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Your wife or girlfriend may be watching porn literally right now while you're watching me in this cute little fuzzy one day or maybe it's the
next time that you're playing video games you're at the gym,
she is
pulling out her laptop
popping into her favorite porn site and sinking into a wild
or erotic self pleasure
session. Rebecca you know I have Botox I can't move my eyebrows.
According to recent studies. Listen to this one in three
visitors to porn sites are female one in
three.
That is nearly 13 million American women who are looking
at porn at least once a month at least once a month. That's a lot
of porn. Okay, let that sink in. And after watching this video,
you will know exactly how porn changes a woman's sex life how
porn changes what women expect of men, insects and why women
watch porn to begin with the answer to that will shock you I
promise you Hi, I'm Caitlin V a full time fuzzy human being
person who looks great and ears sex coach Person of the internet
and person who exists on Instagram at Caitlyn Victoria's
x. And I am a sex and relationship coach with a
mission and that is to make your sex life spicy and pleasurable
and successful and the best it can possibly be. And today I am
talking about women watching porn because you know what, this
is actually one of the most important emerging trends that's
going to affect your sex life, my sex life and everywhere and
everyone who is having sex over the next foreseeable future
research is telling us that when women watch porn, their sex life
changes. Porn affects women's arousal it affects women's
behavior even affects how often we orgasm. Porn affects what
women expect out of men in the bedroom. So dudes watching this,
you will definitely want to hear this. In fact, you want to just
go ahead and subscribe right now, so that you can continue to
get weekly revelations about women in the bedroom, and step
by step guide on how to be the best, most confident, sexy, most
powerful lover, here's optional. So I'm excited to share this
video with you today. Because women are not usually the focus
of porn research, like traditionally, it was assumed
that men watch porn and women are important. In fact, it was
kind of assumed that women found porn to be reprehensible and
disgusting and they would never watch it. That's how most of us
have been raised. I mean, that's certainly what I expected. And
when I then would watch porn myself would tell myself that I
was wrong, dirty and bad, because it's something that
women don't do. But you know what? Women are not just porn
stars, and we are not just people who are hiding in our
bathrooms watching porn thinking that there's something wrong
with us. We are increasingly a market and we are consumers of
porn. And so it is time to put all of that guilt and that shame
to rest because those outdated standards that say it's okay for
men to watch porn, but if women do we're perverts that's got to
go either that or we can just reclaim the word pervert I'm
also here for that total pervert. That also seems cool.
actually want to be in the disco. Okay, this is I'm going
to take this this is getting warm in here.
Oh, all right.
Let's discuss why women watch porn. Also, you are going to
want to watch all the way to the very end because you do want to
understand and be completely cognizant of the way that porn
is changing your sex life so that you can be in the driver's
seat of that and not just lost in the fantasy of wide isn't it
that I have a sexy cabana boy coming to attend to me. And it's
not just because I don't have a pool. Okay, cabanas don't
require pools taking cabana boy applications. I'm not even
playing you can email me I would love a cabana boy. All right. Do
women watch porn for the same reason as men? Let's just start
there. Well, okay, the answer is yes. And also now, you
know, we can't really
say that like all women watch porn for the same reason two
different women are going to have two different motivations
for watching the same porn. You know, different women like
different types of porn. Different women watch porn for
different reasons. So let's talk about the top four reasons that
women watch porn the four most common reasons. Number one, it
makes it easier for us to masturbate. Women love petting
the cat just as much as men. And according to a study published
in 2020, when women watch porn, they have an easier time getting
aroused, and it's easier for them to reach orgasm, and not
for nothing porn makes masturbation pleasurable for a
lot of us It helps us to experience our fantasies in
living color, instead of just in our imaginations or in one of
those cracks. vampire romance novels.
No offense.
Reason number two for women watch porn. We're curious.
watching people have sex is fascinating. And it's fun. And
it can be educational. And it's awesome to see what other people
are doing during sex and what different vaginas look like and
what vaginas look like during sex. For a lot of us, we've
never had the opportunity to learn that. And so porn gives us
the opportunity to see what people who have similar bodies
to us do with them behind closed doors. And of course, that is
one of the most enjoyable things about porn itself is that it
gives us spicy ideas, which is three out of four reason that
women watch porn. porn is like going to the art museum and
getting ideas for how you want to come home and paint. It is
the place that we learned for the first time about the suction
II dildo that you get to stick to the shower
door.
Or if you're like me, you learned that a vagina can hold
multiple pieces of fruit. That was what I learned when I
watched my first porn ever. Side note reminder, there are things
that you just cannot unsee. So do be careful when you are
browsing the internet. Or you will burn the image of a vagina
holding an apple into your 12 year old mind. And then you'll
be talking about it 20 years later. The point is that porn
can expose you to really great really fun ideas. It can also
let you know what you do not want to do. In fact, hold up. I
want you to go into the comments right now. And I want you to
write something that you saw important that you literally
just didn't even know existed until that very moment. It
doesn't have to be something that scarred you it can be
something that's fun and enjoyable. All right. Number
four reason that women watch porn is that it allows us to
live out the fantasies that we actually may not want to live
out in real life. Like a friend of mine told me that her
favorite kind of porn is group sex like she likes watching the
mmf multiple men, one woman, threesome and groups. She likes
to see a lady getting stuffed on all sides. But she was very
clear as we discuss this, that she never wants to do that she's
never had a threesome. She doesn't want to have multiple
clocks on her face. She's not interested in it. So many
people, she's introverted. She would not know what to do with
that many guys. She doesn't want to have that happen in real
life. But porn allows her to fantasize and to enjoy and to
get pleasure from that fantasy without actually having to have
multiple men enter the facilities. Who meant that as a
bedroom jokes, but it worked. Alright, those are the four main
reasons that women watch porn. But what happens when women
watch porn? Well, research tells us that there are five ways that
porn changes a woman's sex life. Number one of five women who
watch porn have an easier time getting aroused during partnered
sex. One more time for the people in the back. Women who
watch porn have an easier time getting aroused during partner
text. And let's be real women's arousal during partner sex is
probably the number one predictor of the quality of
partner and sex that is about to go down. So this is really
important that you listen to this one, if you've ever had a
hard time getting aroused with your partner, and then you know,
like you close your eyes and you think back to like that really
whoo gushy porn scene that you saw the other night and then
like, bam, you are there. Yeah, it's like that it helps women to
actually access their arousal, which makes them more likely to
have orgasms more likely to get wet, more likely to do all the
fun, kinky stuff that they really want to do, but they're
only opening to do when they're like super aroused. This is all
good things, folks. Number two of five ways that porn changes a
woman's sex life and this one I expect may be a surprise to you
because it definitely surprised me watching porn may make women
feel better about their bodies better not worse about their
bodies, right? Because usually common sense would say that we
look at porn we see these people with like their perfect fake
boobs and their tiny waists and their you know, altered vulva
that have been like clipped to be really small and just polite.
