don't tell her exactly what the date is
instead text her something like
i have a fun idea keep friday night open
and if she asks you what is it you could
say
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look man nowadays if you want to go on a
date with a girl you're pretty much
always going to have to text her first
unless of course you've taken one of our
boot camps and you know how to easily
get
instant dates hint hint and
realistically man you should have a 70
or higher closing rate which means if
you got 10 girls numbers you should go
on dates with at least
seven of them so if your stats are lower
than that then
keep watching and if your stats are
higher than that then you're the man
and leave a comment down below let us
know what's working for you because in
this video i'm going to show you how to
be a texting ninja and i'll break down
the common mistakes
that most guys make that prevent her
from wanting to see you again
and you need to stop making those
mistakes and i'll show you how to get a
date quickly using an
irresistible offer which makes her a lot
more likely to say yes
and i'll show you how to prevent her
from flaking on the date and i'll even
show you a cool little technique that
helps you plant the seed of naughtiness
before the date even starts so she'll
get really excited to hook up with you
on
the date so keep watching my friend
because this guy is going to get you a
lot of dates and make sure to watch into
the end because i'm going to give you a
free texting bonus that's going to take
your text game to the next level
and show you how to get a date with a
woman in less than five
text messages number seven you need to
go for the date quickly
and go for it on a high note when i
review my students texting interactions
i normally see thread after thread line
after line of just
texting back and forth and eventually
she's gonna get
bored because she's just sitting there
texting you
hoping that in the next text you're
gonna ask her out because
it's not in a woman's nature to be so
forward
and ask you out yeah i know we're living
in a post-feminist world
women want to be equal so you think well
women should ask me out
but i hate to break it to you buddy it
just ain't gonna happen
so stop texting back and forth all day
long just waiting for your little shot
of dopamine
and go for the date quickly rather than
later i once taught a classroom of 17
women and i asked them
what is the biggest thing that you don't
like that guys do
when it comes to dating and they all
agreed without a shadow of a doubt that
the biggest thing that turned
them off was that the guy that they're
texting that they're talking to
wouldn't ask them out soon enough women
want us
guys to step up and make the move and
the whole point of texting is not to get
to know her
get that out of your mind that's the
point of a date the point of texting is
to get her
on the date it's kind of like watching
pornography versus actually
having sex with a woman one is very easy
there's no chance of rejection where the
other one is a little bit more difficult
and there's a chance
of rejection but when you actually put
in a little bit more effort and
risk getting rejected the reward is so
much greater and i usually don't send
more than five texts before i go for a
date with a girl in fact when i
usually meet a girl i start leading into
the date on the second or third text
and in the bonus ebook that i'm going to
give you at the end of this video i'm
going to show you exactly how i do that
how i get a date
in less than five texts and how to do it
on a high note so that she's elevated
she's in an emotional state she's
looking at you
as a fun cool flirty guy that she wants
to get to know more
which is the perfect time to go for the
date next is actually get her on the
phone
i mean actually call her i know that's
crazy to say nowadays it seems like
nobody calls each other anymore but
that's exactly why it's gonna set you
apart from everyone else now if you met
her during the daytime which is what we
teach you guys on our live
trainings then she already has a sense
of who you are she's already
felt your presence so getting a date
with her is gonna be really easy
and all you gotta do like i said earlier
is just send her two or three text
messages
but if you meet her online she doesn't
have a sense of who you are
you're a complete stranger she doesn't
have a sense of your vibe your energy or
your masculine
presence so for her to go on a date with
a guy she met off the internet where
all she's seen is some pictures which
could have been photoshopped and read a
little bio which could all be false
is very dangerous for her and a woman's
number one concern
is her safety so if you've been texting
her back and forth for a little while
and
you've tried to go for a date with her
but she just doesn't seem to want to
meet you
the reason may be because she doesn't
feel comfortable enough with you
basically she doesn't trust you yet she
can sense very little about you from
pictures and a bio but she can
tell a ton about you just from the sound
of your voice
which is why the best place to meet
women is in everyday situations
instead of meeting them online because
if she's attracted to you in person and
she feels comfortable in your presence
then getting a date with her is a piece
of cake so
if you met her online then get her on
