How to know if a man is not worth your while. I wanted to film a quick and really important
video today to talk about this concept of men who are not worth your while,
when you deserve better.
These guys will waste your time and bring down your self esteem in the process.
Now, the reason I'm really passionate about this is I have a beautiful friend who
has recently encountered one. This friend is a genuine catch, and this is coming from
a guy who knows a catch when he sees it. I'm telling you, this friend is an absolute catch
of a woman. She's balanced, she's intelligent, she's absolutely beautiful. She's got her
life together. She has a great job, she's fit, she has it all going for her. Now, she's
had her share of struggles as well, and they say strong people, you know, show me a
strong person, and I'll show you someone who has had struggles, major struggles
in the past, and my friend certainly has.
She's dated a huge share of narcissists, and she's had some really bad
and toxic relationships, and that's how I now know she's so intelligent
and such a catch because she's been through that.
So she changed her patterns recently. She started dating different men. She started
changing her type. She started taking longer to bond, and it showed to be a
really effective strategy for her. Turns out not her type was just right, or
so she thought. She met a brand new man who waited a long time.
This is a woman who usually gets way too into the chemistry really quick.
She waited. These guys were seeing each other for a couple of months,
in fact, before they slept together and then they finally did quite a number of
times on the same nights that clearly sex was all right, and as soon as my
friend slept with this guy, he pulled away. He started acting weirdly.
He started being very distant with texts. He even started not inviting her around,
and just being weird and distant. Now, she did, I was very proud of her,
she did exactly what I would've said to do, which is call him on it.
She said, "Dude, you're being weird. What's going on?"
She didn't get much of a response and then finally he said,
"I've packed your stuff. It's on the front lawn."
Now, this might sound brutal, and I can certainly understand how you'd feel very
hurt in this situation, but you know what? My friend had built herself up, and she
knew something that I need you to know. She knew that this had nothing to do with
her. She called the guy again as in call him on acting weird. She went around to
his house and said, "This is just strange, like what's going on with you?"
And he literally gave her the words that very few women get in this situation.
He said, "Honestly, there is nothing wrong with you.
You're f*cking fantastic. And I don't know why I'm doing this."
Never a truer words spoken. My friend was sad, but in her high value self,
she accepted it, and she walked away with her stuff in her head held high because
she knew what I'm about to share with you. She knew that there are men that when
they get close to you, they realize simply don't have it together as you do.
They are not worth your while. In this very rare incident, she had a guy who
was honest enough to admit it. Did it mean he did anything about it?
No, but at least she got her answers. The point of this video is this.
There are men out there absolutely who will pull away after sex, before
sex, at, during sex, at random times, you won't be able to pick it or predict it.
But the reason they do it is this. They realize deep down, they are not
worth you. So the point is, do not take this personally. I'm actually incredibly
proud of my friend because the previous her, even a few years ago would have
taken this so personally would have thought it was all about her,
and she had the foresight to say, "This, this right here is a him problem.
If he's going to act strange after sex, cool. I will find someone who's worth
my while," and she's now gone and done that. She's seeing an amazing
guy who is investing in her and is open to bonding. And again, it's not
what she previously thought was her type of guy.
So remember, there are men out there who are not worth your while, and
that's why they pull away. Often if you aim low, you shoot yourself in the foot,
and that's exactly why my friend had to start aiming higher, and now, she's
meeting men who are worth her match. Don't fool yourself into thinking
it's always about you. This has been Mark from Make Him Yours.
Make sure you pick people who are worth your while, and download the
guide to the 10 Male Dating Personalities That Lead to Heartbreak.
These are the male dating personalities, just like this guy who are not good for
you and who you need to know the signs of so that when they pull away or do
something weird, you know it's not about you. So I'd love to hear your thoughts on
this video. Leave it all in the comments section below. Let me know your
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who are worth your while and empower yourself through growth, self-esteem,
and authenticity. I'll see you in the next video real soon.
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