Actually, when women watch porn that includes normal like
average, like people who don't have perfect bodies when women
watch porn that has diversity, and shows different body types,
being engaged in sex, and different body types, being
desired and being it makes us feel unstoppable. Even if we're
unhappy with certain parts of our bodies. Even if we are not
sure that someone that looks like us is worthy of being
desired and pleasured in bed. When we see someone whose body
is like ours or isn't perfect or hasn't cellulite and stretch
marks or whatever. When we see that person being sexual, owning
their sexuality that makes us feel worthy. Here's the thing.
There is a lot of different kinds of porn out there. And a
lot of it doesn't include women who look a bit like Malibu
Barbie. And if we were watching that kind of porn women, if that
is the kind of porn that you are watching men, if that is the
kind of porn that your woman sees you watching, one can
assume that she might start to think that that's the kind of
person who you want to have sex with. And so the more diversity
that you can get into your porn, the more like literally physical
difference and physical diversity of the people who you
are watching in porn, the more confident that she is likely to
feel and the better her sexual experience will be.
Alternatively, if you only watch ridiculously good looking Malibu
Barbie porn, these people are like, perfect 10s and this guy's
got a huge long I mean, it's true for men too, if all you see
is guys that just like have chiseled abs and massive like
banging out runs all the way down to your knee Cox, you may
feel self conscious too. So consider watching porn, that
actually builds up your confidence and your self esteem
and doesn't tear you down and at least interject from time to
time. Some people who look less than perfect having sex trust
me, it is awesome. All right, this third way that watching
porn changes women sex life is that women who frequently
masturbate to porn express more frustration and distress when
they're not able to reach orgasm with a partner. So they become
more frustrated when they can't reach orgasm. And it's because
women who watch porn are used to seeing women in porn orgasm all
the time really loudly, very frequently with total
effortlessness and ease, right? Like,
we
watch porn because porn stars are performing. And they perform
orgasms on command quickly, easily with very little effort.
And with just with like straight, pounding from all
angles, and with a camera in their face, I understand that
this is a paid actor on a set, delivering a performance and
it's just a movie like have you ever met a pizza guy who just
upon eye contact made you start moaning and screaming and
peeling off your clothes. Not likely, nothing adds pizza guys,
it's just not the way that transaction is set up. This is
not realistic, and it can turn into a problem if women start
expecting that they should be able to have orgasms easily and
that those orgasms should be Earth quaking, squirting
screaming orgasms without ever giving their partner direction
more or less harder, softer, more foreplay, more clitoral
stimulation. It's just not realistic. It's hard for us to
expect to actually think that this is somewhat a good thing
though. Because if you expect to reach orgasm, every time you
have sex, and you're willing to put in the work to make sure
that you get there and your partner knows how to help you
get there, my desire. My number one goal is that we close the
orgasm gap. And women and men and non binary folks all have
orgasms all the time whenever they want them and in every
sexual encounter. Give this video a thumbs up if you are
with me and you are willing to take the clothes that were
orgasm gap pledge that I just came up with, you know you are
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she gets to link is in the description. Anyway, moral of
the story is keep in mind that not everything you see in porn
is real. Everything that I put in she comes to actually Israel.
Alright, time for some good news number four women who watch porn
do end up having more orgasms. Yes, you see, porn can be an
educational tool. Like I said before, being an advocate for
your own orgasms and being exposed to porn so you know a
bunch of different ways that you can have them is awesome. And
finally, number five, porn can make women more open minded
about their own sexuality. It might inspire you to try new
things. And this goes both ways more open minded women are more
likely to watch porn in the first place. But watching porn
also makes women more open minded about the possibilities
that are literally at their fingertips. Women might feel
less shameful about their own sexual experiences when they see
other women in porn, enjoying the same things it helps us to
know that we're Normal. Alright To recap, women watch porn for a
variety of reasons to live out fantasies to masturbate, to give
us new ideas. And just because it's fun to watch people have
sex. And women who watch porn have an easier time getting
aroused, have more frequent orgasms, and might even feel
better about their own bodies. But men beware because women who
watch porn are going to expect that you're able to make her
come. And if you are not sure how to bring her to orgasm every
single time, please check out my online course she comes to I
will teach you exactly how to do it. So if you haven't already,
go into the comments and write any other reasons you think it
is that women watch porn, and if you are a woman watching this
video, write in the comments what you have learned from porn
or why you watch it. Help us to understand how porn helps you.
Thank you so much for tuning in. I will see you here next week.
I'm Caitlin V.