the phone but there's actually an
art to do that you don't want to just
call her out of the blue you need to
do it in a certain way so that she
doesn't think that you're like really
really
into her and that's the reason you're
calling her so i created an entire video
on how to call girls
in today's day and age and if you're
meeting a lot of girls online then i
want you to watch that video i'll put a
link to it down in the description
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using the compliance ladder to go
for a date this is a simple sales
technique which just means you start
small ask for a small yes first and you
keep building up
bigger and bigger to a bigger and bigger
yes so if you're a car
salesman for example you would just ask
what kind of car do you want you
wouldn't say hey do you want to buy this
car right away is your first question
you'd start with small yeses get them to
say yes and figure out exactly what they
want and what they like
and then eventually you go for the
bigger yes and you get the sale
and really when you think about it the
same is true for any form of escalation
when you first meet somebody because
you're gonna start small and work your
way up
you're not gonna kiss somebody right
away unless you're at a club and you
guys are really drunk
usually first you start with some kind
of formal introduction like a handshake
then there's a little bit of flirting
and then you build up to a kiss and then
you build up to more and more touching
so instead of
saying do you want to hang out sometime
which is a bigger compliance it's asking
for a bigger
yes and it's also just kind of a vague
and boring way of asking her out
instead start with a smaller question
that she's likely to say yes to
ask her if she likes something like do
you like smoothies or do you like
ice cream if she says yes that she likes
smoothies then you could say
do you like getting smoothies with fun
guys and then when she says yes to that
just go to the next step
assume that's her saying yes she wants
to get smoothie with a fun guy like you
and say perfect we should do that what's
your schedule like now to really sweeten
the deal and make her really want to go
make it an irresistible offer make it
sound like something really fun
and just be enthusiastic about going
yourself
i don't mean oversell it or lie about it
in
any way don't do that and i'm also not
saying that you should take her to this
amazing
place like this really fancy or
expensive restaurant or
disneyland in fact that would be a
really awful first date because you'd be
stuck with her for
many hours and what if you're not into
her after the first
20 minutes now you're stuck with her
going on all these rides
plus it's pretty expensive but what i
mean is just pick something that you
like to do
and talk about it with enthusiasm and
i'm not talking about being enthusiastic
or psyched about seeing her because that
could push her away
that could seem like you're just way too
into her too
soon which is kind of creepy i just mean
be excited about going to the place that
you're gonna go to on the date so for
example you could say i know the best
smoothie place in all of chicago
it will change your life or if you tell
her about a place
that she's never heard of you could say
what this place is amazing i can't
believe you haven't heard of it yet
you must be living under a rock with a
nice little l-o-l
so she knows you're being cheeky next is
drip
the deets what i mean by this is a lot
of guys
ask me they say hey i set up a date with
this girl but it's not until next
weekend
and there's like five or six days until
the date
what do i do should i be texting her
every day to like build
comfort and get to know her and make her
like me more
or should i just wait until the date and
just
show up well both of those options
aren't really good if you text her every
day
it seems like you don't have much going
on in your life and you should be a busy
guy
you should have other things that you
need to do such as texting other girls
is one of them and you shouldn't also
just wait to the day of the date to text
her because there's a chance
that she might have forgotten or she
might have made other plans so instead
just tell her some of the details
throughout the week when you first set
up the date don't give her all the
details at once
give her the time the exact meeting
location
you know throughout the week so let's
say you were chatting with her on monday
and you guys confirmed that you guys are
going to hang out together on
saturday then on tuesday or wednesday i
would text her the exact
location where you guys are going to
meet up and then maybe on thursday or
friday
i would text her the exact time and tell
her what time to be ready and just
basically
go back and forth with her and work out
the logistics that's it
there's nothing like fancy about it just
lightly and playfully give her the
details and this will keep
you and the date with you on her mind
throughout the week
now this next thing works really well
especially if she already feels
safe with you make it a surprise don't
tell her
exactly what the date is instead text
her something like
i have a fun idea keep friday night open
and if she asks you what is it you could
say it's a surprise
i can't tell you and then a couple days
later start dripping her some of the
