so it was written by a former sex worker her danish arlen changes retired now
out talks about what prostitution toder about men and the difference issue learned between
doing online sex work i do you like you know cameras staff that get manoff
uh... verses actual in person prosecution and it's interesting because most people would
think doing work online is safer and a lot better for you psychologically
but she says no she says that new with percent meeting with the person
and you know having sex in that way was a lot better for her psychologically and that's
because
don't but you know internet
gives people the option of anonymity anne when people remain anonymous their able to
be more abusive
here that's really interesting the first of all
alternet does about twenty stories on prostitution
there but the fact that
but they're fascinating their intellectual stories
the field who's going and why it set up
that's why when i get so much
uh... now on this issue
uh... i'm a little amazed by
that because
by getting rages on and so i did buy the anonymity and i'm sure guys who if you can see the pace
will say the most disgusting it and sheridan hideous things i've ever heard their doubts
by right route
but at the same time all you're doing is hearing it
it you can't reach out and touch you
that can't be worse on the main side that late
you know are looking for somebody to be a sex worker you know i think
in our at respect that choice i'll put it that way but i certainly wouldn't want anyone
i know to do it and just keepin it real
another have somebody told me all you have been this thing out line where i call the
guy yeah yeah yeah batboy you're really bad but go ahead and show me where you can do
yahoo cares i may have added on spelling and waiting as much what's really interesting
about her account and she
explains that you know not everyone who goes into sex work at the same experiences that
she doesn't she clarifies that okay
but when she talks about the specific things that she went through it's really interesting
because
look when you're online people don't say abusive things like you know i want you to do this
in that to yourself and i want you to be super dirty
there's some really terrible things like here she gave a couple examples
yeah people tell her alike that your family is so disappointed in you
and that your disease the facts
org things like that things that are superb usa than after awhile he even if you ignore
them ignore them ignore them they start to really kick in and they start to give you
a shit
so that type of abuse really got to her however when she started going out and doing uh...
you know in-person prostitution which is which she refers to it
uh... she actually met a lot of guys who didn't necessarily want to meet up with her purse
tax which i find fascinating
she said that
many of her customers
wanted to meet up just for affection
for conversation you know to get there he goes stroked a little bit among other things
dot
now that in the prostitution parker
that a lot of men up there and not just looking for sex
they're looking for more than not they're looking for some sort of connection
because maybe they're in a marriage where they're not getting back connection you know
where they can have those conversations she sent a lot of the men that she was with when
even show pictures of their families
okay and talk about their families
i know that a lot of stories with that's the case then
you know i a seymour judgmental about this but i never understood outside while you wanna
like coddled work through the process you with though is an all-points x by but you
know
now i realize the most obvious thing in the world is that a lot of as a really lonely
yeah
uh... and that's why they're doing this or archives they might be a set of marriage of
really lonely now that might be the wrong thing you might be there fault you know i
uh... ametro judge on that
understand that uh... they're really looking for companionship in a lot of cases recommended
even know what this g have view was that done that
so that's a quote for girlfriend experience
and travel a lot of guys look for that they wanted to be like it's going for him because
they don't have that
now you're absolutely right in fact a lot of these men actually wouldn't have sex with
her at all but they would dedicate
their time spent with her to making her happy for instance she says that a lot of the men
not only did they want the conversations in the girlfriend experience they want to give
her lavish gifts just because it made her happy
you know what day like the idea that they had a woman
that they can be vulnerable with without being judged without having their masculinity judge
and not just to be clear and this is and you know the experiences of one former sex worker
i'm not saying that this is a phenomenon that's happening with all men decisions which she
experience and i found it fascinating