at prom.
The beauty of going alone to prom,
talking to a bunch of different people,
and even asking your crush to dance
rest on the idea that you don't have a safety net,
a date, or friends there to hold you up.
It's like how when the Vikings
would invade another land,
they would burn their ships
so they would just eliminate the idea of retreating.
Once they landed, they had to do what they had to do.
Now that's not to condone Viking violence
but by being there alone,
you won't hide away in the corner with your friends
or just sit in the table all night with your date
playing on your phone.
I made a video in the past about my own experience
going to places alone and talking to random strangers
which you could check the card out for.
But this is your chance to shine.
Your chance to walk up to your crush,
look them in the eyes and say,
hey, you wanna dance?
Another really cool thing about going to prom alone
is that you can end the night wherever you please.
Let's say you start talking
to a group of people that you somewhat know
and you guys really click that night,
but you find out that they're going
to do karaoke afterwards,
what's to stop you from asking them
if you can just tag along?
You don't have to worry about
asking your date if they wanna go
or making sure there's room
for all of your friends,
the choice literally starts and ends with you.
In my case some of the people that I knew
that went on their own or with other groups
ended up coming with us in our limo
to go do karaoke that night.
So anything is possible.
All you have to do is ask people
and take the opportunities that come your way
so you can see where the night can really take you.
What do you think though?
Are you going to prom?
If so, what are you most looking forward to?
Leave your comments below and we'll talk about it.
Prom can honestly be as fun as you want it to be,
even if you're going alone.
Going alone doesn't mean it has to suck.
If you walk in with a positive attitude,
hopeful outlook and carefree mindset,
you're gonna have a good time.
Now I know you still might have
some prom questions,
but don't worry,
I'm gonna do another YouTube Live Hangout next week
dedicated to prom so stay tuned for those details.
For now definitely check out the video over on the side
of my own prom experience.
You guys can learn about why I went to do proms
and what it was like for me.
As always, love and peace.