details
something like we'll meet in front of
starbucks on fifth and lincoln and then
we'll walk to the place
that way she knows that you're meeting
somewhere public just in case you know
this is your first date especially if
she met you off the internet that's why
i said for the surprise date
it's better if she has a little bit a
level of comfort with you
you're not a complete stranger from the
internet because
a surprise date might seem a little
scary like you're gonna tell her to come
straight to your place or something like
that don't do that tell her to meet you
somewhere public
so she feels safe you just don't tell
her the exact
details of the date now the reason this
works so well and it
especially works well for a second or
third date because again she has
more comfort with you and she feels safe
with you but the reason it works is
because
most people love a good surprise
in fact they they're thinking about it
all week i wonder where we're gonna go i
wonder what it's gonna be
in fact i did this one time and i took a
girl dancing it was actually to a dance
class
and so on the way there i picked her up
i told her it was a surprise on the way
there she kept asking where are we gonna
go and by the way if a woman keeps
asking you
she could start getting mad if you don't
tell her
so you gotta know when to playfully say
oh
don't worry it'll be a surprise and when
to actually tell her what the surprise
is sometimes you need to do it through
texting if she keeps asking
just tell her what it is you need to
know the difference there
she was just kind of like oh no i didn't
want to go there and i said no don't
worry you're going to have a great time
because you're going with me
and if you can take a girl to something
like that
where she normally wouldn't have a good
time or it's not that exciting
but because she's with you she has a fun
time
and you are the one that makes it
exciting such as doing even normal
things like going shopping with someone
that's one of my favorite things to do
on a date go grocery shopping with her
and make it really fun and playful and
then go back to my place and actually
cook dinner together the point is she
starts to
imagine what her life would be like with
you which of course is very powerful it
doesn't have to be the most exciting
crazy place
in the world you can be the one that
makes it fun and exciting now my next
two techniques are
very bold but also very effective tell
her what to wear
on the date this is especially crucial
if you make it a surprise date
because she doesn't know if you're gonna
go hiking or going to a fancy
club she needs to know what to wear
should she wear
heels or hiking boots pants or a dress
and also takes a lot of pressure off of
her worrying about the outfit to wear
trust me a lot of women will try on 10
or more outfits
before they go on a date with you which
kind of a side note is
never ask a girl what she wants to do on
the date like when you're texting her
don't say
hey let's hang out sometime where do you
want to go
never do that because it puts all the
pressure on her to try to decide on what
you want to do don't do that instead if
you're not really sure
where you want to take her then just
give her a couple options of things that
you like to do and what i like to do is
tell her to wear heels and a sexy dress
because then on the date i know she's
going to feel more
sexy and sexual and sensual and this
really can plant the seed of
sexiness and sensuality on the date plus
for me personally if she tells me
she hates wearing heels and she doesn't
like wearing skirts or dresses
then that's kind of a disqualifier
because i like women who wear
those kind of outfits speaking of
planting the seed
one of my favorite techniques is to
plant
the seed what i mean is basically
solidify the idea that you guys are
going on a date you don't need to call
it a date in fact i don't like calling
it a date
because women a lot of times have bad
connotations to the word
date dates are often boring or awkward
or guys are creepy on dates so i just
call it hanging out
but i want her to still feel that we are
hanging out
like in a man-to-woman romantic or
sensual
sexual dynamic we're not just buddies
going to hang out so one thing i like to
text
before the date is don't get any ideas
but
i might try to steal a kiss
i almost always get a favorable reply
like oh yeah
question mark or really you think so
winky face by the way another way i like
to plant the seed when i first
meet her on the date is i ask her when
does she need to be home and usually
they say oh i can be home anytime
and i'll say something like okay i'll
have you home in the morning
in a cheeky you know joking half-joking
way
she usually will start laughing and say
oh yeah we'll see or oh yeah you wish
but that's great because it plants the
seed that hey
we'll see how this goes maybe we'll have
some fun later who knows
now we're really just scratching the
surface here when it comes to texting to
getting the date so
i want to give you a free bonus my
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which will show you exactly what to text
her if she doesn't reply and even
how to turn her on through text and how
to
steer the texting interaction into a
more sensual
romantic and even sexual level so make
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